Help me understand "First Time" category, please!

[Reefkeeper]

I grew up a movie buff. My library has over 800 films as I don't mind rewatching the really good ones. I frequently pick up something new in a repeated viewing and at the very least I see something I like.
My favorite genre is "coming of age" films. From Freddie Bartholemew in "Captain's Courageous", through Leelee Sobieski in "My First Mister", Lillo Brancalo in "A Bronx Tale", and Brooke Shields in "Pretty Baby", to Jane March in L'Amant (The Lover).

So one would think the category of "First Time" would be perfect for me. Over the years I've written several works about sexual awakening. One of the most interesting things about studying any young life is to watch the subject learn by constantly testing boundaries and by doing so grow to become someone perhaps greater, certainly wiser than they were the day before. It's a perfectly normal, natural and necessary part of growing up.

The median age for sexual awakening in this country is thirteen. A virgin above the age of sixteen is relatively rare and one at eighteen would usually indicate some developmental problem.

Why, then, does this site only allow submissions written about these eighteen-year-old deviants (deviant=at variance from an accepted norm. Look it up!)?

There's absolutely nothing natural about sexual exploration in an eighteen-year-old unless she was lobotomized somewhere along the way. It might exist in some Fundamentalist Fantasy, but not in the real world.

I don't get it!!

 

[Guest]

Nahh, it's a wise decision from Laurel and Manu, Lit owners and operators.

Hopefully, it will keep Literotica safe from the people attacking those sites that allow illegal underage sex.

If your story won't work any other way, there are other places you can submit them. But the 18 year old limit isn't truly that big of a deal.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I grew up a movie buff. My library has over 800 films as I don't mind rewatching the really good ones. I frequently pick up something new in a repeated viewing and at the very least I see something I like.
My favorite genre is "coming of age" films. From Freddie Bartholemew in "Captain's Courageous", through Leelee Sobieski in "My First Mister", Lillo Brancalo in "A Bronx Tale", and Brooke Shields in "Pretty Baby", to Jane March in L'Amant (The Lover).

So one would think the category of "First Time" would be perfect for me. Over the years I've written several works about sexual awakening. One of the most interesting things about studying any young life is to watch the subject learn by constantly testing boundaries and by doing so grow to become someone perhaps greater, certainly wiser than they were the day before. It's a perfectly normal, natural and necessary part of growing up.

The median age for sexual awakening in this country is thirteen. A virgin above the age of sixteen is relatively rare and one at eighteen would usually indicate some developmental problem.

Why, then, does this site only allow submissions written about these eighteen-year-old deviants (deviant=at variance from an accepted norm. Look it up!)?

There's absolutely nothing natural about sexual exploration in an eighteen-year-old unless she was lobotomized somewhere along the way. It might exist in some Fundamentalist Fantasy, but not in the real world.

I don't get it!!

Yeah... Make it sound like there is something wrong with me because I lost my virginity at 19 why don't you?...

 

[Weird Harold]

There's absolutely nothing natural about sexual exploration in an eighteen-year-old unless she was lobotomized somewhere along the way. It might exist in some Fundamentalist Fantasy, but not in the real world.

Loss of Virginity is not the only "First" that fits in the "First Times" category.

I disagree that eighteen year old vrigins are "unnatural" -- of course, I wouldn't, 'cause I didn't lose mine until I was nineteen.

Still, unnatural or not, it is the choice the site owners have made and there's no violation of free speech involved in declining to publish material that might excite the ire of the fundamanetalists -- or worse, the legislators.

 

[glynndah]

I'm a bit skeptical of your "statistics".

A welcome for the little newbie from the good little witch.

 

[Reefkeeper]

A welcome for the little newbie from the good little witch.

Thank you kindly. I guess being a 'newbie' qualifys me for "First Time" status. My only two submissions haven't even been approved yet (submitted Sunday earrrly AM).

 

[glynndah]

Thank you kindly. I guess being a 'newbie' qualifys me for "First Time" status. My only two submissions haven't even been approved yet (submitted Sunday earrrly AM).

We'll wait for the question, then.

 

[Liar]

A virgin above the age of sixteen is relatively rare

Source for this, please? I only know how it was when I was sixteen (mid 90's) and have a limited sample, but I can tell you that only about half of the boys I went to school claimed to have had sex at 16. And half of those lied about it or exaggerated how far they'd gone. I was one of those.

and one at eighteen would usually indicate some developmental problem.

Ok, I've got to call shennanigans on that. Loads of people don't have sex until their late teens or early 20's.

From about.com on sexuality:

The Guttmacher Institute, a nonprofit organization that focuses on sexual and reproductive health research, policy analysis and public education, reports that:

* In most of the developed world, the majority of young women become sexually active during their teenage years, the proportion who have had intercourse reaches at least three-quarters by age 20.

* Levels of sexual activity and the age at which teenagers become sexually active do not vary considerably across comparable developed countries, such as Canada, Great Britain, France, Sweden and the United States.

So one quarter havent had sex at age 20. That's 25% of all women in the western world. Developmental problem? I think not.

Couldn't find a number for men there, but I assume it's not fundamentally different.

 

[Stella_Omega]

We'll wait for the question, then.

With our drinks in our hands...

Welcome to AH!

I agree that sexual awakening comes before puberty for many children. But that "rarity" of sixteen-year-old virgins... Maybe it's the places where I've lived, but I've known more of them-- and older-- than you'd expect, and not for lack of knowledge or opportunity, either...

In any case, let me add to the thunder -- No underage sex, no bestiality, is the site's policy, and is unalterable.

 

[glynndah]

With our drinks in our hands...

Welcome to AH!

I agree that sexual awakening comes before puberty for many children. But that "rarity" of sixteen-year-old virgins... Maybe it's the places where I've lived, but I've known more of them-- and older-- than you'd expect, and not for lack of knowledge or opportunity, either...

In any case, let me add to the thunder -- No underage sex, no bestiality, is the site's policy, and is unalterable.

And "awakening' doesn't necessarily mean "action".

 

[voluptuary_manque]

And "awakening' doesn't necessarily mean "action".

I'll go with that. Fantasies at 13? Yeah. Finally finding out what girls were for? 20, I think.

 

[Stella_Omega]

And "awakening' doesn't necessarily mean "action".

Hand action. Humping the pillow. Puzzlement, nerves, a most important secret to keep. No longer fish, not yet fowl, and nothing makes sense anymore...

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Hand action. Humping the pillow. Puzzlement, nerves, a most important secret to keep. No longer fish, not yet fowl, and nothing makes sense anymore...

And then comes the surprise.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

Hand action. Humping the pillow. Puzzlement, nerves, a most important secret to keep. No longer fish, not yet fowl, and nothing makes sense anymore...

Then again, I didn't masturbate until I was 20 and had sex several times already...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Then again, I didn't masturbate until I was 20 and had sex several times already...

That could make an excellent first time story! Write it as if you were in bed and telling a woman about it...

 

[TheeGoatPig]

That could make an excellent first time story! Write it as if you were in bed and telling a woman about it...

Can't. Stories about masturbation turn me off, and I haven't written anything since I got dialup upgraded to cable here in the office.

 

[tickledkitty]

I gotta disagree with your assertions, as well. I didn't lose my virginity until 18, and, as Stella said, it wasn't for lack of opportunity. It was my choice. In addition, I have to say I think my biggest motivation for doing it when I did was because of people like you implying that I was a freak for not having ever done it.

It doesn't matter a whit WHY the rule here is over 18 only. It is what it is. Deal with it.

 

[tickledkitty]

And another thing...

There's absolutely nothing natural about sexual exploration in an eighteen-year-old unless she was lobotomized somewhere along the way. It might exist in some Fundamentalist Fantasy, but not in the real world.

What?! I think sexual exploration at any age is completely natural. It's an ongoing, life-long process. At least it has been or me, but I am, according to you, a deviant.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Can't. Stories about masturbation turn me off, and I haven't written anything since I got dialup upgraded to cable here in the office.

Dummy-- You write about how she gets so turned on by your telling her, she jumps your bones.

A smart man would lie and tell her he was helplessly thinking about her the whole time.

 

[tickledkitty]

A smart man would lie and tell her he was helplessly thinking about her the whole time.

I've heard that one before.

 

[Guest]

Dummy-- You write about how she gets so turned on by your telling her, she jumps your bones.

A smart man would lie and tell her he was helplessly thinking about her the whole time.

That's the guy who is going to get laid again and again.

 

[keeblercrumb]

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The median age for sexual awakening in this country is thirteen. A virgin above the age of sixteen is relatively rare and one at eighteen would usually indicate some developmental problem.

Why, then, does this site only allow submissions written about these eighteen-year-old deviants (deviant=at variance from an accepted norm. Look it up!)?

There's absolutely nothing natural about sexual exploration in an eighteen-year-old unless she was lobotomized somewhere along the way. It might exist in some Fundamentalist Fantasy, but not in the real world.

I don't get it!!

Setting aside first times.... (okay... it was 18 with the ugliest woman in Iowa)
your basic question has been answered above.

Sexuality awakening is an adolescent thing, no matter that it took me 6 or 7 years after waking up to actually get laid.

As described above, you cannot write about it here. It is because the owners chose to survive and not piss away money in court.

But the real reason is in your newspaper everyday. We as a society have decided that teens having sex is a plaque upon the earth and by God, we just won't stand for it anymore. THAT is the issue.

Now if you will please stand up in public and say that, I am sure we will be there right behind you.... well behind you and a little to the right.. behind the bushes(sic), actually. I do not choose to go to court either.

Welcome to AH. As you will note, there is a lot of First Times noted above you may write about!

My latest story (the first in 4 or 5 years) really should have been in First Times, actually. I was only 62 when I first had sex with two sisters at the same time. I decided to write about it before senility sets in too deep and I forget it all.



-KC

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

"We were both 18 when it happened. I was in eighth grade, he was in ninth . . ."

 

[Stella_Omega]

"We were both 18 when it happened. I was in eighth grade, he was in ninth . . ."

Ouch!

 

[sr71plt]

Depending on what constitutes "first time" for a male, I was 21--and it was my wedding night. (I was a little busy admiring myself in the mirror in those days.)