switchersm
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I have a very different view on cuckolding lifestyle. Not the race play with BBC, not the Bull thing. I think it is much more porn influenced/-fantasy as reality.
People, who start cuckolding, have normally more reasons as to watch the wife being fucked by or the wife wants to fuck with a bigger cock,especially black.
Why aren't there black couples, who want it with a white big cock?
As said there are more reasons.
If an otherwise functioning relationship is opened one-sidedly so that only the woman has sexual pleasure with one, or rarely several, men, then there are usually several reasons. A prerequisite is usually that the man is sexually submissive and stands by it, he has spoken openly about it with his wife and she accepts it and knows how to deal with it. In addition, it is usually the case that the man cannot fuck his wife to orgasm because he always comes too early or doesn't last long enough or she simply doesn't reach orgasms with him. This can have physical, psychological or health reasons. This doesn't have to lead to cuckolding, the man can also satisfy his wife with his tongue, fingers or dildos. Only when he really wants to give her orgasms through fucking do open conversations begin about fantasies and what if. Only when the woman wants it and when both are sure that their relationship can tolerate the woman having sexual intercourse with another man can cuckolding occur.
Does the couple then go looking for a so-called bull who dominates both of them and uses the woman like a submissive cunt and/or is looking for a big black cock? Of course not. That would be Bullshit.
It has to work for both of them. The third party you are looking for must be agreeable to both, be sympathetic, attractive and sensitive and be able to respond to what the couple has in mind and what they have previously agreed upon in long discussions and conversations. The husband will usually want to watch, partly because he obviously wants to be there, when his wife hopefully gets her special wished sexual experience and satisfaction, but also for safety reasons. Whether the woman fucks bareback, whether the husband then participates intensively, for example by licking his wife after the other man has come inside her, what develops further, depends on many factors.
But first the right third party has to be found. And that's why it often fails, an acceptable man cannot be found, so that in the end cuckolding doesn't happen and often only the fantasy remains.
In our case, it was a coincidence that we found a suitable man, although we weren't even looking. We had discussed before, years before, what a corresponding man should be like. The reason was, that I had never experienced orgasms during intercourse with my husband or with the men before him. My husband doesn't have a small cock and can fuck for a long time, but it never made me orgasm. That's why he always satisfied me very intensively with his hard-working tongue. That was enough for me, but I would still have liked to experience orgasms during sexual intercourse. He knew that and wanted to make it possible for me. We had often talked about how things should work with another man and what he should be like. We also often fantasized during sex about another man fucking me to orgasm in front of my husband, which made us extremely aroused.
When we met my constant lover - as I said, by chance - we both knew immediately that this could be the right one. He was personable, respectful, interested in both of us and willing to listen to our ideas.
He was then actually able to fuck me to orgasm. That was our start to cuckolding. A very intense three-way relationship developed. My husband is always there, always included. During sex he is dominated by me, not my lover, is treated by me in such a way that his submissive wishes and needs are satisfied, but also does everything to satisfy mine. This also includes him licking me out, giving me another orgasm and also licking my lover's cock. There is also verbal humiliation, but exclusively by me and only because he wants it.
We are still totally in love with each other. I don't love my lover, just his cock. But he became a very good friend to both of us, almost like a family member. We also do a lot of things together, that have nothing to do with sex, cinema, restaurants, saunas,... My husband and my lover also regularly go to the football stadium together, without me.
This is our way of cuckolding and we know from personal conversations with three other cuckold couples, who live their cuckolding in different variations like we do, that there is no so-called bull as the women's lover.
It's a long text, but I felt the need to contrast the male fantasies - its usually nothing more - about cuckolding, that predominate here, with my female view and experience of a different and real cuckolding.
People, who start cuckolding, have normally more reasons as to watch the wife being fucked by or the wife wants to fuck with a bigger cock,especially black.
Why aren't there black couples, who want it with a white big cock?
As said there are more reasons.
If an otherwise functioning relationship is opened one-sidedly so that only the woman has sexual pleasure with one, or rarely several, men, then there are usually several reasons. A prerequisite is usually that the man is sexually submissive and stands by it, he has spoken openly about it with his wife and she accepts it and knows how to deal with it. In addition, it is usually the case that the man cannot fuck his wife to orgasm because he always comes too early or doesn't last long enough or she simply doesn't reach orgasms with him. This can have physical, psychological or health reasons. This doesn't have to lead to cuckolding, the man can also satisfy his wife with his tongue, fingers or dildos. Only when he really wants to give her orgasms through fucking do open conversations begin about fantasies and what if. Only when the woman wants it and when both are sure that their relationship can tolerate the woman having sexual intercourse with another man can cuckolding occur.
Does the couple then go looking for a so-called bull who dominates both of them and uses the woman like a submissive cunt and/or is looking for a big black cock? Of course not. That would be Bullshit.
It has to work for both of them. The third party you are looking for must be agreeable to both, be sympathetic, attractive and sensitive and be able to respond to what the couple has in mind and what they have previously agreed upon in long discussions and conversations. The husband will usually want to watch, partly because he obviously wants to be there, when his wife hopefully gets her special wished sexual experience and satisfaction, but also for safety reasons. Whether the woman fucks bareback, whether the husband then participates intensively, for example by licking his wife after the other man has come inside her, what develops further, depends on many factors.
But first the right third party has to be found. And that's why it often fails, an acceptable man cannot be found, so that in the end cuckolding doesn't happen and often only the fantasy remains.
In our case, it was a coincidence that we found a suitable man, although we weren't even looking. We had discussed before, years before, what a corresponding man should be like. The reason was, that I had never experienced orgasms during intercourse with my husband or with the men before him. My husband doesn't have a small cock and can fuck for a long time, but it never made me orgasm. That's why he always satisfied me very intensively with his hard-working tongue. That was enough for me, but I would still have liked to experience orgasms during sexual intercourse. He knew that and wanted to make it possible for me. We had often talked about how things should work with another man and what he should be like. We also often fantasized during sex about another man fucking me to orgasm in front of my husband, which made us extremely aroused.
When we met my constant lover - as I said, by chance - we both knew immediately that this could be the right one. He was personable, respectful, interested in both of us and willing to listen to our ideas.
He was then actually able to fuck me to orgasm. That was our start to cuckolding. A very intense three-way relationship developed. My husband is always there, always included. During sex he is dominated by me, not my lover, is treated by me in such a way that his submissive wishes and needs are satisfied, but also does everything to satisfy mine. This also includes him licking me out, giving me another orgasm and also licking my lover's cock. There is also verbal humiliation, but exclusively by me and only because he wants it.
We are still totally in love with each other. I don't love my lover, just his cock. But he became a very good friend to both of us, almost like a family member. We also do a lot of things together, that have nothing to do with sex, cinema, restaurants, saunas,... My husband and my lover also regularly go to the football stadium together, without me.
This is our way of cuckolding and we know from personal conversations with three other cuckold couples, who live their cuckolding in different variations like we do, that there is no so-called bull as the women's lover.
It's a long text, but I felt the need to contrast the male fantasies - its usually nothing more - about cuckolding, that predominate here, with my female view and experience of a different and real cuckolding.
