Help! I would like tips on asking men out...

[sultryslayer]

Okay people, there are a few guys that I am attracted to at my gym. I am thinking about asking them out for a date but am not sure what I should say. I have never even had a conversation with these men so it would be kind of hard to bring it up...basically I just need some courage.

I am a cute girl, so I am not worried about the ugly factor but I am short (4"6) so sometimes this holds me back. It would be so easy just to go up to these guys and say "Would you like to fuck?" but I want a boyfriend.

Do you have any encouraging words?

Thanks!!!!

Here is my pic...
https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?s=&postid=5249961

 

[silky63]

Do you know if any of these guys are single ? Try and get chatting to them... act dumb and ask for their help using a piece of equipment that they just happen to be on at the time Dont ask them for a " fuck" thats demeaning to you. You deserve better. Good luck.

 

[TheLonebeagle]

Okay people, there are a few guys that I am attracted to at my gym. I am thinking about asking them out for a date but am not sure what I should say. I have never even had a conversation with these men so it would be kind of hard to bring it up...basically I just need some courage.

I am a cute girl, so I am not worried about the ugly factor but I am short (4"6) so sometimes this holds me back. It would be so easy just to go up to these guys and say "Would you like to fuck?" but I want a boyfriend.

Do you have any encouraging words?

Thanks!!!!

Here is my pic...
https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?s=&postid=5249961

I would be flattered to be asked a straight question by a woman that fancied me, Honesty is underrated and it takes a lot of guts to ask someone are they available because you have seen them and would like to know them better, but believe me the flattery of being asked, would have them on a high that would not mean hurt for you

but its gonna need some self belief , thst you can do it and ask, missed oppertunities, only play mind games, been there and done that

What ever path you follow i wish you luck

 

[Guest]

Maybe borrow one of Jenny_S's favorite lines, and ask them if they'd stick their tongue in your ass LOL, sorry , couldn't resist. Honestly, you're a gorgeous woman, and really bright. I don't reccomend playing dumb. Most guys (at least me) don't care for the damsel-in-distress act. I'd just say be yourself, say hi to the guys you like, talk, flirt, and just ask. They'd be really flattered and stupid not to say yes, if not outright gay lol

 

[TheLonebeagle]

Maybe borrow one of Jenny_S's favorite lines, and ask them if they'd stick their tongue in your ass LOL, sorry , couldn't resist. Honestly, you're a gorgeous woman, and really bright. I don't reccomend playing dumb. Most guys (at least me) don't care for the damsel-in-distress act. I'd just say be yourself, say hi to the guys you like, talk, flirt, and just ask. They'd be really flattered and stupid not to say yes, if not outright gay lol

yeah i go along with that , not so sure on the Jenny-s approach

but yeah seen your pic , and i would be more than flattered for your attention

 

[waverlysgirl]

YOU DON'T HAVE TO ACT DUMB

Do you know if any of these guys are single ? Try and get chatting to them... act dumb and ask for their help using a piece of equipment that they just happen to be on at the time Dont ask them for a " fuck" thats demeaning to you. You deserve better. Good luck.

but you can ask them how their workout is going; how long they've been gym members. If you have a genuine question like should I up my reps or increase the weight I lift? You could start a conversation like that. Or ask if they run or ride bikes for cardiovascular, or if you do cardiovascular, tell them that you're happy with the progress you've been making with your workouts. But definitely be the next person in line to use the equipment they're on and maybe encourage them as they lift and get the conversation started that way. good luck.

PS: If Bruiser is your spotter, you can't go wrong.

 

[BigAndTall]

Re: YOU DON'T HAVE TO ACT DUMB

but you can ask them how their workout is going; how long they've been gym members. If you have a genuine question like should I up my reps or increase the weight I lift? You could start a conversation like that. Or ask if they run or ride bikes for cardiovascular, or if you do cardiovascular, tell them that you're happy with the progress you've been making with your workouts. But definitely be the next person in line to use the equipment they're on and maybe encourage them as they lift and get the conversation started that way. good luck.

PS: If Bruiser is your spotter, you can't go wrong.

Mostly, just ask. Most people in the world reconize that all conversations start off a little on the ackward. "What time is it, how is the weather, come here often" are all just verbal expression that your going to start a conversation cause you find someone that interesting.

While it might feel nerve wracking at first, I think its easier to just go up and talk to someone than to wrestle with your mind over the "perfect move".

Also, the more you ask different people out, the easier it gets.

 

[waverlysgirl]

Yes, but...

because she won't know whether they're married, I think it's best to flesh out the situation before charging in with asking them out. How many married guys are going to turn her down or not lie about their marital situation? She needs to ask a few questions before she gets to the "are you married" part.

 

[BigAndTall]

Re: Yes, but...

because she won't know whether they're married, I think it's best to flesh out the situation before charging in with asking them out. How many married guys are going to turn her down or not lie about their marital situation? She needs to ask a few questions before she gets to the "are you married" part.

Ok, I yeild LOL that would be an important point.

 

[sultryslayer]

I just want to thank everyone for their advice!

Thanks cause I really needed some openers.

 

[sultryslayer]

Do you know if any of these guys are single ? Try and get chatting to them... act dumb and ask for their help using a piece of equipment that they just happen to be on at the time Dont ask them for a " fuck" thats demeaning to you. You deserve better. Good luck.

Silky: I don't know if they are single so that can be kind of hard but I would rather them say they are with someone then flat out say no to me! And I don't want a fuck but it would be so much easier than putting my real feelings on the line. Don't worry I am not headed down that road. Thanks for added luck!

 

[sultryslayer]

Lonebeagle:

I would be flattered to be asked a straight question by a woman that fancied me, Honesty is underrated and it takes a lot of guts to ask someone are they available because you have seen them and would like to know them better, but believe me the flattery of being asked, would have them on a high that would not mean hurt for you

but its gonna need some self belief , thst you can do it and ask, missed oppertunities, only play mind games, been there and done that

What ever path you follow i wish you luck

Lonebeagle: Thanks, I was thinking they would be happy cause someone was attracted to them. I mean it isn't everyday you have a girl ask you out. I do need the self belief to do this.

 

[sultryslayer]

Nudecop

Maybe borrow one of Jenny_S's favorite lines, and ask them if they'd stick their tongue in your ass LOL, sorry , couldn't resist. Honestly, you're a gorgeous woman, and really bright. I don't reccomend playing dumb. Most guys (at least me) don't care for the damsel-in-distress act. I'd just say be yourself, say hi to the guys you like, talk, flirt, and just ask. They'd be really flattered and stupid not to say yes, if not outright gay lol

Nudecop: no dumb talk from me but maybe I will mention the tongue in the ass trick, hey not every woman is willing to go that extra mile. lol. truely just kidding!!

 

[sultryslayer]

Waverlysgirl:

but you can ask them how their workout is going; how long they've been gym members. If you have a genuine question like should I up my reps or increase the weight I lift? You could start a conversation like that. Or ask if they run or ride bikes for cardiovascular, or if you do cardiovascular, tell them that you're happy with the progress you've been making with your workouts. But definitely be the next person in line to use the equipment they're on and maybe encourage them as they lift and get the conversation started that way. good luck.

PS: If Bruiser is your spotter, you can't go wrong.

Waverlysgirl: Thank you, for the smarter sounding things to say, do you have any other oneliners?

Wish I could bring Bruiser with me, just for moral support!!

 

[sultryslayer]

Bigandtall:

Mostly, just ask. Most people in the world reconize that all conversations start off a little on the ackward. "What time is it, how is the weather, come here often" are all just verbal expression that your going to start a conversation cause you find someone that interesting.

While it might feel nerve wracking at first, I think its easier to just go up and talk to someone than to wrestle with your mind over the "perfect move".

Also, the more you ask different people out, the easier it gets.

Bigandtall: basically I will just do it! The hard part is working up that nerve in the first place. Thanks.

 

[Tony2times]

just talk to them you know flirt, start a convo and who knows what will happen. oh dont let your height hold you back I know I love short girls most guys find that really cute

 

[wildturkey]

Just ask them if they would like to go out for dinner or for drinks.

I have had girls ask me if i would like to go out and have drinks let them know that you want to get to know them better.

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

My lady I would suggest you walk up and ask them straight out to go out with you, you are certainly beautiful enough for any man to be honoured to be invited out. Good luck

Bachlum Chaam

 

[Jaded1]

Okay people, there are a few guys that I am attracted to at my gym. I am thinking about asking them out for a date but am not sure what I should say. I have never even had a conversation with these men so it would be kind of hard to bring it up...basically I just need some courage.

I am a cute girl, so I am not worried about the ugly factor but I am short (4"6) so sometimes this holds me back. It would be so easy just to go up to these guys and say "Would you like to fuck?" but I want a boyfriend.

Do you have any encouraging words?

Thanks!!!!

Here is my pic...
https://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?s=&postid=5249961

Hi, Sultry....

I have seen your picture and you are a cutie face... I'd say try the friends first approach. That first date thing can be a little tense for both involved. Perhaps start with a coffee get together after a work out section were you can get to know one another with out any pressures. Casually relaxing with great conversation seem to defuse the tension between male/female. Work it up to perhaps as a example a fitness show or seminar. Ease into the closiness that your looking for! Then you could possibly work up to a actual date situation....

Although the 'Wanna fuck my brains out' has captured my attention on occassion also....

MEN!!!! GO FIGURE.....

Jaded1, CT

 

[Cream Center]

K.I.S.S.

Keep it simple and straighforward. As much as our society has progressed, on the dating scene the onus is still very much on the guy to take the initiative. For this reason, many guys are flattered and even relieved when a woman takes the initiative. Personally, my respect for a woman grows greatly when I see that she has the confidence and self-esteem to not be bound by social conventions.

There's no need to ask him on a full fledged "date" - when you're done with your workouts ask him if he'd like to grab a coffee or go to the snack bar (if your gym has one) with you. Tell him you'd like to make a few new friends here to make your workout experience more enjoyable.

In the more casual atmosphere, you guys can talk about your lives and if you find out he's married / has a girlfriend then you can always just remain friends, because that's what you told him in the first place anyway. If not, then you can see if he'd like to spend more time with you outside the gym.

 

[Speakeasy]

Men like to be flattered as much as women...
ask for help on your exercise machine...
look at some guy lifting weights and say, "Damn... how many pounds are you lifting?"
More aggressive... "You make me wish this gym had co-ed showers!"
Yeh, I know... you don't want to be so blatant, but guys are pretty dumb sometimes. They don't see a good thing when she's got her breatst in his face.

Good luck! I wish I lived closer... BOY do I wish I lived closer...




S

 

[sultryslayer]

Tony2times:

just talk to them you know flirt, start a convo and who knows what will happen. oh dont let your height hold you back I know I love short girls most guys find that really cute

Tony2times: thanks

 

[sultryslayer]

Wildturkey:

Just ask them if they would like to go out for dinner or for drinks.

I have had girls ask me if i would like to go out and have drinks let them know that you want to get to know them better.

Wildturkey: Do you think if I ask them out they won't automatically assume I want to sleep w/ them?

 

[sultryslayer]

Bachlum:

My lady I would suggest you walk up and ask them straight out to go out with you, you are certainly beautiful enough for any man to be honoured to be invited out. Good luck

Bachlum Chaam

Bachlum: Thank you, you are certainly a sweet man!

 

[sultryslayer]

Jaded:

Hi, Sultry....

I have seen your picture and you are a cutie face... I'd say try the friends first approach. That first date thing can be a little tense for both involved. Perhaps start with a coffee get together after a work out section were you can get to know one another with out any pressures. Casually relaxing with great conversation seem to defuse the tension between male/female. Work it up to perhaps as a example a fitness show or seminar. Ease into the closiness that your looking for! Then you could possibly work up to a actual date situation....

Jaded: Thank you for the compliement! I think starting slow would be good too. And coffee would would be a perfect start.