How do I

[lil_alice18]

How do I share with some one my deepest and darkest secrets?

When do know it's ok to trust someone with that?


Do you just tell it all up front ?
Do you wait see if what you like and they like are enough?



Any thoughts and or suggestion will be appreciated

 

[robinh00d]

Internet gives you a good cover to share your secrets as anonymously as you would like them to be... there are several blogs where people put their views without revealing their 'real world' identity.

Forums is a good place to start posting few and see the response and reactions, however be cautious... for your own safety.

 

[hornypantyboy]

Robinh00d is right. The internet really helps with these things. I've told people some things on here that I have never told anyone in person.

Still, getting to know people a little bit first doesn't hurt, especially if you want to continue chatting after your big reveal. Don't want to scare anyone off.

 

[OpenMouth]

Just post some innocuous stuff on here, look for who replies and what they say. Feel your way and take your time.

You can always PM me, you don't have to tell me everything.

 

[downforce]

Robinh00d is right. The internet really helps with these things. I've told people some things on here that I have never told anyone in person.

Still, getting to know people a little bit first doesn't hurt, especially if you want to continue chatting after your big reveal. Don't want to scare anyone off.

Great advice here. Thats exactly what I did. I have been so deep in the closet for years, and so nervous about people seeing me that I would only find hookups when I was out of town, so I knew there was no chance of being discovered. When I finally got to where I wanted to acknowledge and reveal my bisexuality, I started here. I would comment on posts, and watched peoples reactions like a hawk.

Admittedly, the members of this forum are a bit biased about such things, but such is life.

Since then, Ive gotten more comfortable about things, and have actually came out to 3 friends. Friends that I knew would be accepting and nonjudgmental, but personal friends nonetheless.

 

[Emmcee20]

PM sent.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

earned

Trust must be earned. Small, tiny steps before major leaps.

 

[lil_alice18]

Thank you all.
Sonud like some advise.

I will be carful on how and when I share somethings.


I like the idea of looking a post and read how others have responded to get a feel of thoughts.
im kind of shy so I don't send out many PM s

 

[KUJACK]

How do I share with some one my deepest and darkest secrets?

When do know it's ok to trust someone with that?


Do you just tell it all up front ?
Do you wait see if what you like and they like are enough?



Any thoughts and or suggestion will be appreciated

This forum will allow you to admit anything you want. No one will know who you really are. It's like therapy for free. Letyourself go, be free to say what you feel. You will be relieved of guilt. However, some trolls may make fun of you, don't worry, many others will come to your defense. Choosethe right forum, the General Board is the worst for trolls. Fetish and GLTG boards are more forgiving.

 

[chargergirl]

How do I share with some one my deepest and darkest secrets?

When do know it's ok to trust someone with that?


Do you just tell it all up front ?
Do you wait see if what you like and they like are enough?



Any thoughts and or suggestion will be appreciated

Just PLEASE be careful of sharing personal information!

Welcome to Fetish & Sexuality Central!

 

[Fatwa_Morgana]

Sharing your deepest secrets is always a leap of faith. You might be accepted, but you might be rejected. You have to accept that possibility from the start.

But don't be afraid of being rejected by others. If you don't take the chance, you are rejecting yourself !! And that is the worst thing of all. Morgana

 

[mnbreastluver]

That's the best part of lit. You can share things that you couldn't tell anyone in real life. If someone's not into who cares. I would be careful with sharing your personal information though. Enjoy Lit

 

[Prince Albert]

You have gotten a lot of good advice. Just be careful & get to "know" the person a bit.

 

[lil_alice18]

Thank you all for the advise here and the PMs.
I am not on much but I will respond to all of them.

I really do appreciate all the advise. It has made me feel a little better about things.
I think I just trusted to soon and I need to learn from that.


I think it's harder for submissive due to the fact we are expect to give trust to show respect in some ways.
LOL Well that statement could start it's own thread.

 

[klippert]

How do I share with some one my deepest and darkest secrets?

When do know it's ok to trust someone with that?


Do you just tell it all up front ?
Do you wait see if what you like and they like are enough?



Any thoughts and or suggestion will be appreciated

These questions can only be answered by you...NOT by a bunch of Pop-Psychologist.

 

[lil_alice18]

These questions can only be answered by you...NOT by a bunch of Pop-Psychologist.

Yes you are right but some advise and guidance can never hurt.
I am smart enough to take what sounds right to me.

Thank you for all of your thoughts and comments

 

[StrongMaster7]

Ah, one of life's great questions.

Would you rather be hated for who you are or loved for who you are not?

It's bitterly sad when you are attracted to someone and then, as you get to know them, find that you are not compatible.

I guess it would be better to just randomly get to know people, perhaps online, until you discover a compatible soul and then see if attraction develops.

Let me know if you figure this one out.

 

[litsecretaffair]

Secrets are a specialty of mine... I have many of my own, but many many more from others. Pretty much as long as it's legal and you don't need a shot afterwards, almost every secret I've been told was delicious. I collect them... I think I might have a secret fetish...

They are all safe and anonymous, and without judgement. Many have opened my eyes.

lsa

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

That depends, on who you are going to tell. If you are telling somebody something in person, and you think you like this person and it may lead to a relationship. Get it all out on the table before it gets to far.

Been in many relationships where we were both compatible in every way except sex and fetishes. Get the secrets out, let the other person think things through, talk , talk, talk about your sexuality and their sexuality. Now the other person may come back and say a certain thing or things is a deal breaker, then you will have to decide how to proceed. Have had several women just dissappear after I put what I like out on the table. A few have called me disgusting freaks, but in reality, I like what I like, why should I change who I am? You have to be happy with yourself first.

Hope this helps!

 

[Prince Albert]

These questions can only be answered by you...NOT by a bunch of Pop-Psychologist.

Actually am a trained psychotherapist with a license, 28 years of experience.