BrenVarouse
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SubNebGuy said:in regards to not sounding like a tool:
just don't say stupid shit. don't ask her "hey, you want a mustache ride?"
something simple like "Hey, I saw you from across the room, and want to get to know you better. could I get your number so I can take you out to dinner sometime this/next week?"
all that elaborate crap they do in the movies to get a girl to go out with them...its all crap. its a movie, not reality. In a movie, singing "you've lost that lovin feeling" will get you any woman in the movie world.
but in reality, you'll get laughed at (unless she's already your girl, and you're both really drunk, then pulling that stunt can be cute....but you already had the girl)
SubNebGuy said:all that elaborate crap they do in the movies to get a girl to go out with them...its all crap. its a movie, not reality. In a movie, singing "you've lost that lovin feeling" will get you any woman in the movie world.
but in reality, you'll get laughed at (unless she's already your girl, and you're both really drunk, then pulling that stunt can be cute....but you already had the girl)
BrenVarouse said:You see, I'm just worried that doing those things would be too forward. Or playing too much into the stereotypical male/female roles (I'm a feminist). Not to mention how INCREDIBLY awkward it would be (and has been for me) to try and kiss someone and have them recoil because they aren't interested in you in the same way. But you're right. I should have tried to kiss her that first day. But I'm just so damn shy. Its like John Cleese's character says in A Fish Called Wanda when Jamie Curtis asks him why British people are so stuck up. He explains that its because they're mortified of being embarassed. A comment like "how's the wife and kids?" seems pleasant enough, until you find out they burned to death in a fire the week before hand (his example). I guess I just feel that way around women. But it sounds like your saying being bold is okay/good?![]()
As to part 2: Typical dumb guy here. I never would have guessed that option one meant friend and option 2 meant date. Thanks for that advice.
Jersey - I agree. Its probably better in the long run that I didn't get involved with the girl I went to Europe with.
On your other point: I suppose its that I feel like I'm missing out on something. I don't mind so much that I'm not finding Ms. Right right now. But the dry spell is bugging me. Other people my age meet people, go out, have sex, break up. I've never had that experience. My relationships have always grown out of friendships and ended in some calamity. I need to have a "normal" college relationship like everyone around me is. I'd like to kiss a few more frogs and squeeze a few more melons while Rome is under construction. Because right now, I'm kissing zero frogs and squeezing zero melons. Even if it doesn't work out, I've still had a relationship that I can learn from. And when I do meet Ms. Right, she will have, in all likelyhood, had the college experience I'm missing out on. Which means that will be a part of her life I can never relate to and will never understand.
I have to go. I'll be back later to ponder this some more.
From Wayne's World -
Garth Algar: Uhm, Wayne? What do you do if every time you see this one incredible woman, you think you're gonna hurl?
Wayne Campbell: I say hurl. If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours. But if you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be.