How do i get hit on by lesbians?

[southernsky]

All I hear from straight women is that they don't mind lesbians, but always get hit on. I'm not straight, and I NEVER get hit on by women! I would love to be with a woman, but I'm really shy, and terrible at figuring out who's a lesbian and who's not. How do I get hit on by girls? I've had some experiences with women before, but I'd love to get more. What am I doing wrong? I'm beginnning to feel like I'm stuck with men for ever, and while I love the guys too, I would REALLY like a woman for awhile right now. Any advice? I've posted here on the personals, and got no responses.

 

[siren319]

just reading this made me tense, relax first... you're scaring the girls away.

 

[LadyAria]

All I hear from straight women is that they don't mind lesbians, but always get hit on. I'm not straight, and I NEVER get hit on by women! I would love to be with a woman, but I'm really shy, and terrible at figuring out who's a lesbian and who's not. How do I get hit on by girls? I've had some experiences with women before, but I'd love to get more. What am I doing wrong? I'm beginnning to feel like I'm stuck with men for ever, and while I love the guys too, I would REALLY like a woman for awhile right now. Any advice? I've posted here on the personals, and got no responses.

Poor doll. Go to a local lesbar and have a few drinks alone. The girls will know why you are there or...find a naughty little lady on Lit to show you the way

 

[southernsky]

just reading this made me tense, relax first... you're scaring the girls away.

Sorry! I'm just frustrated. sexually frustrated too! I'll go take care of some things and then come back and try again

 

[SweetErika]

Why lesbians and not other bi women?

 

[glamorilla]

push up bra?

 

[HotBloodFairy]

All I hear from straight women is that they don't mind lesbians, but always get hit on. I'm not straight, and I NEVER get hit on by women! I would love to be with a woman, but I'm really shy, and terrible at figuring out who's a lesbian and who's not. How do I get hit on by girls? I've had some experiences with women before, but I'd love to get more. What am I doing wrong? I'm beginnning to feel like I'm stuck with men for ever, and while I love the guys too, I would REALLY like a woman for awhile right now. Any advice? I've posted here on the personals, and got no responses.

I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I am bi and I find it a hard time to meet any women. I can't tell who likes other girls and who doesn't. I do have a stradegy though. If I am at a bar or a club, I try dancing with girls who seem willing to dance. If they don't move away, then I get a little more friendly, slowly. If they are still dancing with me by the end of the night and we're having a good time, I ask for thier number. Mind you this is only theory of mine I've been using for a little bit. I've only gotten one number and it turned out to be a fake, but hey can't blame me for trying.
Good luck southernsky

 

[Tymeless]

i'd settle for either just being hit on would be nice

 

[kbate]

Just come into a lesbian bar and yell "Dykes Suck". We'll hit on you. Hard.



*I should probably not post after nights of little sleep*

 

[Tymeless]

but dykes don't suck and well as a transgendered person i don't it very helpful to my cause to get another minority in the population against me . exspecially a minority i plan on dating once i'm transistioned

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

but dykes don't suck and well as a transgendered person i don't it very helpful to my cause to get another minority in the population against me . exspecially a minority i plan on dating once i'm transistioned

Dykes don't suck? Damn, that means we're going to have to rewrite the entire "Lesbian Sex" category.



(Using the term "suck" in a general way, obviously.)

 

[cherries_on_snow]

All I hear from straight women is that they don't mind lesbians, but always get hit on. I'm not straight, and I NEVER get hit on by women! I would love to be with a woman, but I'm really shy, and terrible at figuring out who's a lesbian and who's not. How do I get hit on by girls? I've had some experiences with women before, but I'd love to get more. What am I doing wrong? I'm beginnning to feel like I'm stuck with men for ever, and while I love the guys too, I would REALLY like a woman for awhile right now. Any advice? I've posted here on the personals, and got no responses.

Oooh! This might make a good How to!

Ok.

1. Decide how you want to be perceived. Butchiness can be very attractive to some lesbians and bi women. Go for some kind of look and experiment. I first went to a gay bar wearing a party dress and didn't get hit on (though I had bi men flirting with me all night). Then I did a leather subby look and got hit on by older dykes (that was fun!) but so far I've had the best luck in denim jeans and tshirt. Sometimes simpler is better.

2. Go to a gay bar (preferrably a women's bar) or to women's functions such as large music festivals, etc. Flirt. Send out signals that you are interested. Let your hand touch the back of hers.

3. Get the woman of your choice to take a walk with you. Why wait for her to make the move? smile at her and ask if you can hold her hand as you walk.

 

[BitterIchor]

1. Decide how you want to be perceived. Butchiness can be very attractive to some lesbians and bi women. Go for some kind of look and experiment. I first went to a gay bar wearing a party dress and didn't get hit on (though I had bi men flirting with me all night). Then I did a leather subby look and got hit on by older dykes (that was fun!) but so far I've had the best luck in denim jeans and tshirt. Sometimes simpler is better.

I would like to be percieved as me and not as all those other things. Does this mean I will never get hit on?

 

[LaFemmeNicole]

Getting hit on

Just go to a dyke bar, act a little drunk and be careless how you sit i.e. short shirt, legs spread and no panties. You'll be surprised how fast you get a response.

 

[kbate]

I would like to be percieved as me and not as all those other things. Does this mean I will never get hit on?

I always found it far simpler to be one of the ones doing the "hitting on" rather than sitting around waiting to be hit. Proactive is the only way to be if you want something, those who wait for love to come their way - often become great waiters rather than great lovers.

This commnet is not directed at you BI, but rather at the thread starter.

 

[cherries_on_snow]

I would like to be percieved as me and not as all those other things. Does this mean I will never get hit on?

You never have seasons within yourself? never favour one flavour of you? I think when one is hanging out in an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar people, it is perhaps especially important to pay attention to symbols, icons, ways of identifying ourselves to know how we are reading to others. It makes sense to be approachable.

I have found that simpler is better in gay bars if I want attention from women rather than men.

 

[BitterIchor]

You never have seasons within yourself? never favour one flavour of you? I think when one is hanging out in an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar people, it is perhaps especially important to pay attention to symbols, icons, ways of identifying ourselves to know how we are reading to others. It makes sense to be approachable.

I have found that simpler is better in gay bars if I want attention from women rather than men.

No, no flavours, seasons or any other flowery words. It seems that I'm just THAT boring.

 

[cherries_on_snow]

Somehow, I can manage to wear a dress and, on a different occasion, jeans, and never feel that I've at all stained my character. I don't find changing clothing pretention. Just normal life.

 

[hotncmom]

Excellent topic and responses

I admit I am one of those straight (bi a few times) women that gets on by lesbians ALL the time. However, I tend to hang out the with artsy bohemian crowd so that lends itself to that kind of circle. Why is that anyway? That's another discussion topic.
I have posted here a few times over the years for interested women, to no avail. I did get lucky back on the yahoo chat groups a few years ago.
Though I am cool with going to the lez bars, they are out for me cuz I won't get picked up in a lez or straight bar. I am not into one night stands. I just want to have a gal pal to hang out with, party, shop, go to concerts and then enjoy that side of my sexuality as well.
Kisses you sexy gals,
Hotncmom

 

[southernsky]

I wouldn't be looking for a one night stand either. I really dont' like that sort of thing! I'm all for other bi women too! I was just using lesbian as a general term for women willing to be with other women. Sorry!

I just hear people say "Oh, I'm straight, I'm not against homosexuality, but I get hit on by other women all the time! I just have to politely tell them no!" I get jealous! I wonder where these women are that they get hit on all the time by other women! I swear I'm too shy to hit on another women if I wasn't in an obvious place like a gay bar.

 

[devoted lilgirl]

I also would like to be hit on once in a while, but I fall into the category of "waiting for someone to hit on me" I am good at being FRIENDLY, but not at putting myself out there so far...too shy in some respects.

Also, I am in a commited relationship with a man, and while he has no problem with me having female companionship, I somehow think an interested female party would, thinking he would eventually want to be involved...

 

[Spoon77]

I suppose the ultimate question is, how do I meet people. I'm shy also and have a hard time being the one to make the first move. I definitely sympathize with those "waiting" to be hit on... Some part of me knows though, that I will eventually have to break out of my shell if I want to have an experience with another woman. I suppose posting here has been part of that process..... one day I will meet someone worth putting myself out there at risk for.....

I am also in a commited relationship with a man, who is aware of what I seek.... but I think I would LOVE another bi-girl so the possibility of sharing was an option.... MMMmm... sounds lovely...

 

[KatherineBlackers]

How do you get hit on by lesbians ? Dress butch, like me, and then walk around holding your boyfriend's hand while winking at the dykes. Sooner or later, a 200-pound gal ( who was probably a man in a past life) is gonna want a piece of your pie and make you eat her pussy ( or at least ask). If you are like me, you will laugh at her and tell her that you are into dick, the flesh and blood kind, not strap ons. Be careful, though. Angry dykes are dangerous. One almost gave me a black eye.

 

[Xectxny19X]

agh whoa...nice thread! I used to get hit on by girls even w/o wearing some pride. um, I guess just smile & have some welcoming body language. Oh, being in an area that's popular for glbt individuals to hang out at might be good, too.

 

[Tymeless]

oh well guess i don't need lesbians anymore just bisexual girls since i'm gonna stay a male!