House of Refuge

[MagicaPractica]

Just stopping in to offer {{{{{hugs}}}}} to Gianna, Mrs DL and Victoria. I have reminded myself of how much I have today and feel full up to give to others so

 

[Gi_Venus]

Great to hear from you Victoria!
*snuggle huggles for GI!*

Thank you deathlynx

 

[Gi_Venus]

Just stopping in to offer {{{{{hugs}}}}} to Gianna, Mrs DL and Victoria. I have reminded myself of how much I have today and feel full up to give to others so

Thank you Magica, back at you (((((Hugs))))))

 

[MrsDeathlynx]

Thank you MrsD LOL I do lean on my friends.....sigh! I need a lot of them and all have been wonderful. I am ingrained in habits of behavior and thought when it comes to those in my immediate family, the dynamic I find myself trapped in is still that of the teenager.....it was when I caused the most trouble, they have kept me there in that time from long ago, my problem is that I gage my sucess by them and their reaction.....not by my own standards.....so even when I am successful if they do not react well, I find myself a failure.....Really to break the dynamic is to stride ahead regardless of what they say, to disregard their disapproval and opinions and to walk my path. It becomes difficult as they are more intent on disrupting me the more independent I become. They hold a flawed image of me......and I am not that person. I have problems with my ex too. I love her deeply....she does not love me anymore but we have a child we are trying to raise. Her sometimes active dislike of me wrecks me and makes me an emotional wreck, I cannot break with her without hurting our child and I need to for my own sanity. So I cry late at night usually and I help her when I can. We are not estranged because she recognizes the good in me for our child, that I have things for him. LOL..I cannot be a prime male role model though.

Someone who has helped out with my issue is Ungenderless, you may want to PM her and talk to her as she has been a big help with me and may be able to help with you more than I can at this point. *hugs*

 

[MrsDeathlynx]

~ Hello MrsD., D., TE., Sir...

I am all too well aware that it's been ages since I've stopped by, and even longer since I spoke about the house issue. I really had hoped it would have been settled - in some fashion - by now... but sadly, it is not and has not.

So many other issues have prevailed themselves upon my time and risen to take a more immediate place in line.

I just wanted to stop in and say a short hello and let you all know I'm still around... just not as highly visible in some places... and bouncing all over the board in others.

And then, due to the extenuating circumstances of so many situations... I just want to hide or leave... or worse.

Hope all is well with you my friends.

Missing you all,
I remain,
Victoria

x 11 for MrsD

*hugs for victoria* Hang in there babe, we're here whenever you need us.

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Great to hear from you Victoria!
*snuggle huggles for GI!*

Heya "D",

Thanks! I felt the visit was long overdue.

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Just stopping in to offer {{{{{hugs}}}}} to Gianna, Mrs DL and Victoria. I have reminded myself of how much I have today and feel full up to give to others so

Thanks Magica!
It's always nice to hear when ppl are doing good and things are going well. I'm glad to hear it. Hope it continues for you.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Someone who has helped out with my issue is Ungenderless, you may want to PM her and talk to her as she has been a big help with me and may be able to help with you more than I can at this point. *hugs*

thank you MrsDeathlynx.

 

[deathlynx]

I deffinately reccomend Ungie...she's a great person to talk to in general and a very compasionate one...

*huggles!*

 

[jomar]

What you say is true, one reason I am having difficulty is that of core issues, my therapist believes that really the root problem of almost all that plagues me comes to one thing.... my lack of self esteem. It is his belief that if I deal with this particular issue that much of my anxiety and depression will disappear. Accepting myself as I am deals with the reality of the society in which I find myself and the people that surround me. If I am secure in my belief in myself the social issues become irrelevant at least to my personal experience. LOL but like you say...knowing it is one thing. Yes you have been helpful *hug*. My experience is actually self nuturing, a coming to my true self....I am fearful of others interferring
from their lack of understanding.

Hmm. Been a bit since you posted, but...perhaps - self-esteem never hurts, unless one has too much of it that is unfounded. In the meantime, if you don't want meds, ahem, studies have shown one gram of Omega-3 fish oil taken daily substantially improves mood in folks experiencing depression.

Thanks for letting me butt in.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Hmm. Been a bit since you posted, but...perhaps - self-esteem never hurts, unless one has too much of it that is unfounded. In the meantime, if you don't want meds, ahem, studies have shown one gram of Omega-3 fish oil taken daily substantially improves mood in folks experiencing depression.

Thanks for letting me butt in.

you are never butting in, you are kind and gentle...I like you. Thank you, I may try it.... There are probably times where I should post on this thread....I am notorious about not asking for help when I need it. The low self esteem comes from being molested when I was little and family giving me negative feed back...it makes it so much more important to be able to stand on my own which I cannot seem to do. Sigh... but I have some wonderful friends who look after me and nudge me back into the light.

 

[buxxxom]

Ignore me. I'm just gonna curl up in a corner somewhere.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Ignore me. I'm just gonna curl up in a corner somewhere.

How about I hold you in my arms and sooth you a bit?

 

[jomar]

you are never butting in, you are kind and gentle...I like you. Thank you, I may try it.... There are probably times where I should post on this thread....I am notorious about not asking for help when I need it. The low self esteem comes from being molested when I was little and family giving me negative feed back...it makes it so much more important to be able to stand on my own which I cannot seem to do. Sigh... but I have some wonderful friends who look after me and nudge me back into the light.

Thanks, I like you too. And I try to be kind and gentle when I...butt in (sunshine and light humor here). Hang in there. It's the molester's fault, not yours - truly. And your family, well, no knowing yours, sometimes people are not equipped to deal with things or find that if they acknowledge things they must then make difficult choices or accept they were wrong, which might mean a a lifetime of lies will need to be brought to light. And even parents and family can be damaged people. I'm on your side and will chime in from time to time.

 

[jomar]

Ignore me. I'm just gonna curl up in a corner somewhere.

No hiding. Unless you need to right now.

 

[Gi_Venus]

Thanks, I like you too. And I try to be kind and gentle when I...butt in (sunshine and light humor here). Hang in there. It's the molester's fault, not yours - truly. And your family, well, no knowing yours, sometimes people are not equipped to deal with things or find that if they acknowledge things they must then make difficult choices or accept they were wrong, which might mean a a lifetime of lies will need to be brought to light. And even parents and family can be damaged people. I'm on your side and will chime in from time to time.

By all means do step in if you see me drowning. I am needy and greatly appreciate interaction....*grin* I promise not to leave tear stains on your shirt though.....*sigh* thank you, you are kind. Last night Misty turned me to a better mood.... she is a lovely person.

 

[jomar]

By all means do step in if you see me drowning. I am needy and greatly appreciate interaction....*grin* I promise not to leave tear stains on your shirt though.....*sigh* thank you, you are kind. Last night Misty turned me to a better mood.... she is a lovely person.

Ha again, you lurker (I think)! Me too, though. And I will. And don't worry about the moisture.

 

[buxxxom]

How about I hold you in my arms and sooth you a bit?

thank you

 

[Gi_Venus]

thank you

You are welcome sweetie.