How do I ask for foreplay?

[infinity706]

Yes, and it also makes it harder on the suspiciously nice guys that are actually nice guys.

 

[satindesire]

Yes, and it also makes it harder on the suspiciously nice guys that are actually nice guys.

You didn't agree with me. What a surprise.

 

[infinity706]

Actually, I agree with you most of the time. Of course, I don't do it much on this forum, but when I go after really rediculous posts, especially in debates, I get out my red text and mark up the quote box with tons of text. Sometimes, it gets about as bad as back when I edited some people's writing years ago, when actual paper was in style.

Oh, and I did agree with you. Going off on a tangent isn't disagreement.

 

[SweetErika]

OK, so I want to let everyone know that this man is truly the love of my life, he is wonderful to me and to my kids and treats them as his own. There is no one else in the world I want to be with.

That said, my man is bipolar, so he is on meds, also he is a bit overweight and for some reason, either the meds or his bipolar, he just doesn't have a high interest in sex. Therefore, he has a low sex drive. I love him and I know he loves me, but there is so much more that we could have together. I am a very sexual person and I am multi-orgasmic, but it takes work to get me there. He is just not into that work and I truly don't know what to do. If I don't have a major orgasm soon with him I am going to explode. I want him so bad, but when we do have sex, literally it last about 5 minutes. I am usually just warming up when he is done.

I have tried to bring it up and he gets really upset, he feels like he isn't a man or it is a hit on his manhood. I don't want that, but I want us to be the happiest we can be and right now there is just something majorly lacking! WHAT DO I DO?????

How have you tried to bring the issue of needing more and different stimulation up? Is it possible you could phrase your thoughts in a way that will help him be more receptive to listening to you?

It sounds like this is more of a laziness, sexual incompatibility and perhaps confusion issue than a sex drive issue. Sure, he may not want sex very often due to his meds or whatever, but there's no reason you two shouldn't be making the most of the sex you do have.

Have you tried not having sex/giving him an orgasm until you're satisfied? Tell him that you understand he gets tired after he comes, so you'd like to try a new approach: holding off on his orgasm until after you've had yours.

If this guy is truly the love of your life and compatible enough to make it long term, he should understand where you're coming from and be willing to work on making your sex life more satisfying for both of you. If he doesn't seek to understand and isn't willing to set his ego aside long enough to work on it, you should seriously consider whether or not that's the type of partner and relationship you really want in the months and years to come.

 

[micky4play]

yep...

Well, you could just be like a lot of the women I know and directly ask him to eat your pussy. Most men and women I know expect it as a standard part of sex, as much as kissing.

One of the best phone calls I ever got was, "What you doing? Why don't you come over and eat me?"

 

[IrisAlthea]

OK, so I want to let everyone know that this man is truly the love of my life, he is wonderful to me and to my kids and treats them as his own. There is no one else in the world I want to be with.

That said, my man is bipolar, so he is on meds, also he is a bit overweight and for some reason, either the meds or his bipolar, he just doesn't have a high interest in sex. Therefore, he has a low sex drive. I love him and I know he loves me, but there is so much more that we could have together. I am a very sexual person and I am multi-orgasmic, but it takes work to get me there. He is just not into that work and I truly don't know what to do. If I don't have a major orgasm soon with him I am going to explode. I want him so bad, but when we do have sex, literally it last about 5 minutes. I am usually just warming up when he is done.

I have tried to bring it up and he gets really upset, he feels like he isn't a man or it is a hit on his manhood. I don't want that, but I want us to be the happiest we can be and right now there is just something majorly lacking! WHAT DO I DO?????

Are you really sure that he gets that this doesn´t have anything to do with him keeping his erection longer or beeing able to go on with intercourse longer?

 

[hotnogs]

OK, so I want to let everyone know that this man is truly the love of my life, he is wonderful to me and to my kids and treats them as his own. There is no one else in the world I want to be with.

That said, my man is bipolar, so he is on meds, also he is a bit overweight and for some reason, either the meds or his bipolar, he just doesn't have a high interest in sex. Therefore, he has a low sex drive. I love him and I know he loves me, but there is so much more that we could have together. I am a very sexual person and I am multi-orgasmic, but it takes work to get me there. He is just not into that work and I truly don't know what to do. If I don't have a major orgasm soon with him I am going to explode. I want him so bad, but when we do have sex, literally it last about 5 minutes. I am usually just warming up when he is done.

I have tried to bring it up and he gets really upset, he feels like he isn't a man or it is a hit on his manhood. I don't want that, but I want us to be the happiest we can be and right now there is just something majorly lacking! WHAT DO I DO?????

If he's such a fantastic, loving, caring guy he'll understand your needs and want to fulfil them even if he's not particulalry interested in sex. I can just about excuse not wanting to go down on you (can't think of anything i enjoy doing to a girl more myself, but there you go), but he has no excuses for not giving you what you need in other ways if you're prepared to tell him. If he gets upset, comfort him, say you still love him, and then tell him straight - he IS a man and he can prove it right now by putting his own issues aside and helping you to share an earthshattering, life-affirming orgasm with him while in his loving arms.

 

[Cattypuss]

kitten512, do you fake orgasms?

 

[juicypeachxx]

If your sexual needs aren't important to him, you either have to MAKE them important to him or find someone else. living sexually unfulfilled is not an option!

 

[zanderstar]

Have him read your fav erotica that has a ton of build up forplay and whisper in his ear something like " I wish you would tease me like that baby"

keagals and edgeing for his stamina problm or you get ontop and toatally control the rythm.