How do I entice older men?

[Needing_old_men]

I'm a virgin, and I don't have too much experience with men at all. I don't look that old, either. Which makes all the men I'm interested in treat me like a kid.

I have a *real* big case of the hots for my dad's colleague whom I keep meeting at office parties. The guy's divorced and everything, so no worries there. But how do I .. you know.. let him know I like him without ending up with an egg on my face? I'm soo hot for him you wouldn't believe it. Do older men even go for younger women in real life or is it just something that's there in people's erotic fantasies?

Man, I wish I could just walk up to him and beg him to fuck me..

 

[Missingmeds]

How about walking up to him and just whispering in his ear that you would like to talk with him alone?

Then just tell him that you are a virgin and you have the hots for him and see what his reaction is?

Unless you are under 18, in which case he will probably reject you and you shouldn't be posting here anyway.

 

[wicked woman]

Your Dad's colleague...save both of you some trouble and look else where...at your age almost all guys are older.

 

[ReadyOne]

I vote for spending time with him and letting him know at every opportunity that it's safe to make a move on you.

Many (most?) older men, while they'd love to get involved, have to be convinced that you really want sex with them. You may end up having to lead, which is foreign to most young woman.

An older woman once remarked to me that when she was younger, all she had to do was to "be there" or sometimes "smile with the top button open", but now she had to work a bit to get things started by kissing or a little rubbing.

My point is about learning to lead because you may need to in order to get him over his believing that the young fox daughter of his partner is indeed able and willing and serious.

You have to touch him, touch him intimately, talk to him, over respond each time he comes closer. For example, if her puts a hand on you crotch, rub it against him to give a clear and unmistakable sign that you want to be touched there. Use words "Yes, More, Fell good" instead of little moans or shivers. Over act.

It's an approach-avoidance conflict with older men -- damn they want it bad, and they are terrified of being caught robbing the cradle. Given the rape and molestation charges, gold diggers, badger traps (young women luring them into blackmail), and just non-belief that their fantasy of a young women could ever come true, they can be wanting (the approach) and scared (the avoiding) and the conflict a strong one!

Plus, older men start slower (may not have an instant erection when you walk into the room) and if they have any performance anxieties, it's easier for them to loose it midstream. So, a good women learns that she sometimes needs to do a little more than lay back and spread to help him get started or help him recover. (This problem is an "after 40" thing, but I'm assuming that you're in your twenties and he may be 25 years older than you. Doesn't mean he still isn't a stallion; some guys are 60 or even 70 before they really slow down!)

 

[curious2c]

May I suggest looking around at different social functions at men who have nothing to do with your father's business or the like. How you dress and come across...that art of subtle seduction...that will take some time to learn, but will help.

Try to stay with unattached men of course...fewer problems there. Be careful, there are many men out there who would be great lovers and friends, there are many out there who would use you and toss you aside and there are a few...just be careful okay?

What I see in a woman, especially a young women is first, the age difference. I mean, my daughter was born in 1980...so you are younger than her is my bet. If not...probably closer to her age than mine by a good bit.

That will be a stumbling block for many men because they will or should want their families to accept their 'date' or significant other at some point in time.

If you do find someone who seems willing or a likely person for you to hook up with, show him that he is very special to you. Defer to him over any other man in the room...eye contact is important. Dont' rush...things take time and older men can still be quite...well straight laced yet.

If and when he actually askes you out on a date, or to be somewhere at a special time, dress for him...let him know that you think that he is special and the only reason for you being there.

Talk...listen...touch. The touch should be lightly and non sexual until you have a rapport with him. this can take longer than you may think, or it could take only a short time. Be cautious but not afraid to push things. Perhaps a little talk that you steer to age differences and how you prefer older men over men your age. Be honest and open to a point. This way you can let them know that you find them interesting as a potential lover or partner.

*sigh*


Good luck, be careful, and hopefully you will find the right man for you.

 

[angela146]

How would your father react if he found out?

That's likely to be a big concern in the guy's mind. Is your father a more senior person in the organization? Is he thinking "boss's daughter"?

Put it this way: if you and your father and he were all at a casual lunch table (i.e. you visit dad at lunch time in the company cafeteria) would you be comfortable asking your father, "Dad, are all the men who work here as cute has he is?"

Not that you should actually do that, but you can use that mental image as a way of understanding what's on the other guy's mind.

Now, having said that, if you want to seduce an older man, it helps to become friends first. Somehow give him an opportunity to teach you something. (Gee, Fred, how do you do that?)

That can build some trust between you and give you plenty of opportunity to "accidentally" brush up against him.

At some point, if you think he's ready, you might tell him that you're a virgin and you want your first time to be really special. You want to be "taken" by an older man who can teach you what love and sex are really all about.

Some guys really get off on that stuff. It also makes them feel less selfish and more likely to be willing to forgive themselves for robbing the cradle.

 

[GeorgeWBush]

If it was me you wanted i would just want you just talk for awhile to get to know about you and then you ask him if he could teach you something and when he asks what you say i want to know all about sex and i think you would be a great teacher.

And tell him it will be your first time so be gentle.

And he will more likely cream his pants after he heres that you want him and your a virgin.

 

[RedSoreBottom]

I would stay away from him if he knows your father, that's just a bad idea.

 

[fulie57]

Smile

Smile, get close enough that I can smell you. I'm yours.

hahahah

I'm a smell guy, don't know why.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

In the crowd....

...that says this sounds like a bad idea, on many levels. Sure, we all have our desires, but if things went further, say you two fell in love... would you want to be changing his depends when you are 30?

Think about it....

 

[angela146]

Re: In the crowd....

...that says this sounds like a bad idea, on many levels. Sure, we all have our desires, but if things went further, say you two fell in love... would you want to be changing his depends when you are 30? Think about it....

I don't think she wants to fall in love and marry him. I think she wants a roll in the hay.

Sexual encountes don't have to lead to "happily ever after".

 

[Erlikkhan]

Send him a sensual note telling him about your fantasies, what you need and where you'll be at a certain hour. Now if you want a good addrss to send the note to I can provide one...