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Kymberley

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Mother of boy killed by dogs avoids jail term

By Tim Bryant
Of The Post-Dispatch
Gladys Loman, her son Rodney McCallister was mauled to death by dogs.
Wendi Fitzgerald/P-D

The mother of Rodney McAllister Jr., the 10-year-old mauled to death in March by stray dogs, no longer faces a child endangerment charge as a result of a deal completed Tuesday.

The deal, worked out over the past month, calls for the mother, Gladys Loman, to enter a parenting program at the Center for Women in Transition in the 2600 block of Ohio Street.

Assistant Circuit Attorney Pippa Barrett said that jailing Loman, 35, on the misdemeanor charge dropped Tuesday would have made little sense.

"This is a woman with no parenting skills," Barrett said.

"Of paramount concern" now is the safety of Rodney's older brother, who is in foster care, the prosecutor said.

In addition to taking part in the parenting program, Loman could get employment help and treatment for a drug problem, authorities said.

Those programs are part of her conditions of probation imposed by Dunklin County Circuit Judge Stephen Sharp in Kennett, Mo.

Loman is on probation in Dunklin County on a separate case. She pleaded guilty in court there on March 28 of flourishing a weapon, a felony, by chasing her boyfriend with a kitchen knife, said Stephen Sokoloff, the Dunklin County prosecutor.

The incident happened about two years ago in Malden, Mo., where Loman was living at the time. Dunklin County is in the Bootheel.

Stray dogs killed Rodney in Ivory Perry Park in St. Louis on March 6, only 100 yards from where he had lived with his mother in an apartment in the 5400 block of Cabanne Avenue.

The boy had gone to the park to play basketball. A man cutting through the park on the way to work discovered the body under a tree the next morning. Loman told police she had last seen Rodney the evening before and didn't know where he had been all night.

Loman's lawyer, Jerryl Christmas, said Loman continues to struggle with Rodney's death.

"As you know, this was very traumatic for her," Christmas said.

Loman hopes to be reunited, perhaps by the end of the year, with her other son, who is in the foster care of an aunt in southeastern Missouri, Christmas said.

He said he has put the city on notice that Loman plans to sue the city over Rodney's death for allowing dogs to run loose.

"Our main question is, 'Why did this happen?'" Christmas said. "Why do we have to have a tragedy of this magnitude to happen before action was taken?"



Reporter Tim Bryant:\E-mail: tbryant@post-dispatch.com\Phone: 314-621-5154


Now folks, the rest of the story. This little boy, left his home around 4pm the day before. His mother was not there when he got home from school, she rarely was home, and frequently locked her kids out of the house.

When the police went door to door that morning they had found her son eaten to death, (which is how he died, they ate him while he was still alive and screaming for help. He died only after the shock and loss of blood and damage from their teeth to vital organs killed him) they were using information from the local schools about what children were absent that day and with a first name of Rodney. That was the name on the basketball they found beside him.

When the police got to her house, they asked her where he was. Her first reply was school. They told her he was not there. She then said, "he sometimes spends the night with a friend but I can't remember where they live or what the kids name is."

Remember he is 10 years old. They eventually tell her he is the boy they have found in the park. She continues with her story that he was at a friend's house so the police continue to find this friend and finally contact the mother of the child this lady claimed was the home he was at soo often.

The friend's mother had only met Rodney once, and had never met his mother, nor had Rodney ever stayed the night there. So where was it her son stayed when he was not at her house?

The police believed that he was locked out so often at night because the mother was off on drug binges, that this 10 year old boy and his brother slept in any shelter, burned out buildings, abandoned cars, or park benches they could find. They lived in North St. Louis, which is truly the ghetto of this town and so violent that the police are reluctant to patrol there. Nightly, there are drive by shootings.

Rodney's teachers described a little boy who had two sides to him. One, very happy and outgoing and extremely loving during school. Always a child that wanted to help out and be praised for doing a good job. He often came to school in the dead of winter with nothing more than jeans and a t shirt on.

The teachers at that school gave him and his brother jackets and gloves to keep them warm.

The other side of Rodney was that of a child who hated his life once he walked out of the school yard. He never wanted to go home, he rarely spoke of his mother. He was a sad child when discussions of family came up in class.

Now please would someone tell me why we must spend our tax dollars to teach a woman that has had two children how to be a mother. Why must we forgive her for that awful morning when her son's flesh was torn from his body in chunks as the pack of dogs devoured his living, breathing. struggling helpless little body. Why must we feel the need to comfort her and ease her guilt and provide her with a way to stop punishing herself for her son's most horrific death?

Do we need someone like this teaching other parents about how to be a mommy? That is what she wants to do now, educate other parents about raising children.

Personally, since I live with the reminder of that helpless child screaming for his life while those starving animals feasted off him, I think she should to. And I don't think we should make a hero out of her. I only wish for a moment, she could be made to feel 1% of the pain and torment and fear that her son felt those last ten minutes of his life.


Sorry, I will get off my soap box now.
 
Why would they ever consider releasing the older child back into her custody?
 
Angel said:
For once , I am utterly speechless.

Angel you have no idea how much anger and rage I kept from putting into my post. I can't imagine when I look at my sons, what kind of person could allow that to happen to theirs.
 
Kymberley said:


Angel you have no idea how much anger and rage I kept from putting into my post. I can't imagine when I look at my sons, what kind of person could allow that to happen to theirs.


I think the key is that it wasn't a person. There is NO WAY that can be classified as a mother.
 
morninggirl5 said:



Why would they ever consider releasing the older child back into her custody?



Sadly, because society believes way too much in the rights of the egg and sperm donors and less in the rights of the victims they destroy.

Why? I only wish we could answer that one. Why must courts allow children to be the guinea pigs of parents that are caught doing wrong and want a chance to prove themselves and save face in the eyes of the public. Once you make such grave errors in parenting, you should be kicked out of the game and let someone who is willing to do what you should have been doing all along take over.

Another interesting story can be found at

http://www.dallasnews.com

Once there, find the story about the 8 year old girl who was locked in a closet since 1997. Her mother had put her up for adoption at birth and then took her back because her family did not like how they look to their friends having one of their own adopted out.

The little girl weighed the same as 3 year old when they found her, covered in feces, urine and lice. She was starved weekly and her siblings were forced to act as though she did not exist. When the mother wanted to abuse someone, they took the girl out of the locked closet and would beat her, let her watch her siblings eat and then lock her back up.

Now the mom wants to reliquish parental rights and allow the couple who raised her the first 8 months of her life a chance to adopt this angel.

The family that protested the original adoption is not sure how they will deal with this. They are all "shocked and dismayed." They were also told for years the little girl was staying at a home where she was being taught to deal with an eating disorder.

The other five children have been removed from them as well. Will we someday forgive their mom and offer her parenting classes so she can try again?
 
morninggirl5 said:


I think the key is that it wasn't a person. There is NO WAY that can be classified as a mother.


Angel and Morninggirl...thank you both for being kind people with caring hearts. I have to go to bed, I can feel the tears again. It will be another long night thinking of Rodney and all the other kids that make headlines only after they suffer through hell at the hands of their parents.
 
I had read about the girl in Texas somewhere else. It's enough to make you question your beliefs sometimes.



Please believe I'm not mimizing anything the mother did, but in the case of the two boys, why didn't one of the teachers report the family to Social Services? I can't imagine a child being so obviously neglected and NOT reporting it.
 
morninggirl5 said:
I had read about the girl in Texas somewhere else. It's enough to make you question your beliefs sometimes.



Please believe I'm not mimizing anything the mother did, but in the case of the two boys, why didn't one of the teachers report the family to Social Services? I can't imagine a child being so obviously neglected and NOT reporting it.

They did, she was also being sought in another county in Missouri where she was accused of neglect and abuse. She packed up in the middle of the night and left without being questioned that time. She resurfaced here in St. Louis after this incident. Until then, CPS were unaware of who she was or that she was under investigation elsewhere.

The only response from the officials here in St. Louis, some families fall on harder times than others and since the only thing reported was they had no warm clothes, the officials were not able to do alot. Clothes were provided by the school and the boys never talked to adults about the conditions they lived in. The majority of how the children lived came out only after Rodney died.
 
i think i'm going to be sick.

Yep, it's official i'm going to be sick.
 
Every day you read in the papers/ hear on the news of people who just don't give a damn about the yuong lives they are destroying. It is extremely sad to hear/see. Children should be loved and cherished, they are our future. Unfortunately, most Social Services (and I am not trying to justify their actions by this statement) are so overworked and understaffed it is difficult for them to follow every single lead.

I also believe many family courts try too hard to keep dysfunctional families together. The way I see it, it is NOT always in the best interest of the child to be kept in a blood -family- environment. I have seen too many cases where the families put up a facade of what they want the outside world to see, and the children suffer for it.

In my opinion, no loving parent would ever NOT know where their child is, especially at the age of 10. You question them about their day, you learn about their friends, and you know where they are when it is time to go to sleep.

This is another case of where fucked up people have no right in having children.
 
In this country, as in all of human history, anyone with eggs who can find someone to give her some sperm (and how hard is that?) can be a mother. Sometimes it's a conscious choice, sometimes it happens casually, without the "mother" choosing such an awesome responsibility or being at all prepared to mother another living being.

We make people take tests to get a driver's license in this country, they have to be old enough to drink alcohol, old enough to vote, pass tests (at least) to graduate from high school and college - but anyone who has viable eggs can be a mother. After the kid is born, the system is all set up to protect her parental rights, too, no matter her fitness to parent.

It makes me sick.
I've seen students (even in my very upscale, very small, very liberal town) come to school regularly not having had any kind of breakfast, much less a proper and nutritious one. I've seen them come to school with suspicious bruises, and miss school, too, for that reason. I've seen cigarette burns on kids and black eyes, and heard a kid halting, painfully, confessing sexual abuse to me. I've cried with kids over what's been done to them by the people in positions of power and authority in their lives. I've reported several kids to my principal, as is law for teachers to do when they suspect abuse, and seen a couple of them removed from thier homes.

People who hurt the children in thier care in a criminal manner, and that includes, to my mind, badly enough to warrant the gov't stepping in to relieve them of thier parental obligations for even a short time, should be sterilized.

That's harsh, i know. However, we as a society, pay endlessly for the almost criminal whelping of children by those unfit to be parents. We pay out front in child protection personnel costs. We pay in the long term, too, by the more intensive education, care, and discipline (and i'm talking about very positive discipline here, a reeducation of sorts for these kinda abused kids) that most abused kids require for years and years after the abuse is discontinued.

The abuse of kids makes me ill.
I wasn't going to comment on this topic because it gets me so emotional but... the abuse of kids makes me ill and makes me want to scream.
Consider this a scream.

~stepping off the soapbox~[/I
 
Has anyone kept up the all of the shit going on in TX.

Let's see:

1. Man kills kids to "get back" at ex-wife - happend twice
2. Mother keeps child locked in closet for (TOO MUCH FUCKING TIME TO ACTUALLY MATTER - ANYTHING OVER A MINUTE IS WAY TO FUCKING LONG) i think a few years. - happened once but she has other children that show signs of abuse and neglect.
3. Mother drowns her 5 children in the bathtub- very recent/ thank the lord this is the first case reported.


I think everything above has happened within the last 2-3 months.
 
If you weren't sick before.........

A case in Arizona, where I just got back from visiting with my Aunt.

A father picked his 3 year old daughter from day care and took her for a ride in the car. She fell asleep and woke as he was pouring gasoline on her in a roadside ditch. As she yelled, "No Daddy no" he threw a match at her. He then drove up and down the street as she wandered in small circles and finally collapsed and died. After the flames died down he went back to see the body, got back in his car, drove to a store and bought a 6 pack and went home to drink.

He confessed and thinks he should be put to death for what he did. He may be mentally deficent and his lawers are trying to save his life because of that.

Of course he's mentally screwed up......no one in their right mind would do a thing like that.

OK, the throw up buckets are ready....you may begin.

OH, KSSS, you said the "F" word. Naughty, naughty, And it's FRIDAY.................................

Vi
 
Shocked is too poor a description!

I don`t think there`s an adjective around to accurately describe what these people are.

It makes you cherish what you have in your own children.

I also think this is a problem on the rise! It`s said that children emulate their abuser as the become adults themselves. It makes me afraid to think of all the cases of abuse that never see the light of day, all those children who could in adulthood become the abuser themselves, and carry out that abuse in a greater way than was brought down on them. It seems that this can only send it in an upwards spiral!

So what do you do? If you see what is seen as abuse, do you contact the authorities? Do you rsk the wrath of the abuser by challenging their behaviour? Do you simply ewank away and thank God it`s not your child?

Recently I watched a woman smack her kid, I use the term smack loosely, as what she actually did was thump the child across the back of his head with a fist! What for you may ask? Well - the child has spilled some of his drink onto his shoes, and hey this kid was about 4 years old, and was drinking from a wide lipped cup.

Well, in my own quiet way I approached this "mother" and asked if her kid was ok? He was by this time weeping like a lamb. I won`t transcribe what she said to me, but it was way out of line. But then she thought I was out of line for "sticking my nose in"

Would I do it again? DAMN RIGHT I would, but as this was happening dozens of people walked right on by, including the "Store Security" people!

People sometimes seem to just choose to ignore - maybe as they say "ignorance is bliss", but where do you draw the line and protect the innocence of youth.

<Going to hug my own 10yr old and tell him I love him! I need it even if he doesn`t!>

Heart xxxxx
 
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