How do men actually work?

[Peachyprincess0]

You've rejected him once.

Unless you make it clear that you've had a change of heart, he's not going to ask again.
In his mind, he's in a flirty friend zone with you.

But we’ve kissed

 

[tugger1987]

But we’ve kissed

We’re curious creatures. Was the kiss before or after you rejected him?

 

[Britva415]

But we’ve kissed

So, now that that has happened, MAYBE the ice has been broken enough that he'll know that he can send it the rest of the way with you.

Maybe.

Maybe he still won't, on his own.

So if you want it to go farther, you might very well have to find the brass to be the brave one.

Just put your hand down his pants. How brave do you have to be, for that?

On the other hand, now that you've kissed a lot, if he doesn't send it any farther on his own, then, that's him expressing his own wishes. It is a kind of rejection, but not as intense of one as it would be if you tried to make it happen and forced him to reject you harder.

I don't know. I think if he wants you, he knows he could have you, so, if he doesn't make the effort to take you, then there's a reason for it.

If he won't try to close the deal on his own without a hard push from you, it could be because he doesn't want to, or it COULD be because he's the kind of guy who doesn't have the brass. Is that even attractive?

 

[TravisAW]

But we’ve kissed

After the rejection or before it.

If it was before, kiss him again. Do you know if he's single? Does that bother you? Do you just want a fuck buddy NSA? Or do you want a relationship?

 

[CelticTiger88]

He’d want to hurry up seriously

Wow! I've had the reverse problem recently....

 

[niceguyswin]

So while everyone ia diffrent and works in their own way and with their own cautious nature I can give some recommendations.
Depending on a blue, green, red, or yellow nature of you and the other person the psychology may change. But looks like in this situation the blue to blue approach may be the best. But I warn you its either going to end very well or put both of you in an avoidance situation or possibly a rejection situation.

So blue to blue. If they are being cautious and not moving forward without explict consent or scared to loose whats there then an honest strait forward conversation is usually the best approach. Ask them out someplace and tell them its important and find a quiet place like a park or duck pond or something. Write it out of you have to but tell them you care about them and want to pursue more than a friendship and work towards a relationship. Be polite and bring a stress ball or fidget toy or something to keep your hands busy (helps with nerves). Then it's just waiting for a responce. Could be a positive one, could be a polite rejection, could be a im sorry, but probably going to be a brush off or change of topic in all likelihood. If so politely say please I would like a honest reponce its important to me. That usually stops most people and they usually reply or run. If they run on the second one. Let them their uncomfortable and scared and confused. Give it a few days and wait.

Keep on mind this is only from me helping most of my friends get the women they want or help troubled people. My own marriage is a trainwreck and in a state of destruction befitting bomb blasts so what would I know. But modern psychology and even older relationship psychology and analysis supports this kinda approach. If its not a blue to blue intrract

 

[Britva415]

blue, green, red, or yellow

blue

blue

blue to blue

blue to blue

What is this about?

 

[OneEyedSteve]

This guy I like and I keep flirting and literally nothing is coming of it

He initiated something a while ago I rejected him but now I’ve clearly shown my interest we tease each other everyday

How do men work

Generally, if a woman rejects us, we move on mentally pretty quickly. Flirting is just fun, it means nothing. If you want to be intimate with the guy you need to spell it out and explain you were wrong to reject him

 

[niceguyswin]

What is this about?

The 4 colour personality types system. The birkman system for personalities. Super helpful in psychology and knowing a person. Although new systems have some great benifits the older 4 type system is easier to use and better for fast evaluation.

 

[Peachyprincess0]

So while everyone ia diffrent and works in their own way and with their own cautious nature I can give some recommendations.
Depending on a blue, green, red, or yellow nature of you and the other person the psychology may change. But looks like in this situation the blue to blue approach may be the best. But I warn you its either going to end very well or put both of you in an avoidance situation or possibly a rejection situation.

So blue to blue. If they are being cautious and not moving forward without explict consent or scared to loose whats there then an honest strait forward conversation is usually the best approach. Ask them out someplace and tell them its important and find a quiet place like a park or duck pond or something. Write it out of you have to but tell them you care about them and want to pursue more than a friendship and work towards a relationship. Be polite and bring a stress ball or fidget toy or something to keep your hands busy (helps with nerves). Then it's just waiting for a responce. Could be a positive one, could be a polite rejection, could be a im sorry, but probably going to be a brush off or change of topic in all likelihood. If so politely say please I would like a honest reponce its important to me. That usually stops most people and they usually reply or run. If they run on the second one. Let them their uncomfortable and scared and confused. Give it a few days and wait.

Keep on mind this is only from me helping most of my friends get the women they want or help troubled people. My own marriage is a trainwreck and in a state of destruction befitting bomb blasts so what would I know. But modern psychology and even older relationship psychology and analysis supports this kinda approach. If its not a blue to blue intrract

I appreciate the advice but this scenario sounds like an episode of the undateables

I just wanna jump on him

 

[panty_aussie]

well sounds like you. You want what you cant have.

Its turns me off when a women rejects me then suddenly is interested in me

Too many games and he probably just moved on