How Can I Be Seductive?

[BDisaster]

Im a bigger girl but not in a way that makes me look huge, most have told me that I have a pretty face and everything and im 18. Anyway I really need to know how to seduce a person. I mean, i know how to flirt, or atleast i think i do, i just need advice on how to make myself scream sex! I really am clueless when it comes to this so any advice or tips would be awesome


edit: i should prob mention that this goes for guys and girls

 

[Casey811]

Seduction isn't a taught skill I have a feeling.

If you are attracted to some guy, you are going to let him know in one way or another and hopefully grab his attention.

Also, I'd be wary at how you put it "scream sex", it can be taken for "I'm a slut!" and that wouldn't be good in the slightest.

The ladies here will have much better advice on how to grab a guys attention than my neanderthal self.

 

[Kelmar]

Honestly not sure there is a single way to be seductive just simply due to the fact that different men has a different view what what is appealing to them. Myself I tend to be the clueless type that doesn't know somebody is hitting on him till they tell me. Which could just be due to the fact that I assume that they wouldn't be interested in me.

 

[Pyro Paul]

suduction is basicly just heavly flirting with some one with a solid intent. it is nothing that you can be taught in some crash course, its something you learn through the years. it helps if you know how to minupulate people but other than that it is mearly just a try and try again senario untill you get it right.

 

[HollyHawkk]

Communication You wouldn't believe the wide range of things Guys find sexy about a women.

 

[bisexplicit]

I think if we knew for what purpose, this would be more useful.

Are you trying to find a SO?

Are you trying to figure out how to "be sexy" for a current boyfriend?

 

[BDisaster]

well its for a very close guy and girl friend actually. Theyre both just drop dead sexy and theyre both pretty close to me. the guy has mentioned wanting to fool around but we havent done anything yet

 

[bisexplicit]

well its for a very close guy and girl friend actually. Theyre both just drop dead sexy and theyre both pretty close to me. the guy has mentioned wanting to fool around but we havent done anything yet

So, are you interested in finding out how to simply hook up with them, or how to create a relationship?

 

[BDisaster]

i think id like a relationship more, but since everyones moving off to college in a few months its gonna be hard to do that

 

[bisexplicit]

So, what exactly do you need help with?

How to dress sexy?

How to iniate a sexual encounter?

 

[BDisaster]

i need to know the best way to tell the person that you want to be more then friends, what type of clothes to wear when you do it, any type of gestures or movements to make during normal conversation with them

 

[bisexplicit]

Well, my first advice is: be yourself. You want them to want you for you.
With that in mind, you can still dress up a little, still make sure to make excuses to talk to them, to touch them whenever possible (without making the uncomfortable), and compliment them.

 

[Pyro Paul]

i would generaly think 'how to get them naky and ready for hot sexors with Meh!!' would be the aim lol, but yes the other alterior motives must be more evident if we can really help.

suducing some oen for a 1 night stand is a Totaly diffrent way from suducing some one for a 1 night long love fiasco with your SO...

 

[Moleculor]

i need to know the best way to tell the person that you want to be more then friends, what type of clothes to wear when you do it, any type of gestures or movements to make during normal conversation with them

Write a memo!

 

[Private_Label]

i need to know the best way to tell the person that you want to be more then friends, what type of clothes to wear when you do it, any type of gestures or movements to make during normal conversation with them

As someone who is also of the large variety - wear clothing that fits correctly. I have to look for shirts with a longer torso, otherwise I have skin showing when I don't want it to show. Dressing up a bit nicer than the average look for you, a little makeup a little perfume...

As for gestures - eye contact, casual light touches, say on his arm or hand are considered good. So is leaning in a bit closer when he talks to you.

 

[oxphocker]

I don't know about other people...but for myself, most of the time I either don't catch signals or if I am interested, I often don't make a move because I don't want to come off as pervy.

My suggestion is that if you are wanting to jump this guy and your ok with it not being a relationship...the best thing to do is to go at it with the perspective that you are out for your own pleasure at the moment and he happened to be handy. If this guy has already made comments in such a direction, then your job is simple in just finding some private time and quite literally jump him. Again, this might be going off on my own experiences...but I would find it incredibly arousing to see someone wanting me so much that they (to use a cliche from American Pie) 'use' me. Then again, I might just be strange and get off on things like that...

 

[karndav]

My husband has always told me that being sexy is a state of mind. If you feel good about yourself and your body then it will reflect in the way you act. I had a hard time believing him until recently. I never felt good about my body and and therefore was uncomfortable in lingerie and things like that. But I have started to come out of my shell. I have noticed that I am dressing sexier during the day, something that just kinda happened without a conscious thought. I no longer have trouble wearing lingerie for him. I am more flirty I guess you could say in my conversation and I have noticed that I am getting more looks than I have ever have before. my husband tells me that is because I feel good about myself finally.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

Ask her out on a date. Seriously!

A wise poster above described seduction as "serious flirting with intent." Asking for a date reveals some kind of intent, but leaves open whether this is just girlishly romantic girl-crush or something more serious, including carnal desire. Send signals that tell your friend she can take your invitation either way, so she has "space" and a comfort zone, but also the knowledge that you care a lot for her in a deeper way.

Lay on the serious flirting during the date, but tastefully. Then just play it by ear. Keep your "antennae" finely tuned for receptiveness, but be careful not to let your emotions trick you into seeing something that isn't there, either.

PS. I looked up this thread after your Valentine's quandary thread. I think this is good advice, but I'm not saying it necessarily applies to your current problem. You make that sound a little more cut and dried in an unpromising way.

 

[TBKahuna123]

My husband has always told me that being sexy is a state of mind. If you feel good about yourself and your body then it will reflect in the way you act. I had a hard time believing him until recently. I never felt good about my body and and therefore was uncomfortable in lingerie and things like that. But I have started to come out of my shell. I have noticed that I am dressing sexier during the day, something that just kinda happened without a conscious thought. I no longer have trouble wearing lingerie for him. I am more flirty I guess you could say in my conversation and I have noticed that I am getting more looks than I have ever have before. my husband tells me that is because I feel good about myself finally.

Yes! Exactly! Sexy is an attitude of confidence.

Look, just because you are a bigger girl does not mean youa re unattractive. that's where the term BBW came from. it's all about self confidence and attitude. Don't act sexy, BE sexy. Don't think you're sexy, KNOW you are sexy.

Sexy doesn't have to be bare midriffs and your ass hangin out of a short skirt. As Private label said, where clothes that fit and accentuate your beauty.

There is no one definition of beauty. If someone is hung up on the perfect body, nothing you can do will help. If they aren't closed minded though, a little attitude can go a long way. Make the effort to look atractive and that will show. Believe you're attactive and people wil notice it.

 

[thrity]

Some 'accident' physical contact may help. Sometimes it seems you do it on purpose, sometimes not.
You boy would fantasize more if you just do a little.

 

[Kama2k]

Think Sex

My husband has always told me that being sexy is a state of mind. If you feel good about yourself and your body then it will reflect in the way you act. I had a hard time believing him until recently. I never felt good about my body and and therefore was uncomfortable in lingerie and things like that. But I have started to come out of my shell. I have noticed that I am dressing sexier during the day, something that just kinda happened without a conscious thought. I no longer have trouble wearing lingerie for him. I am more flirty I guess you could say in my conversation and I have noticed that I am getting more looks than I have ever have before. my husband tells me that is because I feel good about myself finally.

Thats right, 70% of all communication is nonverbal, if you want to look sexy,you must feell sexy. If you want to look good you must feel good and if you want to look great , you must feel great about yourself.
I thik its marilyn munroe who said that she looks sexy because she thinks of sex all the time. I dunno if its true but thinking about sex (not all the time but atleast when you are on a date) helps a lot. Intent is not about your plans for the weekend, intent is also the focus of your mind at anytime. For eg a man or lady who looks great but is preoccupied with some thought will not look very sexy to their date.

 

[jerseyman1963]

Lots of good advice here already, so I don't want to duplicate anything, but I liked "Seduction is flirtation with intent," and "Be yourself," and the one about Marilyn Monroe saying she was sexy because she thought of sex all the time. Wonder if that's true of not? Well, if you adopt that as part of your strategy, let us know if it works. Anyway, here's my two cents.

First, hair make up and clothes are important. I want to clarify that I am not talking about looking like a fashion queen. What I am talking about is clothes, a hair cut and make up that is flattering to you. Every time I see someone wearing something that is not flattering to them, I wonder if they think they actually look good. Or f they care? This applies to rail thin people and bigger people, to men and women both. I used to work with a very large woman who wore stretch pants, and I'd think, "Doesn't she know that looks ridiculous?" Or when I see a rail thin woman with no hips wearing skin tight jeans, I think the same thing: "Doesn't she realize she has no hips and that makes her look sickly?" Or when I see a woman wearing too too much makeup, I think, "Doesn't she know she looks like she just had a fight with a bag of flour?" You didn't mention your own fashion sense, but make sure you're dressing to flatter yourself. Others will notice. Maybe ask an honest objective friend, or make a shopping trip and ask for sales advice specifically for clothes for this specific seduction mission you're contemplating. Well, you don't actually have to tell the saleswoman you're on a seduction mission if it's the wrong kind of shop for that, but you get the idea.

Second, definitely be yourself, and that will shine through and carry the day. If you're funny, be funny. If you're serious, be serious, but be yourself. People can tell when you're genuine, and people (again both men and women) who have a personal sense of themselves radiate that happiness with themselves and about their own lives, and I think that's a pretty darn sexy attribute.

And third I think, is be up front. I have found that women who are straightforward with me are very sexy. Maybe it's just me, and I do know some men and women who don't like it when someone else is more aggressive than they are, but you can spend a lot of time beating around the bush, in a manner of speaking, and I always thought it was cool when a woman would come right out and say, "I've been attracted to you and if you're of like mind I want to do something about it." Not that it happens to me every day, but when it has, usually at that point I've been flattered, and usually at that moment I start realizing she's showing more cleavage than usual, or touching my arm more than usual (yes, that old standby can send a signal), or looking me right in the eye so I know she's dead serious about making a move.

I've been with a couple of bigger women, and those times reminded me that sexual attraction is as much a brain thing as anything, a desire to be with someone specific because their personality and the way they seemed to be comfortable with their own body and with their own sexuality and with themselves turned me on. This sounds corny but if you love yourself and care enough to make yourself look good, and if you act yourself and are straightforward, maybe hinting a little or maybe just popping the question, that will all make you look and seem sexy and carry the day for whoever you decide that you want to be with.

 

[ickle_stace]

be confident in yourself, wear clothes that flatter your body shape, for example if you have great boobs, show them off, with a low cut top, and maybe a necklace.

dressing in things that make you feel sexy can help. I used to go out and just wanna get drunk and depressed cos nobody was interested in me.

Then one night, I bought this gorgeous dress that showed my breasts off a bit, cos i get complimented on them alot, and i felt sexy in the dress. I went out and I had guys left right and centre offering me drinks and stuff

i felt confident, and it was all in the head and the clothes i wore

 

[human_male]

I haven't read the other posts so someone's probably mentioned this, but eye contact is the most important thing, I'd think. It's a difficult question, but eye contact is a good place to start.