help with The Little Things

[MrSandman]

Hi all-

This is the first time I've posted here. I love this site and it's interesting content, and I'm hoping to hear some insight from Literotica's great members and guests.

My wife and I are in our mid-20's. We're very much in love and enjoy a generally great sex life. I say Great because we seem to be able to able to talk about anything, share our feelings and needs, and we're patient with each other. Also, she's extremely orgasmic . Our physical relationship wasn't always this way, but we've worked through a bunch of problems (mostly leftovers from some unfortunate past relationships - both hers and mine) and over several years together things have gotten damned good.

I'd like advice on how to keep our sex life exciting and fulfilling. I mentioned "the little things" in the topic to this posting because I honestly feel that my wife and I have run out of "big things" to explore. We've more or less experimented with everything we can think of, from mutual masterbation to oral sex, light and hard pornography, anal sex, dildoes and vibrators, cum facials, fisting, deepthroating, strip clubs (we both like looking at women), fun with food... My point is, it seems that we've pretty much reached the limits of whatever major sex variations we're comfortable exploring.

As I said, we've worked so hard for our sex life to be fun and enjoyable. I'm worried that as we slow down trying out big new things, sex might become routine and predicatble and eventually borring. I'd like to know what little things we can do with each other to make our sex life still seem exciting, even when it's not necessarily so adventerous as other things we've enjoyed in the past.

An example of what I'm looking for: recently, my wife began to lightly scratch my balls with her long fingernails as we enjoy foreplay. What a simple little thing to do, but it blows me away! ... probably as much due to the fact that it's such a new feeling to me as to the way way it actually feels

Anyhow, I hope I've stated my question clearly enough. Thanks in advance for whatever suggestions you can pass along!


MrSandman

 

[Lust Engine]

Well congrats on finding such a wonderful mate where you both seem to have worked through so much and are still madly in love with one another. You truly sound as though you're very open to fulfilling one another's fantasies and are willing to discuss anything very openly & frankly. For all the things that you've overcome, you should BOTH be commended.

To move forward from making big sexual discoveries might be more of a fantasy than anything else. Have you ever thought about further exploring or re-visiting some of the things you've done in the past? Try going to back to some of the tried & true things and adding a twist to them perhaps. Try going to different strip clubs, bondage with different restraints, going down on one another with different foods, mutually masturbate with one another in different locales, try role playing with different characters... see where I'm going with this? Add very subtle variations to those acts that you've found wonderful before.

Sexual exploration doesn't and shouldn't ever end as you age. While the physical stimulation might ebb a little as you age, your mental capacities and imagination will grow with all of these various experiences. Trust your imagination- there's no wrong or right in exploring. Keep pushing the bounds of your mutual sexual comfort. Continue to keep the lines of communication open. Stimulate the mind as much as you've both stimulate one another's bodies. There aren't any bounds to your enjoyment unless you plan on putting them there.

Continue to enjoy & not worry about running out of things to do. I'm sure you'll find plenty more different variations to enjoy.

Good luck!

 

[Willing and Unsure]

like LE said, put a little variation into what you're doing. change the location, the toys, etc. someone once suggested to me playing hide and seek to try someplace new in the house. only you play it nekkid and hide in rather obvious places (like on the kitchen table) and then you have sex wherever you find the person. there is a huge world out there for having sex in, you just gotta try different places in it sometimes.

 

[paintergrl]

The most common response that you are going to get is varriation. Make each time different, with the mood, try pleasure spots, for example the hands, lightly touching each other, there are many books out there that explain where they are. And many are some that you would have never thought of. Role Playing is great fun, try costumes, different kinds of toys, positions, a comment was made about locations, and food...that is great advice. Sex is a never ending experience...and there are lots of places and people who can help keep it fun. Hope this helped.

 

[Lust Engine]

Variety's the spice of life...get seasoned!!!!