Hot wives or not
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cuckoldbill
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my wife had been a very active slut before I met her. I can highly recommend a wife who knows and understands what men like.
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Maybe somewhere in between. Say... 1.5?
My wife was very experienced as was I when we met. We are active swingers even now. We are very happy with our lifestyle but we realize that it’s definitely not for everyone.
I have friends who would loose their minds if they think their wife’s have any experience other than them. That’s an attitude I couldn’t deal with. To me such jealousy or insecurity could kill a relationship.
I have friends who would loose their minds if they think their wife’s have any experience other than them. That’s an attitude I couldn’t deal with. To me such jealousy or insecurity could kill a relationship.
A woman that gets hung up and rules of society is probably going to be conservative in bed. I would much rather have an experienced woman. One who knows what she needs or likes and is not afraid to ask for it. I am also fine with her needing some variety now and then and would encourage her to satisfy her needs.
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A wife who is interested in sex is important to me. And if a woman has a reasonably high sex drive it seems quite unrealistic to expected her to be sexually inexperienced (or even exclusive). Not impossible I guess but I see a high correlation between interest in sex and sexual experience so one just comes with the other naturally.
I prefer #2 for sure. I’ve had the other and they were prudes. I think sexual experience is a double standard that isn’t fair, women like sex just as much as guys and they shouldn’t be looked upon negatively for enjoying themselves, and in turn they’re a lot more fun in bed and open minded. I much prefer a woman with experience, and my gf is a hotwife (minus the marriage part) so straying is encouraged.
I agree. I am sure there are women who are content with just one man and they could be great in bed but I bet they tend toward conservative in the bedroom. If you want a woman who is sexually enthusiastic, I think they are usually going to have had some experience and learned how to have fun. I think these are also women who are more likely to be interested in experiencing some other men as well. Most guys certainly look around and see a woman that they would love to get to know in the biblical sense. It makes sense that women do too and they generally would find it pretty easy to entice a guy.
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If I had to take her as I found her, "2" definitely.
But there would be something delicious about corrupting her view about monogamy and marriage, so "1" girls have their appeal.
But there would be something delicious about corrupting her view about monogamy and marriage, so "1" girls have their appeal.
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I married a #2 and worked on helping her find new levels . It's been a fun ride even though she has a line she's never crossed . At least as far as I know .
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#2... Maybe you're what she was looking for in her past life.
Besides, what if a #1 is just someone who hasn't strayed yet....?
Besides, what if a #1 is just someone who hasn't strayed yet....?
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Well, those are the two extremes. I think most men, like most women, seek a mate who has everything. For men, we want an experienced sexual partner, who knows what she wants and is willing to entertain our fantasies. But we are upset if she seems to have too much experience. This could threaten our male egos. Men who are more confident, I think, will trend toward the #2 type woman, and vice-versa. I do know at least one guy however who definitely chose a #1 type for his wife. To each their own.
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I think most men want what they do not have.
If they have a wife (or had a wife) that was rather a prude, then they would desire a wife that was more aggressive in the bedroom, passing off any former promiscuity as the pay to get that kind of woman.
But for some of us that have had aggressive women in terms of sex, and know the drama and heartache that can come from that, then we want a more subdued wife.
Some of it too has to do with age and maturity. As you get older, you tire of the struggles and just want your days to go by with little stress. I have no problem looking at a pretty woman, sexily clad on the street and daydreaming about sex with her, because I know the reality of having to fund her way of life, should I actually be with her, or wed to her. No thanks, I'll just look and daydream.
If they have a wife (or had a wife) that was rather a prude, then they would desire a wife that was more aggressive in the bedroom, passing off any former promiscuity as the pay to get that kind of woman.
But for some of us that have had aggressive women in terms of sex, and know the drama and heartache that can come from that, then we want a more subdued wife.
Some of it too has to do with age and maturity. As you get older, you tire of the struggles and just want your days to go by with little stress. I have no problem looking at a pretty woman, sexily clad on the street and daydreaming about sex with her, because I know the reality of having to fund her way of life, should I actually be with her, or wed to her. No thanks, I'll just look and daydream.
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Totally! I never had any use for a jealous man!
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I've had two wives.
The first was sexually inexperienced, we lost our cherries to each other. But she was sexually adventurous, loved reading explicit literature, not so keen on visual porn, never once denied me sexual access to her body, eventually explored open marriage with me, was a devoted lover of MFM 3'sums, didn't like traditional partner swapping but was happy for me to do my own thing. We eventually split, amicably, we agreed it was time to end it. We had been married 26 years, about 18 of those in an open marriage. We are still close friends.
Second wife was sexually experienced, was a former prostitute, not counting paying clients she reckons she had slept with approximately 30 guys, before we hooked up. She is sexually adventurous, she loves being fucked hard but prefers orgasms from being licked out, we have been monogamous the whole time we've been together and I wouldn't change that for the world.
Which do I prefer, well... I think I prefer sexually experienced women, mainly because you don't have to fart arse around trying things and experiementing. I'd rather a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it. But having said that I've been lucky with my two women, one totally inexperinced when I met her, the other very experienced. I wouldn't change a thing.
The first was sexually inexperienced, we lost our cherries to each other. But she was sexually adventurous, loved reading explicit literature, not so keen on visual porn, never once denied me sexual access to her body, eventually explored open marriage with me, was a devoted lover of MFM 3'sums, didn't like traditional partner swapping but was happy for me to do my own thing. We eventually split, amicably, we agreed it was time to end it. We had been married 26 years, about 18 of those in an open marriage. We are still close friends.
Second wife was sexually experienced, was a former prostitute, not counting paying clients she reckons she had slept with approximately 30 guys, before we hooked up. She is sexually adventurous, she loves being fucked hard but prefers orgasms from being licked out, we have been monogamous the whole time we've been together and I wouldn't change that for the world.
Which do I prefer, well... I think I prefer sexually experienced women, mainly because you don't have to fart arse around trying things and experiementing. I'd rather a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it. But having said that I've been lucky with my two women, one totally inexperinced when I met her, the other very experienced. I wouldn't change a thing.
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Yes.
You mean they generally don't care?
mollylonglegs2020
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Or maybe both, and some stuff in between too.
Well the question is which do they prefer in general.
When my wife and I first got together, she was the safe and inexperienced woman. When she did stray, it began to turn me on. I wished she’d do it again. It took many years, but she did did finally drop her panties for another man. That kickstarted our hotwife lifestyle. I’m loving it. But I would like it more if more men fucked her throughout our marriage.
Everybody is different but I suspect that most women need more than one lover.
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I think that we often misjudge women and our likely behaviour if we simply extrapolate from past behaviour because we overlook the role that sexual repression and shaming play in women's lives. It is very difficult for a woman to know herself sexually if she hasn't had any sexual experience.
When you see a "good girl" she may be a woman who does genuinely have limited interest in sex or truly want to limit her number of partners and pursue a monogamous lifestyle. Or she could be a woman who very much wants a more expansive sexual experience but has been compelled to repress that aspect of herself. The presence of repression directly discourages women from being honest with themselves and others, yet it doesn't change our fundamental nature at all. In my observation a lot of the women who cheat are women who realize later in life that they want more than what society has told them they are supposed to have.
Meanwhile when you see a "bad girl" she may be a woman who just isn't suited to a monogamous commitment. Or she may be a woman who is strong enough to not let others tell her how to live her life and is taking the time to know herself sexually - if she does settle down it will be a mature and informed decision, which makes for a very stable relationship. The simple fact that a woman is more sexually enlightened and engaged and presents herself that way does not mean she cannot be self-sufficient, supportive and faithful wife.
I think the difference lies in other aspects of behaviour and motivation. A sexually experienced woman who is open and honest with her lovers is very different from one who regularly cheats and lies. A sexually inexperienced woman who has chosen that path of her own volition is very different from one who exists in a world of repression, bitterness and self-righteous judgment of others who pursue a different path. Sexual promiscuity and dishonesty/deceit do not go hand in hand. They are separate characteristics. We are led to believe that one implies the other because that is the model by which women are shamed into compliance. Just because we know women who cheat and are devious and hurtful about it doesn't mean that is the case for all women who are sexually experienced and desirous.
When you see a "good girl" she may be a woman who does genuinely have limited interest in sex or truly want to limit her number of partners and pursue a monogamous lifestyle. Or she could be a woman who very much wants a more expansive sexual experience but has been compelled to repress that aspect of herself. The presence of repression directly discourages women from being honest with themselves and others, yet it doesn't change our fundamental nature at all. In my observation a lot of the women who cheat are women who realize later in life that they want more than what society has told them they are supposed to have.
Meanwhile when you see a "bad girl" she may be a woman who just isn't suited to a monogamous commitment. Or she may be a woman who is strong enough to not let others tell her how to live her life and is taking the time to know herself sexually - if she does settle down it will be a mature and informed decision, which makes for a very stable relationship. The simple fact that a woman is more sexually enlightened and engaged and presents herself that way does not mean she cannot be self-sufficient, supportive and faithful wife.
I think the difference lies in other aspects of behaviour and motivation. A sexually experienced woman who is open and honest with her lovers is very different from one who regularly cheats and lies. A sexually inexperienced woman who has chosen that path of her own volition is very different from one who exists in a world of repression, bitterness and self-righteous judgment of others who pursue a different path. Sexual promiscuity and dishonesty/deceit do not go hand in hand. They are separate characteristics. We are led to believe that one implies the other because that is the model by which women are shamed into compliance. Just because we know women who cheat and are devious and hurtful about it doesn't mean that is the case for all women who are sexually experienced and desirous.
A version of 1-- I see her at a restaurant as she slips into the booth. She's a little overweight and as she slides in, her legs part and I see she is NOT wearing panties, her bare pussy on display and it looks very inviting. She blushes when she sees I'm looking at her as she slaps her thighs together. After she settles into the seat she keeps looking over toward me. Then she looks at me directly and opens her thighs. I can see the dewy lips now. To me, she's a 1 realizing that it turns her on to do something she's never done. If she is an experienced 'flasher', it loses something. Buy if she is blushing and yet is enjoying displaying.......it's all the more exciting if she hasn't done this before!
I did have a high school teacher that was leaning over to get something in a low bookshelf and the skirt rode up to show her pink pantied pussy. She saw me looking and turned red.....but never said anything.
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