Help!!!!

[kygirlcumlovr]

OK here's my problem, I'm crazy about this man that I am great friends with. We are friends with benefits if you know what I mean. We have had mind blowing sex on 3 ocassions now. He is constantly telling me how he is a "lone wolf", destined to be alone, etc. Yet on a daily basis he sends me emails "just to check in" or he calls me to tell me when he will be online at night so we can chat. Here's my question...What's up with him? Does he like me or not? I know he finds me attractive but I want more than just the sex. I can't get him to open up but from his actions, it seems like there is something there. What can I do to blow this man's mind and make him see we need to be more than friends with benefits. How can I show him he's all that and more to me?

 

[Sjon]

This is much too advanced for the likes of me...








...but the least I can do is try to keep it at the top


~Sjon

 

[Igorovich]

Blow his mind

Kygirl:

You are 29 years old and have had great sex with this guy 3 times so far. Well how long a period is "so far"? And now you want to blow his mind so far out that he realizes that he cannot do without you.

Several questions come up. First, what do you talk about when you are in the chat rooms? Does sex take first place in all his conversations or do you talk of other matters? Have you been on dates when there was no sex involved?

He has indicated that he has some interest in you by calling you every day and chatting with you at night. Maybe he just doesn't know how to take this to the next level of friendship. Or he is waiting for some encouragement to do so. You may need a heavy 2-4 block of wood to get it into his head that you are interested in more than just sex. Face some men are very shy when it comes to true intimacy of the soul. the great sex you have had with him may have indicated to him that you are in this relationship for the sex only. And now you want something to blow his mind, apparently sexually, that will get his attention.

Ain't gonna happen that way!! Try dinners at your place or just weekend trips that are not devoted to sex. Go to Mammoth Cave together or maybe Pigeon Forge, TN for the shopping that is there, as well as the netertainment that is available. See how he reacts to that.

Sex is not what will keep a man with you. You need to know what he is like outside the bedroom and he needs to know the same about you. I was married to a woman with whom the sex was great. But we got divorced due to, in large part, her temper. She only had one level of anger and that was hatred.

Sex is not your answer. Find out more about him and test the waters with questions or statements that indicate you want a more permenent relationship. that, far more than any sexual activities, will tell him that you want him for himself and not for his ability in bed.

Good luck

 

[Brit]

This sounds very familliar...

I was "freinds with benefits" for a long time with a woman I loved. I had screwed up too many times to believe I could turn it into a relationship so tried (and failed) to keep a distance and just stay freinds. I figured I would rather keep her as a freind thanlose her tring to be a lover.

Eventually I realised how she felt (which was why things kept happening between us I guess), told her how I felt and we have been together for over 5 years.

I am not saying this is your situation. But men do some pretty dumb things sometimes without actually being shits.

Brit

PS Igorovich is right, blowng his mind sexually is the wrong approach. If he is like I was, it will fill him with more guilt and confuse further (guys are not too bright when it comes to emotions). If he isn't, it still is not going to end wel...

 

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