Here's my random bondage correlation of the day

[Quint]

So T and I have been talking about marriage--not ours. Those of mutual acquaintances. We were a little bemused at several cases.

For example, his cousin's parents were simply dating for the first 17 years of her life. They married when she was 17 and divorced two weeks later.

In less extreme cases, even people who had lived together before marriage told us that they have more (and more serious) fights after they tied the knot. Their exact words were, "The paper changes things."

So here are my thoughts on this. Compare two situations: in the first, the submissive is told to remain lying down in exactly the same position, not moving an inch. Nothing but command. In the second, the submissive is encased in one of those ziplock bodybags from the more hardcore side of BDSM merchandise. I really don't think a submissive in Case A would use a safeword to get out, whereas I think it quite likely of someone in Case B, even though their degree of movement is exactly the same.

So does that sound like a fair analogy? People rest easier in a relationship that they know they COULD leave, even though they wouldn't?

 

[FungiUg]

Sounds fair to me.

 

[MissTaken]

I don't know if the paper changes things or the lack of easy out changes things, but the analogy is a good one.

Now, just wondering, is it in poor taste to wear your walkman when in the zip lock body bag?

 

[emme]

I think it all depends on why. When I see a couple the lives together for years and then decides to get married I have to wonder why. Was there something wrong in the relationship before that they were trying to fix with the wedding? I have seen couple also try to "fix" a marriage with a baby or a new house.

Then again, I choose not to live with my husband before we got married, so I don't know

 

[Vixandra]

There are couples where being married changed very little. My beloved and I are like that. The bigest change for us was joint finances, LOL. He got my "there money in the account, I can spend it" mentality that I'm working on, and I got his collage debt... bout even LOL.

For some people though- marriage changes everything. They get wrapped up in the "steriotypical man and wife" idiocy or they assume things should change and make them.

 

[MissTaken]

Too lazy to get the links

but the last time I got into a discussion such as this one, the statistics seemed to indicate that there is a much higher divorce rate in marriages wherein couples cohabitated prior to getting married.