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[LAdymorrgian]

Well I dont really know where to begin. My and my man are still pretty new. Sex is good. We go at it on average about twice a day. (we were busy people and ony really see each other on the weekends) but any way here the deal. We had sex on Friday. yum yum. Sat roles around and we got at it again...and I tried everything i could think of to get him off....and he didnt blow....we went out and tried many hours later...and it took him jerking it for him to get off....so I have a question

Any suggestions?

edit: Many recived and simply conferimed I did the right thig...thanks

 

[TBKahuna123]

It happens. There are many times when I just can't get to that point andit's usually when I'm either tired or we've been having sex a lot(like everyday for a few days in a row). There are of course the numerous outside factors too like stress, etc. The reason jerking him off probably worked is because it's a more steady, constant stimulation which can litterally force an ejaculation.

The big thing is don't get so hung up on the orgasm, just enjoy the action.

 

[CorsetLvr]

Well I dont really know where to begin. My and my man are still pretty new. Sex is good. We go at it on average about twice a day. (we were busy people and ony really see each other on the weekends) but any way here the deal. We had sex on Friday. yum yum. Sat roles around and we got at it again...and I tried everything i could think of to get him off....and he didnt blow....we went out and tried many hours later...and it took him jerking it for him to get off....so I have a question

Any suggestions?

Yes, one. Don't obsess about it. It happens to some guys. Don't take it personal. It may have nothing to do with you. Making it a big deal will only make you both more self-conscious about it. It could have been stress or any of a number of other factors that caused it.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

Yhea I know it hapens and he is very considerate. I aint hung up on it, I was just hopeing for tips to relax him and the like. I know it happens and it has nothing to do with me persay.

 

[CorsetLvr]

Yhea I know it hapens and he is very considerate. I aint hung up on it, I was just hopeing for tips to relax him and the like. I know it happens and it has nothing to do with me persay.

Once a guy has that problem he may tend to obsess about it and it creates stress that results in it becoming a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy. Down playing it may be the best solution.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

Okay at least I did that right >.< lol

 

[CorsetLvr]

Okay at least I did that right >.< lol

Something like viagara or cialis may also be something to look into. He may not physically need them, but it can act as a crutch to get him over it. My guy takes Cialis, but that is more for recreational rather then therapeutic reasons.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

hmm if this continues I may have him look into it. I am not really worried about it has one happened a few times...

 

[CorsetLvr]

hmm if this continues I may have him look into it. I am not really worried about it has one happened a few times...

Just get some samples from your Doc to have on hand for "emergencies."

 

[LAdymorrgian]

Just get some samples from your Doc to have on hand for "emergencies."

always be prepared >.< lol

 

[Scepter]

Something like viagara or cialis may also be something to look into. He may not physically need them, but it can act as a crutch to get him over it. My guy takes Cialis, but that is more for recreational rather then therapeutic reasons.

Viagra, especially in larger doses can actually delay orgasm, which is good if the guy orgasms too soon, but not so good if he has a hard time getting off.
If he gets and stays hard he doesn't need it...

If he starts dwelling on the problem he will only make it worse, just tell him to enjoy the sensations, the rest will probably take care of itself

 

[LAdymorrgian]

He aint caught up in it as far as i know. I did play it down as much as I could. I mean in all reality it didnt bug me all that much. I know he wants me and all that ect. I was just curiose more than anything.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Wait, it sounds to me that he didn't have any trouble maintaining an erection, he just couldn't reach orgasm, correct? Viagra isn't gonna help that.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

Wait, it sounds to me that he didn't have any trouble maintaining an erection, he just couldn't reach orgasm, correct? Viagra isn't gonna help that.

Yup...not trouble on the hardness >.<

 

[TBKahuna123]

I was thinking about htis and I often have this during a morning session after a night when we've made love. I can usually still cum, but it takes me forever and I don't have trouble keeping an erection. Usually my back gives out first.

I honestly wouldn't give it a second thought. I know my wife never complains.

 

[phoenix1224]

Everyone seems to be assuming that this is some sort of problem... Aren't you women always saying that too many guys cum waaay too soon?

Seriously, it happens... And it is in NO way a big deal... OR a problem.

Kahuna hit the nail on the head with his first post... I know that this tends to happen to me when I'm really tired or after I've already had sex once or twice already that same day.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

Okay got it totally. Just to let you know I did NOT mind it...I was just wondeing...it is nice to hear I did thing rght by playing it down >.<

 

[tbg312]

Ladymorrgian,

I agree, don't obsess about it, enjoy it. I personally have this "issue" and while at times it would be nice to have a quickie, being able to last is a benefit for my wife. How many women get the opportunity to say enough? I am willing to give up an organism each time for this benefit, and most days my wife would agree.

I also agree with TBKahuna123, jerking him off probably worked is because it's a steady, constant stimulation which can literally force an ejaculation.

 

[pellso27]

You know what I think

Well I dont really know where to begin. My and my man are still pretty new. Sex is good. We go at it on average about twice a day. (we were busy people and ony really see each other on the weekends) but any way here the deal. We had sex on Friday. yum yum. Sat roles around and we got at it again...and I tried everything i could think of to get him off....and he didnt blow....we went out and tried many hours later...and it took him jerking it for him to get off....so I have a question

Any suggestions?

edit: Many recived and simply conferimed I did the right thig...thanks

Not a good sign!

 

[SweetErika]

Not a good sign!

Everyone has, or will have, this happen at some point. As long as you don't make it into a big issue, get in the cycle of thinking it'll happen every time, blame each other, or let it affect your self-esteem, it's not a problem. There's nothing here that indicates it's a bad sign.

 

[pellso27]

well,,,,

Everyone has, or will have, this happen at some point. As long as you don't make it into a big issue, get in the cycle of thinking it'll happen every time, blame each other, or let it affect your self-esteem, it's not a problem. There's nothing here that indicates it's a bad sign.

Thats not smoke I smell, something is just burning

 

[TBKahuna123]

Thats not smoke I smell, something is just burning

Bah! Whatever you say. Go to a doctor ans Doc I couldn't cum this one time, what's wrong? He'll laugh in your face and charge you $50!

There's nothing burning and it's not smoke you smell. Someone just farted, that's all.

 

[LAdymorrgian]

Not a good sign!

bug off

 

[pellso27]

bug off

bug off

well, I will do that!...no problem

 

[LAdymorrgian]

well, I will do that!...no problem

I dont diss yours, Dont even dare fucking THINK about dissing mine