Help???

[Guest]

this thread is closed because i'm stupid

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

This site might have some useful information to get you started:

http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html

 

[Guest]

This site might have some useful information to get you started:

http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html

thanks so much

 

[trisquel_astur]

i don't really know much about all this stuff so maybe you guys (and girls) can help me.

Well, we can try!

i think i'm a dom but i need to know what that means.....?

Read a little bit about in the link I_S gave. It's a good begin.
and this can help too: Dom/sub test

Ah! And welcome to our little piece of world!

 

[Guest]

thanks so much

was wondering if any dom females out there can give me some tips...ya know, maybe you've made mistakes and learned from them and want to share???

 

[Guest]

Well, we can try!



Read a little bit about in the link I_S gave. It's a good begin.
and this can help too: Dom/sub test

Ah! And welcome to our little piece of world!

that cupid test wasn't very accurate....especially for single people like me

 

[trisquel_astur]

that cupid test wasn't very accurate....especially for single people like me

I think yes, because if you are a Dominant or a sub, it will tell you. It's true that it's not too much accurate if you have doubts.

Maybe a good idea is to join us more often and talk, and talk, and talk... 'till you begin to have more clear ideas about how our style is.

Of course even you don't like to be involved in our lifestyle, you are always welcome and your point of view will be accepted even if different to ours. (actually every one of us have a different point of view most of the times)

 

[liberatedslave]

Lady Aria has a good thread called "ask a dom/me". Meantime though, you say you're single so what has triggered this self examination right now? Can you elaborate on your feelings a bit?

 

[Guest]

I think yes, because if you are a Dominant or a sub, it will tell you. It's true that it's not too much accurate if you have doubts.

Maybe a good idea is to join us more often and talk, and talk, and talk... 'till you begin to have more clear ideas about how our style is.

Of course even you don't like to be involved in our lifestyle, you are always welcome and your point of view will be accepted even if different to ours. (actually every one of us have a different point of view most of the times)

i don't really have doubts.....just trying to figure out what i'm looking for so i know what to look for.....if that makes sense

i really like dominating in bed.....makes me feel better sexually.....i so loathe being told what to do in the bedroom.

i had one experience were this guy wanted me to bite his feet. at the time, i thought it was such a gross idea (i mean, feet aren't exactly clean) but he kept pressuring me to do it so, just to shut him up i did.....i released all my aggressions on his feet. afterwards, i made him take me home and i never spoke to him again.

i won't deny that i got some pleasure out of that but it was a forced situation.

i'm just sick of man walking all over me and treating me like crap and i think it's high time that i take control of my sex life more. i want to call all the shots now.

 

[Guest]

Lady Aria has a good thread called "ask a dom/me". Meantime though, you say you're single so what has triggered this self examination right now? Can you elaborate on your feelings a bit?

think i did....and thanks so much

 

[trisquel_astur]

Lady Aria has a good thread called "ask a dom/me". Meantime though, you say you're single so what has triggered this self examination right now? Can you elaborate on your feelings a bit?

Very well expressed!

 

[liberatedslave]

think i did....and thanks so much

Ah, just saw your last post. My internet is beyond slow. I sit corrected x

 

[Guest]

Ah, just saw your last post. My internet is beyond slow. I sit corrected x

thats ok....no biggie

 

[Guest]

i just thought of something....maybe i should start slowly.....do this kind of thing online first and see how it goes

 

[trisquel_astur]

i just thought of something....maybe i should start slowly.....do this kind of thing online first and see how it goes

Yep. That's the reason I told you to begin talking with us!

 

[Guest]

Yep. That's the reason I told you to begin talking with us!

trying to get me to turn to the dark side, huh???

 

[trisquel_astur]

trying to get me to turn to the dark side, huh???

Dark?

Hmm, If you tells this because my black cloak and mask... YES!

Well, BDSM it's a choice you shold do carefully.

I'm happy since my subbie (and now wife too) discovered my dark side.

 

[Guest]

Dark?

Hmm, If you tells this because my black cloak and mask... YES!

Well, BDSM it's a choice you shold do carefully.

I'm happy since my subbie (and now wife too) discovered my dark side.

oh, i understand being careful.....i think i'm just trying to figure things out right now...and hoping beyond hope i might find someone on here....things are a bit confusing right now......

maybe i should ask this........how did you know you wanted to be a dom??

 

[CutieMouse]

Research Woman to the rescue!

Link to the BDSM Talk Library

Some good books on the subject (all available at Amazon, I believe):

The New Topping Book
The New Bottoming book
The Loving Dominant
The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners
The Art Of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women
Female Dominance: Rituals And Practices

Online forums such as Lit and collarme.com can be good places to ask questions; remember to use common sense though, as there are an awful large number of asshats and horney net geeks out there.

Evil_Geoff might stop by the thread at some point, and offer links for how to find a local BDSM organization to start attending lectures/classes/munches- he's far better at that than I.

(A munch is a laid back social gathering of kink-minded people, who usually meet monthly for dinner and conversation at a local resturaunt.)

 

[Guest]

wow, didn't know i had to take classes for this......i didn't pay attention in school very well

 

[Guest]

there's something i need help with.....i don't have the money to buy books on this so maybe someone can point me to links on terms.....like words that are used in BDSM?

 

[CutieMouse]

You don't have to take classes, but there are weekend seminars, local organizations, conferences, etc out there. LOL

Being a Top/Dom/Mistress is a lot of responsibility... for example you do need to know how to tie someone up safely, to minimize the risks of damaging tendons, or reduce the chances they could dislocate a shoulder from a combination of a lovely bit of rope bondage and a strong orgasm; if you choose to engage in things like flogging, you'll need to practice so you won't hurt your partner; you need to know things like how long a clamp can stay on a nipple, versus how long it can stay at the top of the ear, so you don't do permanent nerve damage.

Would you feel safe and secure handing all sexual control over to someone who A) had no clue what they were doing, B) hadn't put much (if any) forethought into what was about to occur, and C) didn't have a plan B/idea of how to deal with XYZ emergency should it arise?

Domination isn't simply about taking control; it's about taking control responsibly, for the mutual pleasure of everyone involved.

 

[CutieMouse]

there's something i need help with.....i don't have the money to buy books on this so maybe someone can point me to links on terms.....like words that are used in BDSM?

That's why I linked the BDSM Talk Library thread- it's broken down by subject from A-Z, and suggested asking questions on the forums.

What do you mean by words used in BDSM? Things like sub versus slave? Top? Bottom? Or did you mean something else?

 

[Guest]

You don't have to take classes, but there are weekend seminars, local organizations, conferences, etc out there. LOL

Being a Top/Dom/Mistress is a lot of responsibility... for example you do need to know how to tie someone up safely, to minimize the risks of damaging tendons, or reduce the chances they could dislocate a shoulder from a combination of a lovely bit of rope bondage and a strong orgasm; if you choose to engage in things like flogging, you'll need to practice so you won't hurt your partner; you need to know things like how long a clamp can stay on a nipple, versus how long it can stay at the top of the ear, so you don't do permanent nerve damage.

Would you feel safe and secure handing all sexual control over to someone who A) had no clue what they were doing, B) hadn't put much (if any) forethought into what was about to occur, and C) didn't have a plan B/idea of how to deal with XYZ emergency should it arise?

Domination isn't simply about taking control; it's about taking control responsibly, for the mutual pleasure of everyone involved.

thank you very very much.....you cleared alot of confusion up in my poor head and all of what you said makes sense......thanks!

 

[Guest]

That's why I linked the BDSM Talk Library thread- it's broken down by subject from A-Z, and suggested asking questions on the forums.

What do you mean by words used in BDSM? Things like sub versus slave? Top? Bottom? Or did you mean something else?

nope, what you just said and it looks like i have alot of reading to do