How do I get her to enjoy rhe pain of anal for my pleasure?

[1talkewlone]

I love aggressive sex. I love to brutally throat fuck my wife, and I love to ream her ass. She puts up with the troat fucking, but when I start getting to into reaming her ass( and I am really turned on by her cries of pain) she says it is too rough. How do I get her to enjoy the pain of anal for my pleasure?

 

[sadangel]

I love aggressive sex. I love to brutally throat fuck my wife, and I love to ream her ass. She puts up with the troat fucking, but when I start getting to into reaming her ass( and I am really turned on by her cries of pain) she says it is too rough. How do I get her to enjoy the pain of anal for my pleasure?

Seriously, let her use a strap-on on you and do it the same way you do to her then ask us the same question.

If she doesn't like it that way, you're not going to get her to enjoy it. Try taking time, getting her excited, then see if she is willing to take it a little harder. Work up to it, don't demand it!! Respect that she says no. She may never like it hard. You'll have to deal with it.

 

[KarennaC]

I love aggressive sex. I love to brutally throat fuck my wife, and I love to ream her ass. She puts up with the troat fucking, but when I start getting to into reaming her ass( and I am really turned on by her cries of pain) she says it is too rough. How do I get her to enjoy the pain of anal for my pleasure?

Okay... she "puts up with the throat fucking"??? Dude, she isn't enjoying that either. She's tolerating it either because she thinks it will make you happy or because she figures she has no choice. You want to know how to get her to *enjoy* pain for *your* pleasure; do you ever do anything for her pleasure?

 

[AgonySceneGirl]

Okay... she "puts up with the throat fucking"??? Dude, she isn't enjoying that either. She's tolerating it either because she thinks it will make you happy or because she figures she has no choice. You want to know how to get her to *enjoy* pain for *your* pleasure; do you ever do anything for her pleasure?

i'd have to agree - i would have been a little more rude in saying it but you worded it pretty good.

 

[sadangel]

i'd have to agree - i would have been a little more rude in saying it but you worded it pretty good.

I totally missed it about tolerating the throat fucking. I agree. I still stand by my suggestion to let her use a strap-on and do the same, in the same manner to him and see if he still wants her to "put up with the pain" for "his" pleasure.

Seriously, OP, do something that pleasures your wife for once, see how she does like it. Find a way to compromise if need be. But don't expect someone that doesn't like pain to suddenly decide they do, just for your pleasure. You have to give it to receive it.

 

[southernsky]

Use more lube and visit the BDSM board. Not necessarily in that order You can still get a pretty dominant feeling from fucking her hard even if there's a lot of lube there, and she'll probably like it a lot better. If that doesn't work, try asking her what would make it better for her. Positions matter a LOT.

 

[Bandit58]

Unless she's a masochistic sub/slave I doubt you will have much luck in getting her to "enjoy the pain of anal" just so you can get off.

Done properly anal sex can be very enjoyable - but not if you go at it like a bull at a gate Try using lots of lube and getting her highly aroused before you even attempt putting your dick there. Let her set the pace for once.

If you are not careful you will end up putting her off having sex with you altogether - believe me I know

 

[hellebore]

First off, get used to the idea that if you're a jerk in bed she has the right to refuse you and say no. Attitude means a lot when you're trying to get someone to do something they're not comfortable with. If my lover came to me and demanded to do something that hurt me and is dangerous and was a jerk about it (and your post does make you sound pretty jerky, though you may not be one IRL.) there'd be no way in hell I'd do it.

Second, leave her ass alone for a bit so that if anything needs to heal from previous experiences it can.

Third, it sounds like you're into a bit of SM and maybe she's not an M. If it's the ass fucking that turns you on, there's hope. Asses can be "trained" for fucking. If it's the pain that's turning you on, then you're probably out of luck. Even if she is a masochist, there may be limits to what kind of pain she can handle and how much. Also, as another reality check, revisit her sexual persona. Is she a masochist or a submissive or neither? Remember while a masochist might also be submissive, and a submissive might be a masochist, THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING. And it is very common for a person to be one and NOT the other.

Then, get a few smaller dildos or vibes (whichever she prefers. Personally, I don't like vibes inside me.) and A LOT of lube. Let HER train her asshole. Let HER decide when, and how much, and how hard. You're going to have to be patient and maybe just watch, or if she's feeling comfortable, she might ASK you to help.

When she can take a dildo or vibe that is similar to you in size, and she's ready to try again, give her an orgasm (or a few) first! It's easier for me to take my lover back there after I've had an orgasm and I'm all relaxed. But I'm still tight enough to give her a ride.

After she's had an orgasm, lube her up and ease in. Still pay attention to what she can handle. Part of the reason it probably hurts her so much right now is because it's hurt so much in the past. So she's tense, and bearing down because it hurts, and it hurts more, and she gets more tense and it hurts more again... It also helps me that my lover doesn't just nail my ass, she plays with my clit or a vibe or my breasts or something.

Eventually she'll be able to take all of you, and as enthusiastically as you wish, but only if you back off and take it slow. If the idea that anal is painful for her is what is turning you on, either find someone who's into that sort of pain, or let her play act it for you. Once she's able to take your all, she can cry and scream and moan to your (both of you) heart's content. You do still need to check in and make sure she's okay, or do the safe-word thing with her.

If she's really really not into ass-fucking, then get ready to pony up and offer something in return even if it's something you don't like. After all, she's "tolerating throat fucking" and you're trying to get her to tolerate ass fucking, so find out what she wants that you've never done before. Learn how to lick a pussy, or give her a massage, or let her peg your ass in exactly the same way that you want to do hers. Give something nice for her and she'll be more likely to give something back to you.

Also, there is something you should remember about all those "brutal" throat and ass fucking porno movies. They're filled with actors. Who are following a scripts. Not always the best actors or scripts, but still, they're not real. And those great Lit stories, they're not real either. They're fiction, NOT real life. Trying to model your sex life after those is like trying to pee up a rope. Highly amusing (especially for those in the audience) but really hard to do at all, let alone do well.

 

[AylaRay]

Seriously? You treat your wife like this?

Listen, you already know the slow steps that may work your wife up to feeling less pain when you fuck her ass but that isn't the problem. You don't want her to enjoy it. You want it to hurt. You get off on that.

So stop worrying about her enjoyment. You haven't so far and actually her enjoyment will just take away from yours. Just keep ass fucking her - dry and hard. Fuck her hard through her screams of pain. The more she hates it the more you'll love it.

And when she leaves you the only thing you will have to blame is yourself. I feel sorry for her ass. But I feel more sorry that she's married to such an ass.

 

[mediocre]

So you have a wife AND a girlfriend and they both cry during sex with you? Sounds like you are a winner to me.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=633391

 

[ChasingShadowsX]

try getting something bigger and working her up to a large dildo or something, then as it doesnt hurt anymore she wont be in any pain when u do it to her... she may have to pretend its hurting or something though.

 

[ZoeBird]

I could understand if this was a BDSM thing that you were BOTH into, and you were doing it in a way that wasn't injuring anyone physically or emotionally - but it's not. You just want to objectify another human being for your personal pleasure and that's sick.

Why don't you get a sex doll and have rough anal sex with it. At least that way you aren't hurting anyone.

 

[KarennaC]

i'd have to agree - i would have been a little more rude in saying it but you worded it pretty good.

My first version of my post was much ruder, but I don't like being rude, especially to people I don't know. Even when they do appear to be jackasses. lol

 

[simpleman911]

nice

be nice to her rough is ok if shes involved you seem very dom to her and that may not be cool

 

[EasyDoesIt]

1talkewlone......what you describe is not agressive sex....it's brutal sex. It's abusive sex. While some S&M practicioners concensually enjoy such things, that doesn't appear to be your situation.

Hoping that your OP is a hoax, baiting people for responses. If that is not the case, you really need to realize your marriage relationship is intended to be mutually rewarding. It's not all about your pleasure. Treat the lady better before she uses 1talkewlone on you.....for her pleasure.

Good luck.

 

[culloden]

Check his post in BDSM, and don't feed the troll.

 

[Jack_Samuel]

Its disgusting that people get this stupid ideas in their heads but dont have the balls to sit down and have a proper discussion with their partners about it.

If you cant talk about it then dont do it.

Your needs are not matching dude, maybe take the time to communicate with your partner and you both can find a happy compromise. You dont sound like your "tolerating" much for her

 

[fgarvb1]

Oh, I wouldn't count on him keeping his balls forever.

sooner or later one of his fems is going to get enough, then...



CHOP!

 

[shiny5437]

Check his post in BDSM, and don't feed the troll.

Yeah, please don't feed the troll.

 

[Dreamliner]

Jeez man. Harden up, just tell her to take it!

 

[fma30f]

hi

He got me drunk and reassured me the first time. I endured his anal assault. after that I liked it and am hooked to it now. we are regularly into anal. He does it almost daily. you may try it that way.

 

[phelon]

Then again.. it could just be a stupid troll

 

[Petra5]

1talkewlone

Just seen this thread and you seem to have gone quiet after being told by a few replies that maybe you should let your wife do to you what you do to her with a strap-on, and see how well you 'put up' with it. Aren't you going to thank them for the suggestion?

I don't know how any guy can get a kick out of doing something he knows is not enjoyable for his woman. The term 'consensual rape' comes to mind.

Like others have said, if your relationship was THAT kind of relationship - i.e., where the woman is actually TURNED ON by your 'brutal' lovemaking it could be understood. But clearly, your brutal throat fucking is something your wife merely 'puts up with'. Doesn't that make you feel like a failure? She should be 'gagging for it', if you'll excuse the pun, instead of being coerced into something non-pleasurable. That is disgusting. Perhaps you have been lucky enough to find a woman who for whatever the reason has been made to believe, like you, that sex is something a woman has to endure as a degrading and violent violation.

When I let a man into my body, if we like it rough it is because there is enough trust there that I enjoy the physical power he has over me, and I enjoy being submissive. It is NOT because I am 'tolerating' it purely for his pleasure.

Like others have advised, if anal was something of interest to your wife, then work her up to it - and this doesn't mean only in the bedroom. The closer and more loving the relationship, the better and more adventurous the sex will be, as a natural urge for both of you to express and experience together. Too many people divorce love from sex, and rough sex from loving sex. The two combined will blow your mind, and your wife's.

I suggest you check out Mr G's posts. He seems to know a lot about understanding how to pleasure a woman.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

People like 1talkewlone give people like my Master a bad name. BDSM is consensual. Fucking your girl's ass and hurting her solely because YOU get off on it is abusive. Causing unwanted pain to your partner without their consent is abusive. Dominants are not abusive, they complement a mutual need in a submissive, whether that be for control or for painful play.

You're an asshole. You have failed spectacularly at being a lover and a partner. You've only been on the boards 5 mins and already you've tripped on your own lies. I suggest you deepthroat a dildo till you choke to death and do the world a favour.

You still here? Or are you gonna be really fucking brave and start over with an alt?

[/RANT]

 

[Eilan]

Successful troll is successful.