How do I prepare to bottom for the first time

[bjhouston]

I've been wanting to hook up with a guy for quite some time and now I have a chance. He's staying in a hotel nearby this weekend and we've done a bunch of sexy chatting about what we're going to do. The idea is that we will both go down on each other and he really wants to rim and fuck me. I'm completely down with it and want him to fuck me so bad, but I don't really know how to prep as a bottom. This isn't the sexiest post to reply to, but I promise to share the details if you help me out. I would prefer to not have to buy any obvious cleaning materials...

 

[Cumalong]

The obvious is to completely enema out as close to meeting time as possible, and I mean completely clean. Take a good shower just before meeting, then, if possible, both take another very good shower before getting down to business.

I want to smell fresh clean skin everywhere, and wouldn't want any unwanted surprise when entering from the rear, or anything else. I know some people are different and like just the opposite, but I want clean, clean, clean.....and fresh smelling.

Bring plenty of lube, relax and want to be entered. Make sure he is caring and goes very slow if this is your first. If he wants just to ram you, get off, then send you on your way, find someone else. A caring person will take their time, talk to you, ask you how it feels, and have you tell them when you are ready for more.

There will be discomfort, and nerves, but with the right person you can have a very enjoyable time. With the wrong person, you will never want to again.

I'm saying this assuming you want to take it easy and have a gentle time. If you are of the mindset of being taken and used hard, do the opposite of the latter parts of what I said.

Don't forget the details.

 

[tahoechunk]

Beautiful.......

 

[JaneRose65]

Looks like you got some great advice, so I'll just add that in general: just live in the moment. He might also have some nerves with a new partner. Relax and just enjoy each other's prescense.

Hope you have a great time (and provide some details)

 

[tahoechunk]

Yes details...

 

[gunthernehmen]

Determine ahead of time how far you are willing to go and stop there.

If you're ok with getting rimmed but not fucked, don't let him fuck you.

If you're ok with getting fucked with a condom, don't let him go in without one.

If you're ok with bareback, well then there's nothing to stop for

 

[interwebs]

the advice here is already great i will add one thing i would say communication there will be discomfort as it is your first time so that why communication is important as you need to make it as fun as possible

 

[Tiger1978]

The obvious is to completely enema out as close to meeting time as possible, and I mean completely clean. Take a good shower just before meeting, then, if possible, both take another very good shower before getting down to business.

I want to smell fresh clean skin everywhere, and wouldn't want any unwanted surprise when entering from the rear, or anything else. I know some people are different and like just the opposite, but I want clean, clean, clean.....and fresh smelling.

Bring plenty of lube, relax and want to be entered. Make sure he is caring and goes very slow if this is your first. If he wants just to ram you, get off, then send you on your way, find someone else. A caring person will take their time, talk to you, ask you how it feels, and have you tell them when you are ready for more.

There will be discomfort, and nerves, but with the right person you can have a very enjoyable time. With the wrong person, you will never want to again.

I'm saying this assuming you want to take it easy and have a gentle time. If you are of the mindset of being taken and used hard, do the opposite of the latter parts of what I said.

Don't forget the details.

All this.

RELAX. But also be 100% sure that this is a guy who knows what he's doing and will be good to you.

 

[Naughty69M2M]

The obvious is to completely enema out as close to meeting time as possible, and I mean completely clean. Take a good shower just before meeting, then, if possible, both take another very good shower before getting down to business.

I want to smell fresh clean skin everywhere, and wouldn't want any unwanted surprise when entering from the rear, or anything else. I know some people are different and like just the opposite, but I want clean, clean, clean.....and fresh smelling.

Bring plenty of lube, relax and want to be entered. Make sure he is caring and goes very slow if this is your first. If he wants just to ram you, get off, then send you on your way, find someone else. A caring person will take their time, talk to you, ask you how it feels, and have you tell them when you are ready for more.

There will be discomfort, and nerves, but with the right person you can have a very enjoyable time. With the wrong person, you will never want to again.

I'm saying this assuming you want to take it easy and have a gentle time. If you are of the mindset of being taken and used hard, do the opposite of the latter parts of what I said.

Don't forget the details.

Great advice. Relax, go slow the first time. Enjoy the experience. If the discomfort is too much then stop.

 

[bjhouston]

Thanks for all the advice. Just one question, I have played a lot with multiple items (fingers, dildos, cucumbers, bananas, zuchini, etc.) And all I've ever used for lube was my own spit. Should I still assume that the first time will be painful? I was hoping he could go slow at first and then have his way with me... don't wait too long to reply... we meet tonight at 10:00.

 

[JaneRose65]

It might feel uncomfortable at first, but you should get used to it. Just make sure you're both on the same page.

And lube is always your best friend

 

[gunthernehmen]

Thanks for all the advice. Just one question, I have played a lot with multiple items (fingers, dildos, cucumbers, bananas, zuchini, etc.) And all I've ever used for lube was my own spit. Should I still assume that the first time will be painful? I was hoping he could go slow at first and then have his way with me... don't wait too long to reply... we meet tonight at 10:00.

Well then this won't help you!

Astroglide. Pick it up at any CVS. Likely most any pharmacy.

You KNOW you have to come back and tell us how it went, right?

 

[bjhouston]

Ok, it was amazing. Even better than I had fantasized it would be. The feel of a cock in my mouth... so fucking hot, but not nearly as hot as having another man press his cock into me and blow his load inside my ass. It felt so good and it really turned me on. I don't think I will be sleeping tonight. I just had some more of his cum drip out down my leg...

 

[JaneRose65]

Congrats on your experience. Hope you get to meet up with him again soon

 

[gunthernehmen]

...I just had some more of his cum drip out down my leg...

Well I'm jealous...