How do i get past this?

[NomadLady]

THANK YOU!
Can i ask if there was anything in particular that helped you to let go of it?

With one relationship, he had nerve damage from a fall off a roof that impeded his ability to orgasm. Early on I got very frustrated not being able to get him off orally to the point that he cried....I let it go immediately!!!!!

I also bought him an aneros toy for more prostate stimulation and it helped tremendously!!!!!

 

[NomadLady]

THANK YOU!
Can i ask if there was anything in particular that helped you to let go of it?

When I was married it was also a constant problem....in 14 years I might have made him cum from oral half a dozen times or so, but with intercourse he suffered a severe case of PE so I got really good at practicing my oral skills but never got the kind of orgasms from intercourse that I discovered were possible until I got divorced!!!!

 

[leyna]

I wish i could say, he can from this, but not from that, but really it's a nebulous moving target.
The worst is when i can feel the rising, but then it subsides.

 

[redhot]

I fluctuate on this, too.

When I was on anti-anxilotic meds, I could go forever without cumming. My ex-wife, when we first met, was in hog heaven [no pun intended, I'm not that mean?]. However, after the 'screw as much as possible' phase of our relationship, it started getting on her nerves. What was even worse, was that I could masturbate and cum quicker than via intercourse...though it still did take some time. Once I did get done the meds though, [job related stress] I was back to myself again. Much quicker to the point and she loved it too. N
Now I have elevated blood pressure and that alone, or in combination with these meds, along with unhealthy eating have given me back some of the similar effects of not cuming quick enoughwith my current woman.

at first, she too was enjoying my stamina. However, she does get tired and sore. Add to this thatI use to hold off on cumming becauase I thought marathon sex was what every woman wanted. And, i just love the sounds, feelings, and expressions she makes when she cums [sometimes its fun seeing how many times I can get her to orgasm--braggin rights] While she does appreciate my extended play from time to time, she'd much rather have me cum more in sync with her. In fact, everyonce in a while I cum so quickly it surprises both of us and she gets a huge satisfaction that she has the ability to do that to me. Which she used to doubt she was any good. Couldn't be further from the truth. Hope this helped a little.

 

[GrimsPet]

Sounds like tantric sex without trying.

Funny, I think I was reading your mind on that comment.


OK I've dealt with this before.

Back in 2003 I dated a man for about five months who just could not cum during sex. We tried switching positions, tried different stimulation, and it just wouldn't work. It turns out his problem was that when he would masturbate he would stroke himself so damn hard and he was so conditioned to it, that uber-hard stroking was the only thing that could get him off. So when he did finally have sex, there just wasn't enough hard stimulation to get him off. He would stroke himself so hard at times that I swore he was trying to squeeze his cock off his body. I watched him once and after researching as well figured out that was the problem. The solution - which I never got to see the end product of - was he stopped masturbating and left it so that all his stimulation came from sex.

 

[gregor2001us]

One thing to keep in mind is that circumcised guys generally have a harder time reaching climax. They are simply missing an important part of their anatomy. This becomes more pronounced typically as they get past the age of 40.

Just something to keep in mind.

Regards

 

[Somehowyou]

One thing to keep in mind is that circumcised guys generally have a harder time reaching climax. They are simply missing an important part of their anatomy. This becomes more pronounced typically as they get past the age of 40.

Just something to keep in mind.

Regards

Also guys on Cialis. Man, I take a hit of Cialis and I am so hard I cant even blink! I could cut a diamond with my cock. I also have a much tougher time acheiving orgasm....One more thing...I dont ever tell my partner I am taking them

 

[leyna]

I guess it just makes me confused because the severity of it waxes and wanes. Sometimes he cums after just a few minutes and i'm like WTF? (LOL - hypocrite much?) Other times, it takes days or weeks and I begin to feel frustrated. (Hey i wonder if there's like a cosmic connection and that i'm picking up on HIS frustration)
Thankfully, the three week embargo ended explosively last night with many, many aftershocks (i have NEVER seen that before)
but i guess i still have to get myself to a place where my own value is not dependent upon his O.

 

[starting2live]

I turned 40 last fall and have been starting to occasionally experience this myself, though it has only kept me from cumming completely a couple of times. There are getting to be more and more times when I can stay hard, feel awesome, but not cum. Generally this is because foreplay went to far. ie. my wife was blowing me, got me to close to orgasm, then wanted vaginal sex. It's an entirely different sensation on different parts of the male anatomy, and if I get too close without cumming like that, things (particularly the head) get way too sensitive and almost irritated. I feel great, but can't QUITE cum. What's always worked-so far-is to take a 10 minute break, get soft, go to the bathroom, then go back at it. I'm sure there's some medical thing there, but it's always worked for me. And FYI, the orgasm that I get after "going back" is MUCH better than it would have been before! May be a simple solution-just stop and go take a pee. Crude, but effective.