how being "bratty" works for me

[lilredwolph]

I'm going to try to make this understandable but I may fail miserably, as it is not totally clear to me how it works, it just does.

I will start out by saying sometimes I am a playful brat (bitty brat) but at others I am a defiant creature. I will try to keep this focused on "bitty brat" because that is the fun loving, jump on the bed, hide under a sheet and yell peek-a-boo, and play Marco Polo by myself in the shower for no reason other than I am tired of being an adult at the time. I leave my adult responsabilties at the the door, and become Bitty. I guess in basic terms Bitty is who I was before I had kids and all the responsabilties that go along with that. When I met my Dom 15+ yrs ago I was Bitty all the time.

Bitty is a persona with in myself that I just love, she makes people smile and laugh. Bitty is who my Dom fell in love with those many yrs ago when we were 24/7 and didn't have a care in the world. The relationship hit some big hard rocks and fell apart, I tried to move on, he tried to move on. We have both since learned that we were 2 of the most miserable, nasty humans on this earth. Every relationship we got into blew up in our faces, we both just kind of gave up on "finding the 1". I had some hard knocks and needed some where to turn, I needed my rock, so I picked up the phone late 1 night and dailed his number, 3rd ring he answered, and he knew immediately I needed HIM.

Game On -

We started talking and hanging out, he helped me work through some troubles I was having and I helped him with his. We stayed on a friends only level for 2 yrs while we worked out the troubles in our lives and our past troubles. Than one day out came Bitty, it was like something inside said OK time to move on, and we both knew it.

This is where we are now, Bitty has surfaced, telling the world I am at peace with myself, and it is time to move on. And moving on we are, trying to rebuild the D/s we once had.

How my brattiness fits in? Well I'd have to say it is a window that shows my inner most feelings and emotions, when I am not being bratty he knows something is bothering me and we need to get to that worked out before we can do anything else.


I know this doesn't help explain it well, so please ask me any questions you may have because I am much better at answering direct questions, because I have tendency to ramble and totally miss the point.

True To Yourself,
lilred

 

[Ebonyfire]

This is where we are now, Bitty has surfaced, telling the world I am at peace with myself, and it is time to move on. And moving on we are, trying to rebuild the D/s we once had.

How my brattiness fits in? Well I'd have to say it is a window that shows my inner most feelings and emotions, when I am not being bratty he knows something is bothering me and we need to get to that worked out before we can do anything else.

Thanks for taking the time to describe how your D/s works for you. Sometimes it takes people awhile to find out what works for them. Others never find out.

I have no questions, just an observation. IMHO, it really doesn't matter what others outside your relationship think. Obviously you and your partner have an understanding of each other's needs, and are willing to work to make things work for you two.

I love it when another example of the range of D/s relationships are described. My slave has a "scamp" side, which I encourage. But he knows just how far he can go without stepping over the line into smartass territory.

I will read what others post with great relish.

Ebony<Mistress to tavish>

 

[artful]

What a superior post to opening this thread

Thank you so much for giving us all a candid look into your life,...without going through a lot of non essential details,...truly well done. I mean no offense in what I am about to say,but your post might JUST as well have been tagged~Artful's dream~.


Although her circumstances are are far different than yours,...had she lived your life, I could see her typing out the post in the same MANNER as you did. Her personality is SO *bratty* at times,...yet the fun and adoration of the things she cares about are of paramount importance to her.


Because of how you presented yourself, I won't make a direct question to you, for it is TOO close to home.(home=dream)I will certainly be following this thread, as I am sure dream will also, observing what posts and responses are made to it.

 

[lilredwolph]

Bitty is,

a spoiled only child just craving a playmate.

I hesitate often on giving advice or opinions to other subs because many Dom/me's would not put up with my antics, and I fear something that I would normally do or how I would react to certain things would get others severally punished, so I find it best to keep my mouth shut. I feel I would be better in helping Dom/me's with handling a brat.

My Dom has had other subs and 1 (kind of) long term slave, since He and I went our seperate ways years ago, but none lasted long because he quickly grew bored with them because they didn't challange him, but they were afraid of the punishment for doing so. I on the other hand relish in the discipline and the punishment that goes along with my actions. I have not had another Dom/me beyond limited play time, because I have been unable to find one capiable of handling my needs and desires. I am the best and worst sub all wrapped up in one, most Dom/mes that I have met want the best of me but when they encounter the worst they are unable/unwilling to deal with it, even though many have told me "I would have kept you if you would have just behaved", to which I answer " to get the best you have to work for the best".

My Dom said to me last week "are you ever going to be good?", I replied with an impish "NO", he kissed me on my head and said "good".

True to you and no other,
lilred

 

[CarolineOh]

I know this doesn't help explain it well, so please ask me any questions you may have because I am much better at answering direct questions, because I have tendency to ramble and totally miss the point.

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I think you explained yourself quite well, and I thank you for your very interesting post.
I think it is wonderful that you have found a way to live a life that allows you to express all aspects of your personality.
It troubles me that some in bdsm seem to take the position that the submissive is inherently flawed, and needs to be altered to be good enough to deserve their dominant's attention. It sounds to me that you have incorporated what others might see an a fault into a delightful asset to your realtionship.

 

[Shadowsdream]

lilredwolph


Congratulations on a wonderful post. Well written and shows the beauty of the playful side of a sub.

I have no time for obnoxiuos subs BUT I have all the time in the world for the playful, silly brat that tries to make Me laugh. I think it is courageous, sweet and sexy.

Of course I also expect that sweet, silly, bratty, beast to know when it is the right time for such antics.

 

[lilredwolph]

jusy bumping to show "my brat"

 

[spankableBelle]

We all have playful sides, we all seek attention...and we all do it in different ways...i have a teasing side that's flirty and playful and many times a bit of a smartass, she giggles and finds something sexual in everything...her name is belle...she does things and says things that her RL counterpart lisa would never even dream of for fear of rejection...and at the same time, she is the REAL lisa inside that is trying to get out...i don't disobey deliberately, i don't play games seeking attention, though i have tried in the past and it has backfired tremendously...i often sit back and wish that i could, but it's not part of who i am and not part of who i am discovering...i never learned to be a child, so maybe that's part of it...belle and lisa co-exist and they compliment each other, drawing on strengths and weaknesses to create the whole person...(lordy, i hope this doesn't sound like i have multiple personalites and that i switch back and forth at different intervals... ) i laugh and i am playful, i tease and i flirt... by my silence by my distance by my short answers to comments and questions...maybe in it's own way that's bratty...i've never been comfortable asking for or blatantly outwardly doing anything that simply screams 'PAY ATTENTION TO ME' ...

Bitty sounds delightful, lilred...absolutely delightful...

i don't know if any of this has made any sense, but...there it is...

belle