How do you ask

[thebrokenheartedfool]

Ok I am shy and its different now well in my life its different its been a while since I was looking and I don't think I am really ready to date again but I just wanted some input. Like I said its been 4 years since I looked at a woman and wondered if she was seeing someone or anything how do you ask a woman? I know the strait forward " I think you are attractive and I would like to get to know you better are you seeing anyone? " is direct and flat out opens up so a woman who isn't interested or is seeing someone can just say thanks but yes I am. Its just not me but if it is the most honest and the best way I can deal.

Anyway thats what I am asking so if you can help please if not have fun with the thread I am easy going.

 

[Manhunter]

Introduce yourself and be honest with your approach. I liked the way you put it.
"I think you are attractive and I would like to get to know you better are you seeing anyone? "

 

[Ice Princess]

I agree with Manhunter. Being straightforward about it, the way you suggested, is a good way to go. The corny pick-up lines that guys use get them nowhere (and it's a mystery to me why they keep trying them -- does any woman ever say "why yes, my shirt would look better on your bedroom floor! Let's go"?).

Use any natural way of opening a conversation that you can -- ask about a book she's reading, ask her if you can buy her a beer, or just walk over and introduce yourself -- but just be yourself and don't try any special stunts to get her attention. Your instinct is right about how to handle it.



edited for early-morning spelling

 

[thebrokenheartedfool]

Thanks ladys. I don't really think of it as a pic up line just a way to find out about them.

We all should have some kind of sign you wear red happy, blue looking and yellow not really happy and could be looking. That would make life easier Maby I should market a neclace that is unisex and would answer lifes questions like a billboard around your neck to advertise you status. ha haha hahahahaha

Ok gotta get some coffee again thanks IP and MH

 

[Manhunter]

Let us know how it goes.


Also just a little question..
Since you have only posted 10 posts as "thebrokenheartedfool'

Are you going to be here a while?
Do you think down the road you'll still feel like thebrokenheartedfool?

Just asking 'cuz I was going to be "TooOld" then my sister suggested I wouldn't feel like that later. She was right

 

[thebrokenheartedfool]

I have been lurking for a while Manhunter and I do think I will be here for a while Thats the way I felt when I signed up so thats how it came out and I know I won't always be that person but right now I am.

I will let you know how it goes but I really don't plan on even really looking for a little while I honestly just feel blah right now. I mean the usual urges yes but I don't think I could really care for someone right now and its just not me to have a one nighter. I can go along time without sex really but love is what I crave. I was just wondering because if I get dumbstuck by someone I would like to be able to speak and not stutter the first thing that comes out of my mouth. ( I am not the most elequent speaker when I meet someone ) esp if I am attracted to them.

 

[Manhunter]

Don't worry about that. If being a little ackward when meeting someone.. that can be quite endearing Especially when it's real.
And of course don't think you have to rush it. Being WITH someone isn't always the answer.

 

[Different Guy]

Also it can make a difference how you meet this person. Me and my current partner met on a bus suprisingly lol! I had been out skating with my mates and when she got on the bus she was there with her cousin.

My friend knew her cousin so we sat down next to them and started chatting. I was pretty much dazed at the beauty of this girl and also, 'thought' she was keen on me from the brief chat we had so when we got home I asked my friend to get her number from her cousin.

Sure enough I called up and said I was the guy infront of you on the bus, I really enjoyed chatting with you, would you like to meet up again?

She had actually taken an interest in me and was so delighted this stranger called her up, we swapped numbers and email addresses and got to know each other better.

A month later we met up on a date and we've been in love ever since. Quite a happy story!.....and I've just told the entire Lit. board how I met my partner lol

My point... if this person you like is someone you know then you can take your time to find out the best way of asking them. Suprise them by getting their number from one of their friends and calling him/her. However, if it's a first time meeting and probably last, you will have to do something about it then.

 

[hotNnasty]

Ok I am shy and its different now well in my life its different its been a while since I was looking and I don't think I am really ready to date again but I just wanted some input. Like I said its been 4 years since I looked at a woman and wondered if she was seeing someone or anything how do you ask a woman? I know the strait forward " I think you are attractive and I would like to get to know you better are you seeing anyone? " is direct and flat out opens up so a woman who isn't interested or is seeing someone can just say thanks but yes I am. Its just not me but if it is the most honest and the best way I can deal.

Anyway thats what I am asking so if you can help please if not have fun with the thread I am easy going.

Hi Brokenhearted

I think you got some good advice here.
Tell us a little bit about yourself....... Where do you go to meet someone?
Sounds like you're the quiet type.
Have you talked to many people around lit?
What are your interests?

Nosey aren't I lollll I don't mean to be

 

[hotNnasty]

Different Guy,

How cool! Goes to show ya ....... you never know

 

[Lust Engine]

Re: Re: How do you ask

Nosey aren't I lollll I don't mean to be

But a darling nose you do have, m'dear HnN!

 

[hotNnasty]

Smothers LE in kisses
Hey! I was going to go and read a book. But you make me smile

 

[thebrokenheartedfool]

wait you ar hotNnasty not hotNnosey

I have talked to a few people here but I lurked for a while.
I agree and when I am ready to try to meet someone I will use it but I am not ready ( still on the rolercoster ). I don't really go to bars much nor do I go to the clubs ( few near hear anyway ) The x I met in line at a fast food place. I usually am quiet at first but when I spend a few min getting to know someone I do ok. With my work I deal with alot of different kinds of people. I like a simple life in the country. I gave up alot for the ex and I am trying to find myself again. I don't want to jump out too soon and then fall flat on my face. I guess I just want to have a life. I haven't had anyone to do anything with for about a year and its hard to get out alone so who knows life is too confusing I guess I want to meet someone who I can go out and have some fun with but I dont want to jump into a relationship. I mean life is short and it has been passing me by for a year while the ex jumped into it with both feet and just forgot to tell me. OK its time to get to work.

Thanks everyone

 

[Lust Engine]

Timing is everything thebrokenheartedfool. You'll know when it's time for you to jump back into a relationship. And when it's the right one, it'll seem so easy when you look back on it, it'll almost be laughable. You seem very sincere & a very nice person and I don't think you'll have too many troubles finding what you're looking for. Just make yourself available by being you and not trying to be some phony.

Good luck!

 

[hotNnasty]

Timing is everything thebrokenheartedfool. You'll know when it's time for you to jump back into a relationship. And when it's the right one, it'll seem so easy when you look back on it, it'll almost be laughable. You seem very sincere & a very nice person and I don't think you'll have too many troubles finding what you're looking for. Just make yourself available by being you and not trying to be some phony.

Good luck!

I agree with LE. No matter what ..... enjoy yourself

Oh, and thanks for not thinkin' I was nosey

 

[thebrokenheartedfool]

hey no problem hotNnasty If you don't ask you will never know
"And knoledge is half the battle "( if you can tell me from what 80s cartoon thats from you will win a prize well the first person will ) but hopefully spelling is not the second half

LE I hope your prediction is correct and hopefully we will both be here when it does. I will share if so.

I am thinking of taking Manhunters advice and changing my name when LE write it out I thought that kinda sucks so I am trying to think of one but am not having any luck. any suggestions anyone?

 

[horny_giraffe]

I'd like to add one thing about dating. I think that it's best played as a numbers game--which is to say, don't spend your time mooning over one woman, trying to convince her to like you. If a woman doesn't seem to like you or if you feel that you've screwed up your chances with her through some oddball mistake or crazy experiment, forget her and move on to the next possibility. There are millions of single women out there. Plus, you get plenty of chances to experiment with your opening lines if you don't insist on wooing a particular woman. Of course, I'm the sort of guy that finds most women passably attractive.

 

[Manhunter]

Hola,

I just stopped by to see how you were doing.

Lots of good advice!

A name change? hmmm That's such a personal thing. Could be from your favorite super hero, or book, or movie. Hmmm favorite pass time, Endless choices

But please, when you pick one come back here and let us know it's you

 

[freakygirl]

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I am thinking of taking Manhunters advice and changing my name when LE write it out I thought that kinda sucks so I am trying to think of one but am not having any luck. any suggestions anyone?

if and when you pick your new name.. PM Laurel. She can change your name.. and you won't lose your posting total (not that you have a lot.. but still.. You don't have to start over)

 

[Lust Engine]

if and when you pick your new name.. PM Laurel. She can change your name.. and you won't lose your posting total (not that you have a lot.. but still.. You don't have to start over)

Great idea freakygurl! And come back with something short, sweet, uplifting and a little more upbeat! Admittedly my fingers darn near cramped typing in your name earlier! A change in attitude and a change in names on Lit would do you a world of good. Again the best of luck to you!

 

[hotNnasty]

if and when you pick your new name.. PM Laurel. She can change your name.. and you won't lose your posting total (not that you have a lot.. but still.. You don't have to start over)

That's so cool freakygurl. I didn't know that could happen.




Trollin' LE ---> http://pages.prodigy.net/rogerlori1/emoticons/peep1.gif

 

[thebrokenheartedfool]

After wednesday I will work on a new one and see about it. I have to finish the big D and in a little while I think I will be ready to focus on a new name, I just picked up a job out of town for a month and I could't pass it up. So I will be spiraticly on for a while I think a change of venue will do me good for a little while and hey the money will help too. Thanks everyone.

CD

 

[hotNnasty]

Good luck and hope to see you back on the threads

 

[thebrokenheartedfool]

As of 3:45 today I am not the brokenheartedfool any longer. I am the divorcedfool hey its shorter I am still hurt but it feels great to know she cant hurt me any longer aside from that I think I can come up with a better one. Mabe I should be thinking more upbeat well I will look just though I would say its over legaly now and now back to work

CD

 

[Manhunter]

Hi CD
Now you have a new road ahead of you. Enjoy it.