How do you explain this kinda shit...

[jer2eydevil88]

I'm a bit new to sex and what exactly turns me on after a recent break up I have a few questions....

First off I'm 20 (as of yesterday – Happy B-day me) male and have been sexually active for the last 8 months.

My last girlfriend was in a relationship with me that she admitted was purely sexual and since she decided to move on… I’ve had a few different hookups however none of them have been the same sexually...

For example I have just not been turned on by the last few girls who I have made out with... not a single one of them was ugly in fact many of them were pretty amazing I could still be hung up on losing the last girlfriend… however the situation is that I just don't get it up for sex with these other girls.....

Any ideas? comments? how to's on this situation?

Something tells me that this isn't unusual and I'm just shitting bricks for no reason... that as time passes I’ll be back…

 

[LadyJeanne]

You can't get it up cause those women don't mean a thing to you. Wait until you meet somone who matters to you and vice versa. Sex is way better then.

 

[jer2eydevil88]

I guess that kinda fits the bill... I'll ponder it some more and if anyone else has any ideas just drop them here....

 

[yoshimitsu]

How was your relationship with the GF? Both sexual and otherwise?

 

[M's girl]

Some men can (and will) put their dicks in just about anything that wears - or is supposed to ( ) wear - skirts... and enjoy themselves too. Then there are other men, the ones most women prefer!, that are a bit more selective. Sounds a bit as if you thought or maybe wished you were in the first category but will end up in the second

Sex is not only about getting off wherever and whenever you can. Like LadyJeanne already said (and she's usually right on), just wait for the right girl to come along. Why is it that men think if girls look like they just walked out of some Miss America contest they should WANT to fuck them? It does not work like that, thank GOD! it's about attraction, hopefully mutual, and about caring for someone. Also it sounds as if you didn't even take the time to get over the last GF. You can fuck the entire female population of your state for all I care... it will NOT help you get over your last GF any sooner. That process has to take place in your MIND first...

 

[Vixandra]

Have to add- if a girl's that easy for you to get in bed, so has she been for probably every other guy with heaven only knows what kind of croch rot (STD's).

Still- it sounds like you want a girl who means more to you then a notch on the bed. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[fgarvb1]

The combination of love and lust is very powerful indeed.

 

[thrity]

I believe it's quite natural, I couldn't get it up for sex with any girl.

It would get bettet if you are familiar with a specific girl.

 

[jer2eydevil88]

Well then...

Well it seems like I'm not crazy or anything and thanks to the posts in this forum I feel like I'll overcome this dilemma and find myself another awesome girlfriend.

I know there is more to life than sex yet I feel compelled to explore the sexual limits of myself especially being in a college atmosphere. True the girls I have been with lately are probably dirty but that is why I keep a steady supply of condoms in my desk drawer. Hell nothing in life is infinate and based on the posts here I will be unable to enjoy this readily available booty anyway.


In any case thanks for the support and I'll be sure to check back here for tips on how to make the next g/f more than just a sexual thing.

 

[MR.GGG]

The emotions of FIRST LOVE and FIRST SEX can be pretty intoxicating. It can also be fixating or in a way like imprinting. You may think it is OK to go to be with these other girls but the feels, smell and taste of your first is still "imprinted" on your brain. There are times when your dick has a whole different set of rules than what b'twixt your ears it seems. You're in bed with some doll and because she doesn't smell or taste like HER it's like your dick goes, "Nope . That's not "her." I am NOT getting up for this ho!"

At your age & level of sexual confidence it may seem pretty devastating. Don't worry about it. Brains are pretty complex and if the combinations don't come to together just right then nuffins gonna happen. If the chemistry ain't there it doesn't matter WHAT a girl looks like. Sometimes it is GOOD to listen to your dick too. "I don't care if she IS a 9.5 I think she's a bitch and she smells funny. I am NOT going in there." No big deal. It may take YOU a while to realize that just getting laid is nice but lacking in any emotion is, in the long run, not very satisfying. It may take your dick a few tries to get with the program too.