Help me. My hubby bought himself a chastity cage.

[emme8]

Last night my hubby came home with a Christmas present for himself. A metal Chastity Cage. And a harness and dildo so I could peg him. For me he bought a nice suede flogger so I could whip him.
This is something we discussed for years. I already control his orgasms. I ruin as many as I allow him good ones. I am happy with the harness and dildo. It is a very welcome upgrade to the cheap strap on he bought for me to use years ago. At first that was a turn off to me, but with experimenting and some researching, I can go for it as a special treat to him.
I'm excited about whipping him. He especially deserves it buying this cage but.
The problem is he bought the cage after doing ZERO research.
I had read everything on Lockthecock website. I told him I would order him something after he researched a secure pickup location for the package delivery and he went to the hardware store to get the assorted sized metal rings so I could measure him. My husband is very large I thought. His shoe size is a size 15wide, I guess things are relatively proportional.

But he buys one that looks good and of course it doesn't fit. The cage part is OK, but the ring that locks it on is completely impossible.

I need suggestions. I am not going to use ice to get him in it. I know he would end up at the ER if I did that. I would prefer not to just trash it. Has anyone used a wire to rig up a custom cock ring to fit a cage onto?

 

[SissySalina]

It might help if you said or better showed what he ended up with.

 

[emme8]

I will get you pictures. However it might be a few days.

I can't reach the toy bag's hiding place tonight.
I also need to figure out how to use my phone to take pictures without syncing them to the family photo album. He will show me how but I will have to ask him. And I guess I need to also include a picture of his nuts too.

Thank you

 

[Goldenfinger]

We have a drawer of mistakes, it sounds like you might need one too.

 

[SissySalina]

You might try looking at these.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1557623&highlight=Cages

https://lockthecock.com/blogs/chastity-fun/measuring

It could get you started in the right direction to correct your problem.

 

[emme8]

Thanks for the link to the thread, Sissy. I appreciate the help.

Here's a link to the item Bob bought.

https://www.amazon.com/Blue-Line-Deluxe-Chastity-Cage/dp/B08ZYYLBBS


Next has anyone bought from House of denial?

 

[SissySalina]

Sorry, sissy has not purchased anything from the House of denial. It would appear that producing something to fit the cage you have would be complicated and to have it fabricated would cost more than a new one would. The hard part would getting the pins right to work properly.
Your best course would be to scrap what you have, maybe send it back if you can. Then get a proper fitting one to replace it.
That would be the advice of this sissy, sorry.

 

[emme8]

Thanks for all the advice Sissy.

One more question and this is might be in another thread, I looked but apologize for not looking hard enough if it is.

Is a hinged ring better for beginners? I know there is concern for skin pinching, but it might seem safer for removal purposes just in case? Or not? Experience?

And I think I decided to have Bob do his best to rig this one to work with a bigger ring, if possible. He and I should be able to learn a lot about what we need, eventually in our perfect one by trying to adapt this.

Besides it will be a good way to teach him to listen to me. Of course he will probably invent something amazing just to prove me wrong because I'm telling him he should have followed instructions.

Thanks

And for reference for any other dummies like me here another website with more articles.

https://www.houseofdenial.com/pages/how-to-measure-your-chastity-cage-and-ring-size

 

[Chaste_Down]

Thanks for all the advice Sissy.

One more question and this is might be in another thread, I looked but apologize for not looking hard enough if it is.

Is a hinged ring better for beginners? I know there is concern for skin pinching, but it might seem safer for removal purposes just in case? Or not? Experience?

And I think I decided to have Bob do his best to rig this one to work with a bigger ring, if possible. He and I should be able to learn a lot about what we need, eventually in our perfect one by trying to adapt this.

Besides it will be a good way to teach him to listen to me. Of course he will probably invent something amazing just to prove me wrong because I'm telling him he should have followed instructions.

Thanks

And for reference for any other dummies like me here another website with more articles.

https://www.houseofdenial.com/pages/how-to-measure-your-chastity-cage-and-ring-size

Maybe you can just send it back and get a different one? Most places allow that sort of thing ... it's not like they're difficult to clean.

Best of luck with it. I think one that feels impossible to remove without the key would add a lot to the experience. And as small as possible of course!

 

[Scareltt]

Proper fit is pretty important.

You probably cannot return the cage, so you’ll have to order a new one.

We use those cheap silicone sheaths. The price is right and he says they’re much more comfortable than the hard plastic devices. We also have a box of poorly sized chastity devices, that’s where we keep the Queen’s Keep we purchased a few years back. It also didn’t fit.

Good luck.

 

[emme8]

It's trial and error I guess to find the right ones. I am just afraid of causing him physical damage by getting something stuck on.

If I ever find perfect I will post a picture.

Thanks for all your help

 

[bone251]

I will say the thing that will fit the best with a cage is how you sit on his face.

Enjoy!

 

[emme8]

He is locked up today.

So yesterday hubby went out and bought another cage. A CB6000s.
Poor guy was embarrassed or something didn't read the package close enough and bought a short one.

However last night I squeezed him into it. I took it off him before bedtime since it was tight and it was his first try.

This morning I was showing him some links to easier ways to squeeze the cock into the cage. And he wanted to try to wear for the day. He also wanted to wear the metal cage he bought first that does lock against the base on the CB6000s.
The stocking method worked really wel to get him into it. It's been 3 hours and he hasn't called me for the location of the key yet.

I gave him the assignment of taking a few pictures of himself after he took the kids to school and cleaned up from breakfast.

I will post those when I receive them.

 

[Downfor]

So yesterday hubby went out and bought another cage. A CB6000s.
Poor guy was embarrassed or something didn't read the package close enough and bought a short one.

However last night I squeezed him into it. I took it off him before bedtime since it was tight and it was his first try.

This morning I was showing him some links to easier ways to squeeze the cock into the cage. And he wanted to try to wear for the day. He also wanted to wear the metal cage he bought first that does lock against the base on the CB6000s.
The stocking method worked really wel to get him into it. It's been 3 hours and he hasn't called me for the location of the key yet.

I gave him the assignment of taking a few pictures of himself after he took the kids to school and cleaned up from breakfast.

I will post those when I receive them.

Hopefully he will make it through the day and will be able to keep wearing it 24/7 like myself.

 

[twister947]

Hubby needs to learn to do as he is told. This is a teachable moment.

 

[emme8]

Teachable moments

Hubby, aka Bob, is still in the cage.

He sent me pictures at lunch, and I just can't share them from work.

Tonight if he is still in the cage I might peg him as a reward.
But I might also not.

He's not in too much trouble for not following directions because he already admitted he should have done things my way. I don't think he realized I had researched. He thought I waS hesitant to lock him up. Little does he know...

 

[emme8]

He is still locked up.

Bob called me for the key to change from the metal cage to the plastic cage. Then he sent me a picture locked up.

I have added the picture of him.

Any suggestions for his reward?
And in some stories the cock starts to atrophy from lack of use? Is that a real concern? And if so, when does that become a concern? How is it prevented?

 

[emme8]

Stubble

Another question for you'll.

Any suggestions for hair removal and managing the stubble.

Bob shaved on Tuesday and is miserable today with stubble.
I know he is not ready for a bikini wax.

Thanks

 

[LeinadVirgo]

Bob called me for the key to change from the metal cage to the plastic cage. Then he sent me a picture locked up.

I have added the picture of him.

Any suggestions for his reward?
And in some stories the cock starts to atrophy from lack of use? Is that a real concern? And if so, when does that become a concern? How is it prevented?

I haven't worn one long enough to experience atrophy, but from my research any that happens is temporary, and from non stop extended use.

As for a "reward" let him cum without taking the base ring off. It stunts the orgasm in my experience. Then he can go right back in unsatisfied, but having been drained.

 

[emme8]

Am I ruining orgasms wrong?

When I am ruining an orgasm, provide sensation until I know he is about to cum. Then I just holds the tip or squeeze the shaft. When he does cum it isn't a dribble, it is shot through the air. Far enough to hit him in the face.

How do others enjoy their orgasms ruined? Suggestions?

 

[LeinadVirgo]

When I am ruining an orgasm, provide sensation until I know he is about to cum. Then I just holds the tip or squeeze the shaft. When he does cum it isn't a dribble, it is shot through the air. Far enough to hit him in the face.

How do others enjoy their orgasms ruined? Suggestions?

I've only really had it where I would stroke till I'm about to cum them completely stop touching. Sometimes takes multiple attempts (and lots of edging makes it happen easier), but when it happens it's so very frustrating. The best part is staying hard and using the cum as lube to do it a second or third time, until completely drained (and probably sore)

 

[bone251]

A ruined orgasm usually dribbles our. A squirt will provide some pleasure and relief.
The most ruined O I had was after a long period; weeks anyways, she kept stopping so that only a table spoon or so would leak out. She kept repeating that until every drop was gone. There was nothing left to cum with. I was still hard and fucked her for a long time. It was disappointing because I just could not cum she had drained me so much. She also squeezed and beat the boys when I got close. They were purple for a long time.

My wife now like to just get one drop to happen just to prove I am desperate.

 

[emme8]

Thanks bone251. That's kinda what I was beginning to think.

I assume I need to be more patient.

 

[sub2femdom]

I recently got the holy trainer after frustrations with about 3 other chastity devices. I have the same problem that my balls are too big and tight to fit into most of the rings.

So far, the holy trainer is the best out of them all by a fair margin. They offer an oversized ring for free, all you have to do is comment on your order asking for it.

 

[bone251]

Thanks bone251. That's kinda what I was beginning to think.

I assume I need to be more patient.

More importantly is you will now be able to teach him to be more patient with pleasing you.

Tell him what you want and have him do it until you want something else.

When he is horny, he will be more capable of understanding you.

When I was in my early 20's I met a girl in her late 40's. This was in the 1980's when the clit had been just discovered. She wanted to squirt. Neither of us knew how or even if it was possible. The real tease time was I was not going to squirt until she did. I was motivated. Very motivated.
After a few squirting sessions I made her squirt so many times she fainted. The bed and floor were both wet.

The girl that does the teasing can become the more beautiful and pleased girl.