Help me!

[sexxyserra]

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[MyMongoose]

I would love to help you with this, PM me as yours are turned off.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Hello, I'm Serra. I'm 18 years old and pretty new to this whole bdsm experience. I am looking for a Dom who can train me and own me. How do I go about this?

I'm about 5'5, 115 pounds with brown shoulder length hair. I've got golden brown eyes and a fairly nice body. I've got b cup chest and a round ass. I'm shaved. I'm also a virgin (though not technically because of all the things I've used to masturbate) I enjoy all kinds of different kinky things.

Help me find my way into this community, please?

Not to put too fine a point on it, there are plenty of dudes out there who will happily call themselves a "dom" for the chance to fuck a teenage virgin matching your description, but they may not have much to offer you beyond a cock. Some of them are just horny and inconsiderate, some are outright predators using BDSM as a cover for abusive behaviour. People like that might be a lot of fun in a fantasy but IRL... not so much.

My advice: hang out with BDSMers who aren't trying to get into your pants (online or in RL communities as you prefer), learn the ropes, and try to get a bit of a feel for how it works before hooking up with a dom.

 

[CBM514]

Hello, I'm Serra. I'm 18 years old and pretty new to this whole bdsm experience. I am looking for a Dom who can train me and own me. How do I go about this?

I'm about 5'5, 115 pounds with brown shoulder length hair. I've got golden brown eyes and a fairly nice body. I've got b cup chest and a round ass. I'm shaved. I'm also a virgin (though not technically because of all the things I've used to masturbate) I enjoy all kinds of different kinky things.

Help me find my way into this community, please?

Read, read, read...and know yourself and your limits and wants way before you even get involved with someone

 

[CBM514]

Not all BDSM activities involve penetration or sex...a good Dom will know this and treat you accordingly ...

 

[Etoile]

Just a note, your looks and statistics are irrelevant to finding a place in the community. Unless you meant you are looking for someone specific to talk with, in which case I'd be happy to move this to the personals for you.

 

[Stella_Omega]

By your description of yourself-- all about your body, nothing about your heart-- you're looking for some wildly kinky sex, eventually.

Submission is not what most people think it is. Please please, my dear-- read the essay in my signature. You really need to know what the options are before you announce that you are submissive.

 

[innocencebegone]

couldn't agree more.

Before I became interested in the BDSM scene, I read erotic novels and tried some light play first (role play, spanking, and some bondage). It would be better for her to speak with someone who is experienced in BDSM before she willingly gives herself over to it. Some of the advice given is dead to rights. You do not know who is out there and what they may really want to do to you! Trust is important and so is communication! Without those, the scene is meaningless as far as I am concerned. I am lucky though, I have a partner who, I trust and who knows my limits. We never take it so far as to cause permanent damage or emotional scars.
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remember, trust is important. Besides, advertising one's self as a virgin interested in BDSM may be asking for trouble. There are too many perverts and sick twisted bastards out there willing to hurt you badly. Please consider this and good luck to you Sexxiserra!

 

[DVS]

Hello, I'm Serra. I'm 18 years old and pretty new to this whole bdsm experience. I am looking for a Dom who can train me and own me. How do I go about this?

I'm about 5'5, 115 pounds with brown shoulder length hair. I've got golden brown eyes and a fairly nice body. I've got b cup chest and a round ass. I'm shaved. I'm also a virgin (though not technically because of all the things I've used to masturbate) I enjoy all kinds of different kinky things.

Help me find my way into this community, please?

Slow down. Evaluate your needs, desires and your limits before you venture out and find yourself a dom. You need to know that many will say they are a dom when they have no knowledge at all about BDSM. Many are looking for newbies like yourself so they can take advantage of your innocence.

You need to read stories, investigate the library we have, and most of all, know that right now, you are a target. If you haven't already, you will be receiving PMs from people more than willing to assist you in what you say you want...submission. If you don't know anything about the process, you are at the mercy of lurkers, fakers and wannabees that only have the desire to use you for their own sexual desires. That's not at all what a D/s relationship is about.

And yes, it is a relationship. Before you can submit to someone, you need to have your limits all set up and understand not just your role in a D/s relationship, but also the dom's role. That way, you can tell when they are feeding you a lie or trying to tell you things that just aren't true.

Trust is very important in this. So, the more you know about the whole deal, the more you will understand when someone is not what they say they are, hence the name faker and wannabee. These people all have their spiel polished up and waiting for some unsuspecting newbie who is desperately wanting to be someone's submissive.

Once you have everything in place, your limits and your understanding of the process, etc. you will then have the necessary ammunition to weed out the fakers from the real doms out there. And even the real doms are different. Once you get down to the real doms, you will still have the job of figuring out which one of them best fits your desires.

 

[storiesbyemerald]

I have never done this, but I would suggest you get de-flowered first and get used to your body before you try to do bdsm.

So very true! I worry for this girl. Please use extreme caution; there are too many "Doms" and "Masters" out there to know who will be the one to take proper care of your needs as well.

A great Dominant or Master understands that D/s, BDSM, whatever terminology you're comfortable with, is about more than ordering around some sub to do their bidding. A great Dom, will take care of all your needs as well. They cherish their subs and realize the gift they give of their submission is not one to be taken lightly.

That being said, you seem to eager to give the gift of your submission away to someone who may not be at all deserving. You may realize if you play with someone first more casually in this scene, you may NOT like submitting. It is harder than it looks and is not for many people. You're still SO young with plenty of time to shop around so to speak.

Good luck with all.