How do I last longer?

[wisec715]

I'm thinking there might be a few threads on this, so if you can just point me in the right direction, that would be great. If not, and if anyone has any insight, let me know.

I'm in my late twenties. I've been with the same girl for quite some time. We have a decent sex life. It's probably a lot less then most, probably every couple of weeks.

Anyways, I just don't last long. I want to make her happy, and her pleasure is honestly the most important thing to me. I love fingering her and going down on her. Sometimes I think that turns me on so much, that as soon as I get inside her, I cum. How can I do all that, and still have good sex that lasts?

We try taking our time, we try different things, but it just doesn't last as long as we both wish. She's not unsatisfied, but I know she'd love for sex to last longer.

Let me know!

 

[Noor]

Make her cum through oral and/or fingers, then back off and cuddle for a bit, and then start up again. Its kind of a control thing, you go to the edge and come back a few times, and build up longer times.
You know in some ways as long as she is sexually satisfied, it really doesn't matter, most women don't come from intercourse alone.

just my crabby opinion tonight.

study tantra, its all about not coming

 

[wisec715]

Usually when I make her cum from oral or what not, shes so turned on that she really wants me inside of her.

Is there anything I could do on my own to help me last longer? Like when I'm masturbating, I try the start and stop thing, and that works...but not when I'm with her.

 

[SweetErika]

Male kegels (if your PC muscle is strong enough and you're really in tune with your body, you may be able to have multiple orgasms without ejaculating), condoms, changing positions, distraction...

 

[mynameisben]

Two words: Hose clamp.

 

[Noor]

Two words: Hose clamp.

yeah just think those two words if you fear you might come "hose clamp" LOL

Think of baseball, calculus...

 

[jiimmmy]

Keep saying to yourself.. "Spock in pigtails. Spock in pigtails"

 

[thirty]

It's common for men you age since your penis is too sensitive, you will be getting better and last longer some time later.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

I'm thinking there might be a few threads on this, so if you can just point me in the right direction, that would be great. If not, and if anyone has any insight, let me know.

I'm in my late twenties. I've been with the same girl for quite some time. We have a decent sex life. It's probably a lot less then most, probably every couple of weeks.

Anyways, I just don't last long. I want to make her happy, and her pleasure is honestly the most important thing to me. I love fingering her and going down on her. Sometimes I think that turns me on so much, that as soon as I get inside her, I cum. How can I do all that, and still have good sex that lasts?

We try taking our time, we try different things, but it just doesn't last as long as we both wish. She's not unsatisfied, but I know she'd love for sex to last longer.

Let me know!

Think Cuckold. Then you can clean-up when the bull is done.

 

[Steffi200051]

Switch positions! Turn her over, like on her tummy then wait a few seconds before going back for more. My boyfriend likes to switch five or six times.

 

[SWFL_Wordslinger]

Switch posistions, change up your pattern and speed of thrusting, count your thrusts (gives you something to think about other than how good her pussy feels wrapped around your cock). If you're getting close, stop and do something else; kiss her, explore her body, go down on her, anything to break up the rythym and let you cool off a little. Maybe try a cock ring too.

This stuff works for me. If I'm just balls to the wall so to speak I don't last very long at all, but breaking it up like that can turn it into a nice long romp.

 

[Patchouli]

if you know you're going to have sex you could try masturbating a while beforehand. i've had friends that say that makes them last longer during the act.

 

[silverwhisper]

in all seriousness: masturbate that morning. you'll find you last a whole lot longer that way. it works for me.

also, realize that it's possible for most men to be multiorgasmic. give yourself a break after the first one, but do a few other things (hands, tongue, etc) for a while. you should find you're ready to go again about 5-10 mins later.

ed

 

[wisec715]

Thanks everyone!

I've tried some different things, one of which is masturbating before hand.

I've always masturbated quite a bit, but now I make sure to do it closer to the act of sex, and that seems to work well.

 

[PurrfectMoon]

I am currently in almost an identical relationship.

Three things seem to help;

1. A cockring

2. Masterbating before hand

3. An incredibly small amount of "last longer" gel, I believe its kinda like a numbing agent. For example, "Up all Night" by Pure Romance is one we tried. Only, I would definitely say..Use very little. Otherwise, it tends to make you not feel much at all.