I am 31 y.o. and have been married for 6yr but together for 10. Over the past year or so it seems that my sense of adventure has flown south, but not just for the winter. I love my husband and love making love to him, but it seems that his need for adventure has only gotten greater where mine is dwindling fast... Can anyone offer some advice or has anyone been in this same situation and if so what did you do to change things.
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Just wanted to let you know, I'm someone who is in the male position of the situation you described--to the point of being married and with my spouse for about the same timeframe. My wife has also lost that 'sense of adventure' from our younger days, and I can't quite figure out what's going on...
So, if 'losing your sense of adventure' is clearly NOT a euphemism for losing your sex drive, I can speculate on a couple of things:
1. He's having a sort of midlife crisis in the sense of hoping to 'sow his wild oats...'--in my case, we were married before I had a lot of sexual experiences, and there's always the part of me that wonders what I may have missed...
2. Conversely, you're more ready to settle into the relationship for the long haul, and he doesn't think he's quite that ready to give up his youthful sense of adventure...
Anyhow, I'd love to hear if you come up with any answers, since I haven't found a solution to my own situation!
Roman
So, if 'losing your sense of adventure' is clearly NOT a euphemism for losing your sex drive, I can speculate on a couple of things:
1. He's having a sort of midlife crisis in the sense of hoping to 'sow his wild oats...'--in my case, we were married before I had a lot of sexual experiences, and there's always the part of me that wonders what I may have missed...
2. Conversely, you're more ready to settle into the relationship for the long haul, and he doesn't think he's quite that ready to give up his youthful sense of adventure...
Anyhow, I'd love to hear if you come up with any answers, since I haven't found a solution to my own situation!
Roman
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One obvious question that comes to mind is if the two of you are discussing this. I've seen his postings about you in other threads and he seems very proud of you. And, I can see why he is. I'd encourage you to try new things. I'd discourage you both of you from bringing a third party into a physical encounter as a means of providing a spark. One of you may respond and the other could resent it. Like I said he seems to be proud of your relationship and I can understand why, you're a hottie dear. I also sent you a PM.
Hi Roman,
Thanks for your thoughts, first I would like to say that I know it's not a matter of him wanting to sew his oats, because when all the actual adventure began it was because of me. I initated it. It's almost like you said, I am just ready to be comfortable, but what is wrong with comfort and adventure?
Thanks for your thoughts, first I would like to say that I know it's not a matter of him wanting to sew his oats, because when all the actual adventure began it was because of me. I initated it. It's almost like you said, I am just ready to be comfortable, but what is wrong with comfort and adventure?
