How did you get into BDSM?

[GalaxyGoat]

When did you start sexualizing BDSM type things? Was it that way from the beggining or did you get interested in it later on in life? What do you think it was that started you in this direction (if anything particular at all)? Once you started exploring this how did your sexuality evolve? If your a sub or a dom did you always feel you where that way (even if at a younger age you didn't really understand it)? I guess I'm basically asking your sexual emergence story into the BDSM area of sexual (mis)pleasures
I realize this is a pretty personal question but the beauty of forums is you don't have to answer if you don't want to It would be interesting to hear about, if not for sharing the human experience then for helping me put my own emergence into perspective.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Goat, I'm not trying to be evil, wicked, mean or nasty (though those *are* my good points ), but this thread idea has been posted a time or three (or 23) before, both here and in the Café. For viewpoints from some who are no longer posting here - and perhaps some who still are! - you might review the pages of threads in both fora, and/or try to get the Lit search engine (which sucks bigtime!) to help you find some of them.

 

[midwestyankee]

I filed an online application that included a 300-word essay on how I intend to make the world a better place through my use of spanking. Then, like every other eager applicant, I waited until the admissions committee sent its decision in the mail. I was so thrilled to get a fat envelope. The skinny envelopes don't contain anything but the rejection letter. And those who get rejected have to live out their life on the General Board and ask "Do you want insults with that order?" all day long.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I used that as a pick-up line one time. The woman turned to me with the most beautiful smile and said: "Me and my girlfriend went to some seminars at the Michigan Music fest last year!"

But the truth was, she was something like the living embodiment of BDSM-- born that way.

And so am I-- born that way.

 

[GalaxyGoat]

Goat, I'm not trying to be evil, wicked, mean or nasty (though those *are* my good points ), but this thread idea has been posted a time or three (or 23) before, both here and in the Café. For viewpoints from some who are no longer posting here - and perhaps some who still are! - you might review the pages of threads in both fora, and/or try to get the Lit search engine (which sucks bigtime!) to help you find some of them.

Haha, yah I tried the search engine and it came up with nothing. Just for fun I tried searching this post's exact title and it still came up with nothing

 

[GalaxyGoat]

I used that as a pick-up line one time. The woman turned to me with the most beautiful smile and said: "Me and my girlfriend went to some seminars at the Michigan Music fest last year!"

But the truth was, she was something like the living embodiment of BDSM-- born that way.

And so am I-- born that way.

I think it would be impressive to see this post turned into a good pickup line. "Excuse me, I just saw you across the room and thought I'd ask: what was your entire sexual development like?"

 

[Ahlam]

I think it would be impressive to see this post turned into a good pickup line. "Excuse me, I just saw you across the room and thought I'd ask: what was your entire sexual development like?"

You could always ask for anecdotes with visual aids, too.

 

[marieR19]

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(we can't delete our own posts? Never knew that)

 

[PetRoto]

Oddly enough, it was from watching a rerun of I Dream of Jeannie when I was a little kid. I remember one episode where the guy went back in time and ran into a slave auction.. It sparked something in my young mind.. Ever since then, I've been interested in tying women up and control.

 

[blackleggings]

I filed an online application that included a 300-word essay on how I intend to make the world a better place through my use of spanking. Then, like every other eager applicant, I waited until the admissions committee sent its decision in the mail. I was so thrilled to get a fat envelope. The skinny envelopes don't contain anything but the rejection letter. And those who get rejected have to live out their life on the General Board and ask "Do you want insults with that order?" all day long.

LOL. I'm still experimenting and learning about what it is exactly that I want. When I have it all figured out, I hope there are some prep courses to help me prepare my own 300 word essay!

On another note, I think I've always been a submissive person, it feels natural to have it carry over to my sex life.

 

[PetRoto]

LOL. I'm still experimenting and learning about what it is exactly that I want. When I have it all figured out, I hope there are some prep courses to help me prepare my own 300 word essay!

What is the 300 word essay for?

 

[praefect]

I was into it before I knew what to call it. It was just the way things were, and the way I did things. I didn't really define it as anything. There were quite a few things I fantasized about, but never consider to be something I would do, or talked about with anyone. Certainly not my partner at the time. There was still some shame then in regards to my sexually sadistic drive.

BDSM porn was not really something that I took interest in since it wasn't really my style, what little I had seen of it. Then one day I came across this site called The Training of O, and I went "holy shit, that's like what I'm doing, only way better and also smarter", which at that point in time, it was. Now I had a name to call it, it was BDSM, and knew there were people into some of the things I hadn't really allowed myself to do up until that point. So, I give James Mogul some credit for me taking the plunge down the rabbit hole which let me break out of the constraints I had put on myself.

 

[intofdom]

BDSM kindof helped me

I guess BDSM in normal media is like a virus.One story creator can influence thousands.
I remember when I was very small I saw a hot woman whom I liked tied up in some detective movie followed by some forced kissing (even at that age we still are attracted to them). I tried tying my legs like her and it felt good imitating her. ( i was more of a feminine guy).
Ever since BDSM in any media would excite me and i would tie myself up.
When i became old enough to mastrubate I would always tie myself up and mastrubate.
Soon it became embedded in my brain.
The main prob started when I began crossdressing. i did not know Femdom existed and thought I have to be a woman to enjoy BDSM. I began getting depressed.
It was only when I found Femdom porn did I realize a whole new world which was not just bondage. i felt comfortable as a man now. i stopped with the disturbing crossdressing and fully embraced femdom.
Though i started with bondage, I slowly developed a taste for each type of femdom. You just keep seeking more thrill and is like a drug. Now I'm so into it that I like even the very extreme stuff..
Thats how I think I reached here from that little bondage scene.

 

[sunflowersubmits]

Oh let me see here. I think it all began when we tied one of my friends up in a scene in a play we wrote. Seeing that turned me on so much that I couldn't look her in the eyes for a while afterward. So in one day I discovered bondage and being turned on by a girl. Oh the emotions!!!! I would tie myself up to masturbate. I still do, even as a married woman. I still want to act on being aroused by a woman, but I am terrified!