Help a virgin out?

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I fear i have been a virgin far too long. i am a very haha active masturbater yet seem to never quite feel so satisfied. I have been tempted to give in to my wants and fulfill a fantasy with a neighbor i am attracted to, but i perfer not to be known as a whore to my classmates. I am stumped on what to do and whether i should act upon my needs. Help is very much wanted and opinions are welcomed and most definetly will be considered.
 
As long as you are of legal age, then what you do with your virginity is your business. I would recommend NOT wasting it or your time with someone that doesn't deserve you, meaning find a decent relationship to share yourself with rather than the neighbor who is handy. Having sex with someone you care about is much more fulfilling than grabbing any old stranger. Grabbing "strange" is even less fulfilling than masturbation.

Good luck. :cool:
 
As long as you are of legal age, then what you do with your virginity is your business. I would recommend NOT wasting it or your time with someone that doesn't deserve you, meaning find a decent relationship to share yourself with rather than the neighbor who is handy. Having sex with someone you care about is much more fulfilling than grabbing any old stranger. Grabbing "strange" is even less fulfilling than masturbation.

Good luck. :cool:

I agree, "meaningful" is a lot better than "meaningless". Perhaps find someone in a similar situation and be honest.
 
I fear i have been a virgin far too long. i am a very haha active masturbater yet seem to never quite feel so satisfied. I have been tempted to give in to my wants and fulfill a fantasy with a neighbor i am attracted to, but i perfer not to be known as a whore to my classmates. I am stumped on what to do and whether i should act upon my needs. Help is very much wanted and opinions are welcomed and most definetly will be considered.

1st, no-one can be a "virgin far too long" (unless she 's 30)! I know, you may read stories about women who lost their virginity at 13 or 14, but behind each one of them, there are millions of other women who did it later - and haven't regretted.

2nd, I won't talk about legal age etc - actually it is a matter of your lover, not yours. I 'll only tell you to do it if: you feel you need it, you feel yourself mature enough to use protection, and you feel this man is what you want for your first time. Don't try it just because others do it, or because you find underage stories of Lit interesting, or because some (obviously older and more experienced people) have enjoyed sex with strangers.
 
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I too agree that you can't be a virgin for too long! Overall, I would say exploring this thing with your neighbor needs to be completely up to you. If it matters what your classmates will think of you, then the decision isn't really yours. If it works for you, I say go for it!

Granted, I'm 22 and still a virgin and I'm not in this situation. However, that's my opinion.
 
We're coming up on the 1-year anniversary of me losing my virginity (it's actually a week from today). I was 27. And I'm a guy, so there were no social benefits to being a virgin for me; remaining in that state for any length of time is a stigma if you have Y-chromosomes.

You've only been a virgin "too long" when you've decided you want to have sex but are unable to. You aren't having that problem. ;)

Why would your classmates call you a whore? If you do things with your neighbor, why should it ever leave those four walls? (Assuming you keep quiet. My first lover wasn't, as my roommates like to tease me about.)
 
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