His porn

[UtilityCurve]

What always confused me was that my female partners, from nearly one-night-stands to my wife, were almost desperate to know "what you watch/want to see" in porn.

Uh, somewhere along the way, guys get the distinct impression from the girl they're "with" (fucking) that if he never looked at porn again, so much the better.

But at the same time, as the trust between them rises, girls get ... curious, in my experience.

What's up with that? Are you humoring our horniness? Or are you threatened (and seek to defeat the fantasy girls)?

Not one female I have ever been with (see above) hasn't been curious about my porn habits.

Why?

 

[Rob_Royale]

Pretty common for folks just starting out to want to learn each other's kinks and fetishes. And look for potential red flags.
I mean if you partner has ______ penetration in their search history, it's something you'd want to know sooner rather than later.
(I'll let ya'lls depraved brains fill in that blank.)

 

[kribensis33]

What always confused me was that my female partners, from nearly one-night-stands to my wife, were almost desperate to know "what you watch/want to see" in porn.

Uh, somewhere along the way, guys get the distinct impression from the girl they're "with" (fucking) that if he never looked at porn again, so much the better.

But at the same time, as the trust between them rises, girls get ... curious, in my experience.

What's up with that? Are you humoring our horniness? Or are you threatened (and seek to defeat the fantasy girls)?

Not one female I have ever been with (see above) hasn't been curious about my porn habits.

Why?my wife says I'm big enough. Dont believe her. She loves watching bbc

 

[tristantrotsky]

What always confused me was that my female partners, from nearly one-night-stands to my wife, were almost desperate to know "what you watch/want to see" in porn.

Uh, somewhere along the way, guys get the distinct impression from the girl they're "with" (fucking) that if he never looked at porn again, so much the better.

But at the same time, as the trust between them rises, girls get ... curious, in my experience.

What's up with that? Are you humoring our horniness? Or are you threatened (and seek to defeat the fantasy girls)?

Not one female I have ever been with (see above) hasn't been curious about my porn habits.

Why?

Sometimes a little too much honesty can be a dangerous thing. Even with the best of intentions.
When I confided to a new lady friend, in the interests of honesty and openness, that I masturbated at least once a day, she immediately took fright, assuming that I'd expect daily sex with her - which, yes, would have been nice, but she took fright at the thought and backed off...

 

[UtilityCurve]

Sometimes a little too much honesty can be a dangerous thing. Even with the best of intentions.
When I confided to a new lady friend, in the interests of honesty and openness, that I masturbated at least once a day, she immediately took fright, assuming that I'd expect daily sex with her - which, yes, would have been nice, but she took fright at the thought and backed off...

That is truly sad and bespeaks immaturity (usually a male symptom, I admit). I know you regret losing the opportunity, but honestly, this was a win.

 

[ericrodman101]

My (male) partners tend to find out my porn habits pretty early on….often before the next morning.

 

[slavemelanie]

Its definitely curiosity, but also a desire to know likes and needs of your partner. A women can summize what a man likes but she can't read his mind. Open honest communication is key to happiness in any relationship and fulfilling each others desires and fantasies.

If a woman is intimidated by her man watching porn there are more serious relationship issues.

 

[DrHappy]

Your experience has been the opposite of mine. None of my partners (female) has ever showed any interest in what I watch/see in porn.

I’ve been married about 2 decades and we don’t watch together as much since we have kids living at home. When we have watched together, she’d often comment on women’s ugly shoes or cluttered bedrooms and has always seemed completely unfazed at things I’d choose, like anal, group sex, pegging or creampie eating. She knows I like variety, both in the bedroom and with porn. She knows I watch alone, and her attitude is “Have fun!”

Maybe the difference is the age group?

 

[falkor207]

First thought on reading this is could this be a way to break the ice and discuss sex in general. Starting a conversation about liking to be tied up, spanked, anal, etc could be awkward depending on the kink or fetish for some. Discussing viewing choices may just be a way to open that door with a new partner.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Maybe exchange tumblrs at the same time as phone numbers?
Seeing each other’s spank material can be fun!

 

[StrongMaster7]

I've never had a woman mention my porn habits ever, even to ask if I looked at porn. My wife does not want to know, I'm sure.

If I was going to start a new relationship with a woman, I would, early on, sit down with her and tell her exactly what I like sexually and that I watch porn and have a very high sex drive. Every relationship I've ever had has started out as a G-rated friendship and I found it impossible to suddenly just 'reset'.

"I know we have done some kissing and light petting, but I am really into titfucking and butt stuff. Cool?"

 

[MaxwellSmart86]

My wife has asked me what I have looked at/watched. Sometimes it's just to compare what I watch to what she watches (she prefers to watch porn for the women more so than the men in it). But we used to watch porn together (before we had kids and could watch it whenever we wanted). Other times it was to see if there was something we could try.

 

[Amandyla]

Why?

The only reason I ask this question, is that way to see if there are additional kinks we can add to our list of what we like together. He will ask me this back as well, and it is rather a great way to divulge interest. Let's say you have a hard time describing it, send a link, or just compare favorites and see what there is to do together. Haha

So far, we share every kink and it is fantastic.

 

[UtilityCurve]

The only reason I ask this question, is that way to see if there are additional kinks we can add to our list of what we like together. He will ask me this back as well, and it is rather a great way to divulge interest. Let's say you have a hard time describing it, send a link, or just compare favorites and see what there is to do together. Haha

So far, we share every kink and it is fantastic.

Bravo!

I really should have added to my OP that my partners have been reluctant to the point of outright refusal to share their (if any--I get that it is not the near-necessity it is for males) likes (dislikes flow a bit more freely).

I can think of many reasons for this, pretty much none of them good as they presume either an inability to open up or a fear of exposing the unvarnished truth.

 

[littlecordelera]

I've never had a woman mention my porn habits ever, even to ask if I looked at porn. My wife does not want to know, I'm sure.

I've never asked a guy what his porn habits are, not even my husband. But now that I think about it, maybe I should!

 

[FL30]

Lots of women, even in today's society are still put off by porn or have the thought that if their guy is still watching porn that they themselves are NOT enough for their guy. A lot of girls still think that guys watching porn is "pervy" or weird if they're in a relationship.

I've had several relationships over the years and only one was ok with us watching porn.

 

[elaner18]

The only reason I ask this question, is that way to see if there are additional kinks we can add to our list of what we like together. He will ask me this back as well, and it is rather a great way to divulge interest. Let's say you have a hard time describing it, send a link, or just compare favorites and see what there is to do together. Haha

So far, we share every kink and it is fantastic.

Love this!

 

[elaner18]

I think as with most conversations around sex in a relationship it’s incredibly helpful. To me it’s more how you approach because I can easily see most men just couching their responses a bit until they know how open they should be.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I've never asked a guy what his porn habits are, not even my husband. But now that I think about it, maybe I should!

Has he ever asked you if you watch porn? Or masturbate? He's your husband, but know that whatever his habits are, they have been private up until now. Just saying.

 

[littlecordelera]

Has he ever asked you if you watch porn? Or masturbate? He's your husband, but know that whatever his habits are, they have been private up until now. Just saying.

He's never had to ask me. I tell him. And sometimes when I please myself, I have him watch. (In case you can't tell, I'm really shy.) I've never asked him about what porn he watches, because I've never felt I needed to. Although our sex life is unusual, it's very good.

 

[Islander55]

I have never really talked about porn with most of my partners. My husband and I watched some over the years so I have a good idea of what his interests are. Though in retrospect, I would guess that he chose things that he thought I might like so I probably did not get a good idea of what his real interests were. It would be a good way to get to know the kinky things that someone might like so perhaps this is a topic that I will think about broaching with some of my male friends.

 

[rjhsteel]

What always confused me was that my female partners, from nearly one-night-stands to my wife, were almost desperate to know "what you watch/want to see" in porn.

Uh, somewhere along the way, guys get the distinct impression from the girl they're "with" (fucking) that if he never looked at porn again, so much the better.

But at the same time, as the trust between them rises, girls get ... curious, in my experience.

What's up with that? Are you humoring our horniness? Or are you threatened (and seek to defeat the fantasy girls)?

Not one female I have ever been with (see above) hasn't been curious about my porn habits.

Why?

My wife wasn't and hasn't been interested in that at all!

 

[AnalLady]

That is truly sad and bespeaks immaturity (usually a male symptom, I admit). I know you regret losing the opportunity, but honestly, this was a win.

Totally agree

 

[live4thebj]

A few ladies discovered my incest fetish. Only one mistaken it for child porn.

 

[AnalLady]

A few ladies discovered my incest fetish. Only one mistaken it for child porn.

What your fetish is exactly?