Help....

[eversobeautiful]

Here is my question to you all...

It sounds strange but oh well...

How do you get a guy inside you?

I've tried but its like... hard as hell, I cant seem to get the penis inside me.. it kinda just... WONT go in...

 

[cybergirly]

Here is my question to you all...

It sounds strange but oh well...

How do you get a guy inside you?

I've tried but its like... hard as hell, I cant seem to get the penis inside me.. it kinda just... WONT go in...

huh???

 

[Zamdrist]

Here is my question to you all...

It sounds strange but oh well...

How do you get a guy inside you?

I've tried but its like... hard as hell, I cant seem to get the penis inside me.. it kinda just... WONT go in...

Uh...uh..uh...try lubrication?

A bit snug are we?

 

[Nora]

Re: Re: Help....

Uh...uh..uh...try lubrication?

A bit snug are we?

Or maybe he's not um...fully aroused, perhaps?

 

[Zamdrist]

Re: Re: Re: Help....

Or maybe he's not um...fully aroused, perhaps?

Possible...a problem I've never had

 

[Nora]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Help....

Possible...a problem I've never had

Dat's cuz you're a STUD!

 

[JLatino]

it sounds like you're just really tight.

 

[Zamdrist]

it sounds like you're just really tight.

No shit? LOL

 

[Lasz]

well can you get ANYTHING inside you?

 

[Lasz]

Could the Hymen not be broken?
I dont know anything about that.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

would it have helped to answer, if she had mentioned she was 16 last time she tryed?

(everyone seems confused by the question, I thought mabey this would bring less confusion.)

 

[eversobeautiful]

AHHHHHHHH!

Better explain better....

I was 16 at the time and now I'm 19 so it could be different plus of course, I'm kinda scared.. not always but I was molested so I'm a LITTLE scared... YES, I'm tight... as for breaking the hymen, no clue... I guess I still have one but havent been to the GYON (or whatever) (going very soon) so not sure...

God, now I feel pathetic!

 

[Wiggles]

It's probably because you're not fully aroused and comfortable.

Lube is an issue if you're not aroused. Tightness is an issue if you haven't had any in awhile. If you're very tight you're probably feeling pain. If you have a low tolerance for pain, you'll probably ask him to stop.

You just have to know that once it's in, it feels sooo good.

So, in short; you need lube, persistance, arousal and a belief that it's worth it.

 

[Zamdrist]

AHHHHHHHH!

Better explain better....

I was 16 at the time and now I'm 19 so it could be different plus of course, I'm kinda scared.. not always but I was molested so I'm a LITTLE scared... YES, I'm tight... as for breaking the hymen, no clue... I guess I still have one but havent been to the GYON (or whatever) (going very soon) so not sure...

God, now I feel pathetic!

Don't feel pathetic...we are having a bit of fun at your expense, but that's Lit. Someone will help you, someone who knows what they are talking about. Unlike us goofy men!

 

[cybergirly]

AHHHHHHHH!

Better explain better....

I was 16 at the time and now I'm 19 so it could be different plus of course, I'm kinda scared.. not always but I was molested so I'm a LITTLE scared... YES, I'm tight... as for breaking the hymen, no clue... I guess I still have one but havent been to the GYON (or whatever) (going very soon) so not sure...

God, now I feel pathetic!

Ok, everso, dont feel bad, we just need to know a bit more to help you out. If your scared your not going to relax enough to hmm make it possible for your muscles to stretch. You were molested, so I assume you tense every inch of your body when you try and have sex. The first thing you need to do is make sure that your with someone you trust completely, who understands how hard, probably more mentally than physically, it is for you and you need to relax. He needs to take it slow..and yes use lube. Trust him, trust yourself.

 

[perks]

you're not pathetic.

have you ever masturbated?

Have you ever mutually masturabated another person?

Are you specifically asking for the mechanics? Like if you guide it to your hole, or is it just not working when you try to put things inside you?

If you're just wondering cause you want to do the deed, there are tons of different ways to experiment, before the cock ends up in the pussy. I'd suggest you not going for that right away. You can have fingers and tongue and then by the time it gets to the cock, you'll be lubricated, and juicy enough, no matter how tight for a cock to penetrate.

don't forget to breathe.

 

[eversobeautiful]

I've had 11 major surgeries so I have a low tolerance for SMALL pain but a HUGE tolerance for BIG pain BUT.. when I tried, it was SO damned painful I made him stop... because I felt like a failure and the pain.... it just wasnt right and I'm glad cause he was cheating on me but.... we tried over 4 times and each time --- squat... and you know what? the ass.... he ENJOYED the small amount he was in me while I was in god knows how much pain? can you GUESS how much i wanted to hit him?

Jess

 

[cybergirly]

I've had 11 major surgeries so I have a low tolerance for SMALL pain but a HUGE tolerance for BIG pain BUT.. when I tried, it was SO damned painful I made him stop... because I felt like a failure and the pain.... it just wasnt right and I'm glad cause he was cheating on me but.... we tried over 4 times and each time --- squat... and you know what? the ass.... he ENJOYED the small amount he was in me while I was in god knows how much pain? can you GUESS how much i wanted to hit him?

Jess

Then its a good thing, honey.

Have you ever been able to relax? Going back to the others questions, have you ever masturbated, had oral sex?

 

[eversobeautiful]

Okay, since i wont meet you people (LOL) except one.. I can say this.. course I'd say it anyway even if i saw so..

I've never had an orgasm... self-induced or not.. EVER.. I'm afraid too I think... cause you lose control and thats something I dont want to give up.. but I'm trying to overcome that...

you're not pathetic.
-- thank you..

have you ever masturbated?
-- sort of.. I try but...

Have you ever mutually masturabated another person?
-- no....

Are you specifically asking for the mechanics? Like if you guide it to your hole, or is it just not working when you try to put things inside you?
-- I NEVER put anything in me but the penis and a vibrator... and yes on specifics..

If you're just wondering cause you want to do the deed, there are tons of different ways to experiment, before the cock ends up in the pussy. I'd suggest you not going for that right away. You can have fingers and tongue and then by the time it gets to the cock, you'll be lubricated, and juicy enough, no matter how tight for a cock to penetrate.
--- I LOVE oral sex.. LOVE it... not partifially giving (it could have been the guy) but getting it... foreplay is an awesome thing...

 

[Nora]

First off, I must give you the knee-jerk berating for not going to the gynecologist. EVERY woman, sexually active or not, should be having annual PAP smears and pelvic exams. And your doctor is the perfect person to talk to if you have fears that your body isn't responding properly. Don't be shy with her/him. They see a billion of 'em a year and they've heard and seen everything under the sun.

Secondly, if you're too scared to do it, then don't do it. You don't owe anyone. If you wanna have sex and you're just not comfortable with it, it could be that your subconscious is telling you that you're not ready, no matter how much you wanna do it to please the guy.

Assuming that none of that is the case and you're just a little tightly wound and nervous about the mechanics of the whole thing, relax. Play around a lot more. Get used to other stuff first. Let him get you excited enough so that you are physically ready for him (we women are wonderfully self-lubricating!). Have him bring you to orgasm some other way first, either manually or with his mouth. That will relax your muscles and uh..prime the pump, so to speak.

The number one thing is to be sure. Be sure it's the right guy. Be sure it's what YOU want to do. Oh, and be sure that he uses a condom, k?

 

[cybergirly]

Okay, since i wont meet you people (LOL) except one.. I can say this.. course I'd say it anyway even if i saw so..

I've never had an orgasm... self-induced or not.. EVER.. I'm afraid too I think... cause you lose control and thats something I dont want to give up.. but I'm trying to overcome that...

you're not pathetic.
-- thank you..

have you ever masturbated?
-- sort of.. I try but...

Have you ever mutually masturabated another person?
-- no....

Are you specifically asking for the mechanics? Like if you guide it to your hole, or is it just not working when you try to put things inside you?
-- I NEVER put anything in me but the penis and a vibrator... and yes on specifics..

If you're just wondering cause you want to do the deed, there are tons of different ways to experiment, before the cock ends up in the pussy. I'd suggest you not going for that right away. You can have fingers and tongue and then by the time it gets to the cock, you'll be lubricated, and juicy enough, no matter how tight for a cock to penetrate.
--- I LOVE oral sex.. LOVE it... not partifially giving (it could have been the guy) but getting it... foreplay is an awesome thing...

Does it hurt when you use a vibrator?

 

[eversobeautiful]

First off, I must give you the knee-jerk berating for not going to the gynecologist. EVERY woman, sexually active or not, should be having annual PAP smears and pelvic exams. And your doctor is the perfect person to talk to if you have fears that your body isn't responding properly. Don't be shy with her/him. They see a billion of 'em a year and they've heard and seen everything under the sun.
--- I'm only 19 and my first one we already have scheduled for this month I think.. secondly, I'm terrified of going because of the molestation so we waited so no need for berating because I know the importance, my mom didnt go one year and she had cancerous cells -- they took them out but you get the picture...

Secondly, if you're too scared to do it, then don't do it. You don't owe anyone. If you wanna have sex and you're just not comfortable with it, it could be that your subconscious is telling you that you're not ready, no matter how much you wanna do it to please the guy.
-- I dont do anything I dont want to.. not for anyone or anything.. I learned that the very hard way... and I know, I wont

Assuming that none of that is the case and you're just a little tightly wound and nervous about the mechanics of the whole thing, relax. Play around a lot more. Get used to other stuff first. Let him get you excited enough so that you are physically ready for him (we women are wonderfully self-lubricating!). Have him bring you to orgasm some other way first, either manually or with his mouth. That will relax your muscles and uh..prime the pump, so to speak.
-- if only I could orgasm (I know, you think, there is something WRONG with her...)

The number one thing is to be sure. Be sure it's the right guy. Be sure it's what YOU want to do. Oh, and be sure that he uses a condom, k?
--- god, CONDOMS are rule #1 -- no condom, no nothing!

 

[cybergirly]

First off, I must give you the knee-jerk berating for not going to the gynecologist. EVERY woman, sexually active or not, should be having annual PAP smears and pelvic exams. And your doctor is the perfect person to talk to if you have fears that your body isn't responding properly. Don't be shy with her/him. They see a billion of 'em a year and they've heard and seen everything under the sun.

Secondly, if you're too scared to do it, then don't do it. You don't owe anyone. If you wanna have sex and you're just not comfortable with it, it could be that your subconscious is telling you that you're not ready, no matter how much you wanna do it to please the guy.

Assuming that none of that is the case and you're just a little tightly wound and nervous about the mechanics of the whole thing, relax. Play around a lot more. Get used to other stuff first. Let him get you excited enough so that you are physically ready for him (we women are wonderfully self-lubricating!). Have him bring you to orgasm some other way first, either manually or with his mouth. That will relax your muscles and uh..prime the pump, so to speak.

The number one thing is to be sure. Be sure it's the right guy. Be sure it's what YOU want to do. Oh, and be sure that he uses a condom, k?

Very well said Nora,
Jess, I think she's said it all.
and shes right, if it's physical you need to be seeing a doctor.

 

[eversobeautiful]

Does it hurt when you use a vibrator?

Suprisingly, no.

 

[perks]

have you inserted the vibrator/dildo?