Help I need advice

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I know this might sound stupid to some poeple.

I am 21m and am interested in a 17 year old girl. It is not a younger girls are hot thing. I have known here casually as a customer where I work for about a year and we recently have started talking more. She is very smart and can actually carry a conversation (I find most younger kids dont have great social skills).

Any way what are the dangers of dating a 17 yearold girl? I know the age difference is not a huge one but still the emotional levels can be huge. Legally it is ok in my state. My worries areon a psychological level and emotional level.

If this makes any sense please help me out.

Thanks
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[sch00lteacher]

The biggest danger you should consider is her father. If this was my 17 year old daughter I would stomp your 21 year old ass into the ground. If I couldn't do it on my own, I'd call a few friends and her uncle over to help...

 

[Angel]

It depends.

I was dating a 21 year old guy when I was 17. In fact, I was 14 when I met him and he was 18

My mother didn't mind, because he was respectful, a gentleman and he loved me and she could see it.
My father wasn't thrilled at first until he realized the guy was great and wouldn't be taking advantage of me.

And he didn't. He was wonderful and we dated on and off for five years. We dated for two of them straight through, until I grew closer to adulthood and started changing into the loudmouthed, rough-edged freak I am today. We just grew apart and we're still friends.

It depends on how her parents feel about you, as well as if you are also a respectful guy.


If you're a jerk looking to get laid, you'll probably have a problem.

 

[lovetoread]

I would find out how her family felt about her talking to you first. She may sound mature and everything,but if her daddy tells you she talks hours on the phone and hangs at that mall as her lifes work,you should look elsewhere.

17 is not a great age to be. I thought I was grown up and ended up preggers and married. I wish I had a family,sch00lteacher, that would have kicked some butt over me like that.

 

[girl]

I think it depends on your life experiences. As you get older, 4 years isn't anything, but at that age, it can be like a very big ravine. When I was 21, I was independent, paying my own bills, working and putting myself through college. At 17, I was living at home, working part time and standing on my head til high school let out. I was two entirely different people. My 21 year old self probably wouldn't have been interested in being friends with my 17 year old self. Two totally different set of priorities and outlooks on life.

That said, you should also take into consideration what's going to happen in the near future. At 17, she's probably getting ready for college...is she going away? What would you do then? Can you handle a long distance relationship or would you go with her? Are you ready for that sort of commitment?

If it were me, I probably wouldn't. But that's me.

Good luck
girl