How do I get an apology from....

[Missingmeds]

How do I (and several other people), get an apology from people that were misled by someone else?

These misled people are finally putting two and two together and not coming up with four. They are finally figuring out that we were not lying and that we didn't deserve to be treated the way that they treated us. That they were misled by someone that they thought was their friend but in reality has turned out not to be their friend.

It doesn't have to be a public apology, just an apology will do.

 

[Dhalgren150]

did you take over Hell.. if you did then you might get that but not in a sincere and meaningful way...


good luck....

 

[sassykat]

How do we get people to quit whining about the same subject...over and over and over...... 00

 

[amraam840]

the best suggestion that I can make is to ask for an apology and explain why you legitimatly deserve one...

just so you know, that has never worked for me, but I'm unable to think of anything else short of gratitous violence...

 

[Missingmeds]

did you take over Hell.. if you did then you might get that but not in a sincere and meaningful way...


good luck....

This is to hopefully get an apology for the person that needs it the worse which is actually not me.

I am not whining about it, I want to give others a chance to know that we know what has happened and we don't want to say I told you so to them. But we do want the admission on their part that we were right and had they just listened they could have saved themselves some hurt at being played and lied to by someone.

It is also an attempt to get some constructive advice. On how to deal with this situation. Especially online as it seems to be something that many people go thru online.

 

[Dhalgren150]

ahh you have all my powers of help for what they may be worth... and yes always good to see others opinions... no matter what they be.

and all should remember the RULE of 3.. this holds to being big enuf to admit wrongs... non admissions are same as harming another.

thus spoke the Druid.

 

[Missingmeds]

the best suggestion that I can make is to ask for an apology and explain why you legitimatly deserve one...

just so you know, that has never worked for me, but I'm unable to think of anything else short of gratitous violence...

Well I certainly don't want gratitous violence so I guess that I will just have to wait and see what happens.

 

[Mskey]

Darlin all I'll say is that I wouldn't hold my breath for this to happen. Wounded pride and bruised egos rarely if ever make those who have been bamboozled apologize for suuporting the fraud who fooled them.
Good luck. You'll need it.

 

[Ravin the Poet]

Well I certainly don't want gratitous violence so I guess that I will just have to wait and see what happens.

I want gratitous violence....it solves everything!


Ravin

 

[Missingmeds]

I want gratitous violence....it solves everything!


Ravin

No it doesn't and it is not something that I want.

 

[Lust Engine]

You could just tell that person that your feelings were really hurt by their actions, you know (or at least hope) that it wasn't anything malicious and see what they have to say. If they have any moral fiber or compassion, they'll apologize. If not, then their true colors are beaming forth & it's not worth your time & effort to pursue a deeper friendship.

 

[Missingmeds]

Lust Engine that was tried but it didn't work. I don't know that anything will work, but I am willing to take anything under advisement at this point.

 

[Cathleen]

This is to hopefully get an apology for the person that needs it the worse which is actually not me.

I am not whining about it, I am giving others a chance to know that we know what has happened and we don't want to say I told you so to them. But we do want the admission on their part that we were right and had they just listened they could have saved themselves some hurt at being played and lied to by someone.

It is also an attempt to get some constructive advice. On how to deal with this situation. Especially online as it seems to be something that many people go thru online.

I am not understanding just what you truly want. It appears like you do want to say 'I told you so'. It looks like you are taking joy in someone else's hurt.

It just doesn't look like you really want an apology, in my opinion. It looks like you're disguising this plea and what you really seek is some kind of a twisted form of vindication.

You're being very public asking for a non-public apology - it makes me wonder is all. You really can't make anyone apologize - it has to come freely from them. You might not get that....

 

[SweetErika]

Interesting issue. I'd venture to say if asking for one civilly didn't work, nothing will because they lack the maturity and integrity to be motivated to do the right thing. I have to wonder why this apology is so significant to you (and the others?) though...if you know you're right and deserve an apology, do you actually need one? I know it's the principle of holding them accountable for their behavior, but apart from giving them some more time to ponder the situation and asking again or hoping they come to their senses, the best course of action is probably to let it go knowing this will come back to bite them in the future. At least that's how I view this kind of thing.

 

[Ezzy]

How do I (and several other people), get an apology from people that were misled by someone else?

These misled people are finally putting two and two together and not coming up with four. They are finally figuring out that we were not lying and that we didn't deserve to be treated the way that they treated us. That they were misled by someone that they thought was their friend but in reality has turned out not to be their friend.

It doesn't have to be a public apology, just an apology will do.

The only way I know of is to give the miscreant enough time to mature and grow as a human being, then to mention casually about how hurt everyone was 5 or 10 years ago when "X" happened, and hope they see the light and give an apology.

But as some other posters said, "Don't hold your breath!"

 

[Lust Engine]

Lust Engine that was tried but it didn't work. I don't know that anything will work, but I am willing to take anything under advisement at this point.

I don't think it's as simple as a Step One automatically leads to Step Two. Obviously if your statements didn't get a desired response, then move on. It's not worth dwelling on this incident- life's way too short.

 

[Missingmeds]

I can afford to be public about it here because the people involved don't post here. At least as far as I know.

LE, and SweetErika, I think that you are both right in a way. I guess the best thing to do is just to let it go and see what happens.

 

[krazeekat]

I can afford to be public about it here because the people involved don't post here. At least as far as I know.

LE, and SweetErika, I think that you are both right in a way. I guess the best thing to do is just to let it go and see what happens.

I am in agreement with LE, since you didn't get the desired response the best thing is to just let it go and move on. Do you really feel that by going public you'll get the apology warranted to you? Is it really worth it? I'm assuming that what happened is a private matter. I hope you find some sort of resolution for this and be at peace.

 

[Missingmeds]

Actually what happened was a very public matter. It didn't happen online, so the effect on some people's lives were very real when all of this happened.

And it has already come back to bite several of them in the ass, so to speak.

I think for me it is exactly that. Holding them accountable for their actions.

But for some of the other people involved, there were things that affected their lives in a way that wasn't good. I think that is what really bothers me the most.

 

[dollface007]

I don't want to be disrespectful, Missingmeds, but please don't drag this whole drama thing with you and Mskey and whomever else over to this board unless you want us all to be in on the gory details. I'm not trying to say I run the HT Cafe, but I can tell you that it's really frustrating when people bring up their personal problems with other litsters and start leaving cryptic posts and we're all supposed to guess what's going on. Either that, or we're supposed to care what's going on and help you without really knowing the circumstances, and not knowing who we will hurt or alienate with our replies. I guess my little rant goes along the same vein as the "Cliques" complaint thread here.

As far as apologies go, you can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do.

 

[Missingmeds]

If you bothered dollface to read the above post I plainly stated that this didn't happen online. I have stated that repeatedly in this thread. Therefore it is not a personal problem with another litster.

I edited the post that I think gave everyone the impression that I was talking about something that happened here. You can see the difference in my post now that it has been changed and the one that Cathleen quoted.

I hope this clears up the misconception that this is something that is lit related.

 

[Cathleen]

After re-reading this thread I think there is one major point that makes it difficult to get an apology from those you believe should offer one.

I can see from your words Missingmeds, that you (and others) have been hurt by some people - that is clear. I also see you state that they too had been hurt. There is now a common bond between all these people - that is hurt. It appears to be a snowball of hurt.

While I understand wanting an apology - it looks like they are in the same boat with you. Some people have difficulty making ammends. I hope everyone makes some peace so your hurts can heal. That would be very nice.