Hints that a woman might be available

[ParkerSteve66]

Guys: What verbal clues gave you the idea that a friend, neighbor or acquaintance might be interested in a sexual liaison. One clue was from my current long term FWB, "I'm a very oral person." This led to obvious questions that eventually led to her saying how much she loves sucking cock. Another recent clue, that will lead to a liaison, "My hubby and I get along great.....but he isn't too interested."

Gals: How would you verbally signal?

 

[Iwant2havefun]

Great question, great potential thread which i'm looking forward to reading! I'm especially interested in the ladies' replies.

i was on a plane a few years ago, an international flight. A very good looking girl, 25, was sitting next to me. We started chatting, and she was very flirtatious. She was reading Cosmopolitan, and she turned to show me an article in the magazine. "Look at this," she said. It was an article that said that swallowing sperm really helps your skin look good. She looked me straight in the eye and said "I must have the best skin, then, because I love to swallow." Innocent, obviously inexperienced/immature me just smiled back at her, and never tried anything (even though it was a 7 hour overnight flight to Europe.) One of my biggest regrets.....she was CLEARLY signaling her interest in exploring, and i'm pretty sure we could have shared an experience....!

 

[Ingenue844]

I would just be my typical awkward self and it would go nowhere.

 

[2tallpaul]

My secretaries called them spinners. Women that would do a 360 in front of my office door. Like a dog settling on a carpet.

Emails. Receiving emails that are not necessary.

Never compliment the obvious. Admiring the simple things like a manicure and polish over knock out eyes.

A wedding band. Take your child to the pool or a ball pit without the wife.

And shut up, women pick up men. You pick up women, it's like a seven year car loan, you're buried and cannot get rid of it. Never take a wing man. Arrive early, sit at the bar, tip the bartender well right off the bat and he will act like your best friend. Order on water for every drink. They will come to you like a fish to a snapping turtle. When your friends come in, watch as they spawn the bar.

Six years of college, bartending, bouncing, and escorting women that wanted to be left alone.

Or Tinder, like buying a salad at Walmart and not finding an expiration date.

Hope that's a good start for you.

 

[Jada59]

I'm choosy. I would never initially get with someone just for sex. So I don't go around intentionally giving off signals for that. That bei ng said, I have been told that I give off constant signals. What? I don't know.

 

[ParkerSteve66]

Hi Jada, unintentional signals could bring unwanted attention. AND, some are completely unavoidable.

For example, women with extremely large breasts might get unwanted looks and drink offers at a bar. Not her fault, just the way it is.

Or, showing a lot of cleavage - might draw stares. Etc, etc.

Some women just exude an aura (not of sexiness) but of sensualness that men will pick up on.

 

[April602]

Well I have often commented that sometimes I thing there is a slut sign painted on my forehead…lol
Women who cheat often have an aura about them…men just know.
I can be a very touchy person, I don’t even know I am doing it most of the times.
If I am interested in a man believe me they know Or can sense it.

See my thread of pictures of me which relate to my stories.
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/aprils-sexual-journey.1565816/#post-95138328

 

[GuySLut]

My wife has said the vary same thing. She has said that it’s like she wore a T shirt with the slogan “ if I find you sexy you will possibly get some!”

 

[NotAFool]

I've had a relatively high body count of women I've slept with over the years. But that number would probably double or more if I were better at picking up on the subtle hints by women wanting me to make a move. I wouldn't figure it out until the next day or sometimes sooner. I'm still kicking myself over a couple of the ones I let get away. But, overall, I've had more sex than the average man with a lot of amazing women. So, I can live with that.

 

[waratah]

I've had a relatively high body count of women I've slept with over the years. But that number would probably double or more if I were better at picking up on the subtle hints by women wanting me to make a move. I wouldn't figure it out until the next day or sometimes sooner. I'm still kicking myself over a couple of the ones I let get away. But, overall, I've had more sex than the average man with a lot of amazing women. So, I can live with that.

My numbers not that high. But similarly I reckon I've missed more signs than I've picked up.

 

[Bbl87]

Maybe I'm just rusty, or maybe women aren't that attracted to me anymore, haha, but I haven't really picked up on this kind of stuff in a long time. The whole wedding ring thing probably reduces to pool too.

I'm just a naturally boisterous and friendly guy, don't know if it comes across as flirting or not, but I usually get it back in kind but don't think anything of it.

If a girl starts making veiled references to sexual things, that'd usually be my biggest cue, or if every conversation tends to steer that way.

I have an ex who I talk to on Facebook occasionally, and most of our conversations end up talking about our sexual relationship. Not in a dirty/sexy way, just about how things went down. I've often wondered if that's her hinting at something, but she's happily in a long term relationship and I'm married, so I've always just brushed it off.

 

[NotAFool]

My numbers not that high. But similarly I reckon I've missed more signs than I've picked up.

It can be difficult for some men to pick up on those cues. Especially when younger.
With me, I think that growing up with older sisters and a lot of their girl friends hanging around and having to spend time with them being six and seven years younger than my sisters, I was taught a lot and just observed a lot as well by these girls on both ways of being with women as friends and as a boyfriend which made it hard sometimes to know if a girl was just being friendly or being interested in me. I'm not going to say I was every girl's fantasy but I was, maybe still am, a pretty good looking guy and I would say that about half of the time women approached me and made it very clear they wanted to get together. Women would buy me drinks at bars and clubs, and I got rejected plenty of times but still had pretty good percentage of getting lucky when approaching women. So when I would meet a girl who is part of the group of friends I'm hanging out with I usually didn't think beyond just being friends with said girl who was talking to me and even if we made plans to do something I didn't assume it was going to be more than just getting to know each other so I basically friendzoned myself or the girl would get her ego hurt because I didn't hit on her or make a move and she would be pissed off and think I was an asshole or gay or whatever. I did learn late that women don't like being friendzoned even more so than men do. It really fucks with them badly. They start to question their femininity and their sexual marketplace value and they will turn very ugly and hate you for not being receptive to their advances even if very subtle.
Sometimes I would be unresponsive to advances by women because I knew too much about them already and either they were crazy or slept with too many people I knew and who knows how many I don't know? Or she was an ex of a friend and I would just ignore their hints or I would tell them I wasn't interested. I've had women half naked on my couch or bed by their own undressing and I've told them to get dressed because I just wasn't into what was going to happen after a night of fucking. I wasn't into having a girlfriend and I definitely wasn't into crazy women who think I was their boyfriend after a one night stand. I've come home to women in my bed when I got home from work because they were friends of my female roommate and she would let them in and hangout then they would climb into my bed and wait for me to get home. Twice that happened and one time I told her she had to go after questioning her sanity and her manners. The other time I just let her sleep and went and slept on the couch and then in the morning gave her and my roommate a bunch of shit for not having respect for my privacy and that what if I came home with a girl and there was already a girl in my bed naked waiting for me?
I guess I shouldn't be complaining. If that was one of my biggest problems during my 20s and 30s.

 

[NotAFool]

Maybe I'm just rusty, or maybe women aren't that attracted to me anymore, haha, but I haven't really picked up on this kind of stuff in a long time. The whole wedding ring thing probably reduces to pool too.

I'm just a naturally boisterous and friendly guy, don't know if it comes across as flirting or not, but I usually get it back in kind but don't think anything of it.

If a girl starts making veiled references to sexual things, that'd usually be my biggest cue, or if every conversation tends to steer that way.

I have an ex who I talk to on Facebook occasionally, and most of our conversations end up talking about our sexual relationship. Not in a dirty/sexy way, just about how things went down. I've often wondered if that's her hinting at something, but she's happily in a long term relationship and I'm married, so I've always just brushed it off.

I completely understand and been in that situation, not the being married part, but just being nice and having a fun conversation and not thinking about it any other way because the woman is married or has a boyfriend and is she just being fun and a little Flirty or is she wanting more? I always take the friend thing so I don't make a move and fuck up a friendly conversation and friendship.

 

[jehoram]

Signals I've seen:

1. A woman leaning over to give you a better view down her blouse.

2. A woman touching you more than the situation calls for. (This can be a difficult call, since people in some cultures are more "touchy" than in other cultures.)

3. A woman who asks you, however indirectly, about your sex life. That is, assuming she's not a doctor.

 

[Bbl87]

Signals I've seen:

1. A woman leaning over to give you a better view down her blouse.

So, I work in the legal realm and was meeting with someone the other day, she was basically giving me a sob story to get sympathy, even though I honestly had no say in what happened with her. She not so subtly leaned forward a bit and pulled down the neck of her shirt for a better view (she was quite well endowed in that area).

I wanted to be like, appreciate it, but isn't going to get you anywhere.

 

[ParkerSteve66]

So, I work in the legal realm and was meeting with someone the other day, she was basically giving me a sob story to get sympathy, even though I honestly had no say in what happened with her. She not so subtly leaned forward a bit and pulled down the neck of her shirt for a better view (she was quite well endowed in that area).

I wanted to be like, appreciate it, but isn't going to get you anywhere.

I understand that legal ethics may have possibly influenced your decision. However, if ANY woman "...not so subtly leaned forward a bit and pulled down the neck of her shirt for a better view..." by me, then I definitely would have tried to get her into bed (or at least a blowjob) - assuming there was a mutual attraction.

 

[ParkerSteve66]

Signals I've seen:

1. A woman leaning over to give you a better view down her blouse.

2. A woman touching you more than the situation calls for. (This can be a difficult call, since people in some cultures are more "touchy" than in other cultures.)

3. A woman who asks you, however indirectly, about your sex life. That is, assuming she's not a doctor.

Jehoram,

#1 and #3 (which has happened to me in the last month) are definitely good signs.

#2 is a little trickier. I am originally from New Orleans and people there are much more gregarious than in Seattle. So a hug from a New Orleanian, without other signs, would not mean the same thing as in Seattle.

 

[Bbl87]

I understand that legal ethics may have possibly influenced your decision. However, if ANY woman "...not so subtly leaned forward a bit and pulled down the neck of her shirt for a better view..." by me, then I definitely would have tried to get her into bed (or at least a blowjob) - assuming there was a mutual attraction.

Oh, don't get me wrong, she was actually pretty hot. But between being married (though slightly tempted due to some discontent with our sex life) and risking my job, not remotely worth it. I work for the court, not a law office or anything like that, so I'd be in DEEP trouble. And something like that doesn't take long to get around and uncovered.

 

[Diosax]

Lol some of you are real pricks aren't you?

 

[ParkerSteve66]

Lol some of you are real pricks aren't you?

Yep, I definitely have a real prick.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

The most direct I've been was "You can put it up my arse if you want". He already knew I was available, but was resistant, and I wanted him.

 

[ParkerSteve66]

The most direct I've been was "You can put it up my arse if you want". He already knew I was available, but was resistant, and I wanted him.

That is more than just a hint. My response would have been: "If you insist, but I'd rather put it in your mouth or cunt."