How do you behave with a new lover?

[lovetoread]

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

Who makes the first move?

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

Perhaps wilder?

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

 

[MissTaken]

It all depends on what he knows and wants.

Yes. Usually I am a bit shy and waiting for the first move to come from him.

IF things are really good, then I might be a bit more wild

Awkward afterwards? Only on the occasions when I was fucking friends. IT turns into that , "Now what?" pregnant silence.

 

[Wiggles]

I'm silly and just a little flirtatious. I usually won't make the first move.
When making love for the first time, I'll usually adapt myself to my lover. If they want to be in control, I'll let them. If it's their first time I'll try to be understanding and sweet. If they want to be a wild man and do all kinds of ravishing things to me, I'm game.

Usually it's ackward after the relationship is over, but not always.
Sometimes I won't ever see them again( at least up until this point in time).

 

[Sad Man]

And try not to fart!!

 

[alltherage]

First times are so deliously unnerving. I am shy at times and at others very assertive. If the feelings are very strong in me I am almost paralized. It comes from the desire to please and from not truely knowing how too. New lovers are like strange countries to me. I have to find a map so I know what and where I am going. Thats the fun of it. The discovery.

If i have set myself to be a certain way I find I act the part at least at first. If I don't the person feels somehow cheated. For example, if i am with a woman and she is not experienced and she has the impression that I am I had damn well better lead the dance.

Yes, unfortunately, I have woken with that omg what the hell did you do now feeling. Thank god that has not happened for a long long time.

 

[daughter]

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

Apprehensive, self-conscious, nervous, anxious, and hopin' like hell it goes okay.

Who makes the first move?

He does, but I make it clear I'm interested.

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first

Yep. Yep. Yep.

Perhaps wilder?

Not since I've been sober.

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

I am myself and that means nervous and reserve initially. I don't know what he expects. I'd like to think he's hoping I'm comfortable, relaxed as I can be, and he's glad he's with me.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

Well, my last first time was a year and a half ago. It wasn't awkward. It was beyond anything I had ever experienced. I wanted to cry it felt so right.

By the look of things, I won't be having this kind of first again.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Smilodon]

Daughter, that's lovely. You are very lucky!

I have also been lucky in that I have never felt awkward with a new lover after the first time. In fact, that's the time I love most - so amazingly intimate, snuggled together in bed naked, sweaty and still panting!

Smiley

 

[Kandi]

first time

it's all so individual, depending on the chemistry,
of the moment, and the people. but there's so
much juice in that initial discovery period, it's soooooooooo
yummy. i guess the most important thing is to be yourself.
don't try to be what he or she wants you to be, cause
in the end that will only backfire. be yourself, and be
happy being yourself. from that either it will happen
and be good, or it won't, at that will be good, too.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

I'd be the nicest me posible but still being the real me and not some phony.

Who makes the first move?

Probobly her, i'm not a leader i'm a fallower

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

I would be shy, polite, and I don't know what constrained means.
I would also be gental, curious.

Perhaps wilder?

Most likely no

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

No fucking clue.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

never been at the begining much less the end.

 

[Scabbers]

How do you behave?

Who makes the first move?

It's best as a duet, but I'll lead, if necessary

Are you shy, constrained, and polite at first?

Shy: Not if we've gotten this far. Constrained: At first. (Save the handcuffs till later.) Polite: Always.

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

I always aim to please, but my aim is true.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

Just when I'm standing below her window in the rain, begging to be taken back.

 

[bluntforcemama]

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

Giggly, nervous, sometimes I feel like I'm about to throw up because the butterflies in my stomach are making me batty. But I've only slept with two people, so I don't have a lot of experience.

Who makes the first move?

It depends, usually him, but I've made the first move, too, when I really want him and could care less about what he'll think.

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first? Perhaps wilder?

Yes, I'm shy usually, unless I've had too much to drink.

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave??

I behave like a shy female, usually, or else if I've had a few drinks, I'm less inhibited. Actually, passion makes me uninhibited.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

Not so far, but it does take a bit of getting used to. The first time I made love to Juspar, I couldn't sleep. His smell was on me (how wonderful it was, too), his touch, his voice.... *sigh*

 

[TN_Vixen]

I usually like the guy to make the first move... and once I've been warmed up, there's no holding anything back.

 

[lovetoread]

To answer my own questions.

Who makes the first move?

He did.

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

I was so shy,and so nervous. He made me feel wanted and that soon went away.

Perhaps wilder?

Not me.

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

I was myself. I did however go beyond anything I have ever done before.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

It wasnt for me. It was a wonderful feeling being in his arms.

 

[wkdclwn]

The answers from me

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave? Extremely nervous. Trying to be cool under the collar, but it is obvious I`m not.

Who makes the first move? I have never made the first move. I am to damn shy to make a move.

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first? Always shy and restrained at first.

Perhaps wilder? I am always a little wild as far as being out with people. Yet very cautious when alone with them.

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave? Like I normally behave. Once I see there is no turning back I am myself.

And when it is over is it ever awkward? Never awkward, have been some of those I should not have done that type moments, but not really awkward.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Yes Alltherage, first times are so deliously unnerving..... but ever so sensual.....

 

[Desdemona]

First time with new lover

I like for him (or her) to make the first move. After that, I participate enthusiastically. I love the feeling of exploring someone new. Only on rare occasions has it ever been awkward afterwards.

 

[BigDawg69]

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

I'm pretty much a dork so almost any sort of fumbling behavior can be expected at first. Nervousness can be your worst enemy, but it also slows me down and makes me think more and be more detail oriented.

Who makes the first move?

Shy guy here. Although I have made the first move on rare occaisions, I'm pretty sure I've lost a couple gilrs for lack of making the move

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

Polite of course. I am a good southern gentleman afterall!

Perhaps wilder?

Only wilder depending on the quantity of alcohol coursing through my veins. No on the second, third and so on . . . it's gonna be a wild ride!

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

I tend to adapt to the situation and to my partner.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

No awkwardness yet . . .

 

[Vanyel_Ashke]

I try very hard to make her feel at ease.
There are times when it just *feels* right for something to happen.
If we are going to end up at my house, I have a plate of finger foods already made up and bring it and some wine out while we watch a movie.
Turn the lights down low and after helping myself to a few, I pick one she has not tried yet and offer it to her.

Sometimes I'll bring it to her lips and see if she bites it, or lifts her hand to take it herself. That is an indication to me of how to proceed from there.
A great item to have is strawberries and a little whipped cream. I had a woman tell me she almost creamed her panties when I took a bit of whipped cream off her lips with my finger, then licked it off.

 

[PHANTOM5875]

How do I behave with a new lover?...........

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

I try to be as comforting and attentive as I can. They know by this time how I feel about them. I try to get them to open up to me and let me know what feels good and what they really like while making love.


Who makes the first move?

It actually varies. Sometimes me, sometime her. Each partner is unique in that respect. I personally LIKE sexually aggresive women who can and will show what they want.

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

Actually, I have always been very comfortable with women and I love to please and explore. I usually try NOT to be too agressive until I am sure they are okay with that. I CAN get very passionate during love making so I do constrain myself a little initially depending on my partner.

Perhaps wilder?

No, I usually get a little wilder as we become more comfortable with one another.

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

No, I try to just be me. It's hard to keep up a certain mode of behaviour time after time is that's not the real you and I just don't see the point either.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

I can honestly say I have never felt awkward after making love. I HAVE felt awkward after the first kiss with someone I'm attracted to and finding the kiss like a cold fish. I had a girl I was crazy about when I was in college and she would always pucker up hard and tight. Her lips would disappear into my mouth and I found that a little creepy. I saw her years later with her husband and saw her kiss the same way. Good thing we all like things a little different.

 

[Ree]

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

I tend to be shy until I am sure that the interest is there and I am not going to make an ass out of myself.

Who makes the first move?

I was not the type to make the first move but I am practicing ALOT, with this one individual, and I am getting better at it. (Not getting anywhere but to the practice field but oh well.)

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

Shy and constrained because I am afraid that if I let all my secrets out of the bag, it will "scare" him.

Perhaps wilder?

Nope

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

I am always myself and I would hope that is who they would want to be making love/having sex with.

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

Nope, sex with no strings shouldn't be awkward and if you are making love then it shouldn't be either.

 

[Ravenloft]

You have a person who is about to be your lover for the first time. How do you behave?

Who makes the first move?

Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

Perhaps wilder?

When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?

And when it is over is it ever awkward?

I was shy and nervous, but she solved all that with one kiss. I havn't made love all that much in my life, so I assume, when I do, I act just like myself.

Afterwards? Awkward? Far from it.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[fallon2]

My Rules

1) ALWAYS look them in the eye

2) LISTEN, listen, listen

3) Never bullshit. That way you can always look them in the eye and in the mirror the next morning.

4) LISTEN!

 

[Elizabeth]

Who makes the first move?

Usually, he would have to . I really have a hard time making the first move the first time.


Are you shy,constrained,and polite at first?

A little shy, yes. I really need to get a feeling for what they like and dislike.




When making love/having sex that first time do you behave like you normally would or rather like this person expects you to behave?



During sex..there is little I can do to act differently than I normally do. I am rather noisy..I'm always worried that a new lover won't like that.
And when it is over is it ever awkward?

Not usually.

 

[christophe]

I cant honestly say I have a new lover...I have been with the same lady for 12 years....my wife that is ...But it is nice to keep things new and exciting, and never get into a comfortable mode!