OK....so I am new here and hopefully from all the threads I have read, I will get some very good advice. I am new to this, so please bear with me. I am in a relationship with an extremely sexual man whose fantasy it is for me to be very much the Dominant female........I need ideas- and also help as to how do I switch to this kind of "mentality" and to set the stage.........thanks!
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Cathleen
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Maybe you'll find lots of ideas on the BDSM board. I do recall a similar thread here somewhat recently, maybe check out page 2, 3 ++
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Hey there hows it going? I think I can help you out by getting into a dominant state, though this would be easier over messenger. Is this possible to do? Please PM me and we'll trade info. Ill do my best to help you out and I understand that your shy and new to this so discussion will be long but I hope it would help you out personally.
If not, hope someone here can help you out.
If not, hope someone here can help you out.
SweetErika
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The benefit of sharing ideas in public, rather than PM/IM, is that many people can benefit from them. 
THIS is the recent thread Cate was talking about, I think. My thoughts on how you can switch to a dominant mindset are in there.
Checking out the BDSM Talk forum, and BDSM Library sticky at the top of it is certainly an excellent idea, too.
Have you asked him what he means by dominating him, what he's interested in trying, about his limits, etc.? Have you thought about what might appeal to YOU? "Dominate" can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people ("dominate" to me at the moment is having my husband clean the kitchen before we have some fun in the bedroom
), so it'd help us give you the best advice possible if you could narrow it down some.
Apart from being safe and respecting his limits, the main thing is to go with what YOU want/like, rather than try to fulfill his specific fantasies. If you're not into it, it won't be fun for him. If you are, he'll likely really enjoy it.
THIS is the recent thread Cate was talking about, I think. My thoughts on how you can switch to a dominant mindset are in there.
Checking out the BDSM Talk forum, and BDSM Library sticky at the top of it is certainly an excellent idea, too.
Have you asked him what he means by dominating him, what he's interested in trying, about his limits, etc.? Have you thought about what might appeal to YOU? "Dominate" can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people ("dominate" to me at the moment is having my husband clean the kitchen before we have some fun in the bedroom
), so it'd help us give you the best advice possible if you could narrow it down some. Apart from being safe and respecting his limits, the main thing is to go with what YOU want/like, rather than try to fulfill his specific fantasies. If you're not into it, it won't be fun for him. If you are, he'll likely really enjoy it.
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