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Sympathy is all I can offer. I had it for a month in the spring. I was getting by on 2-3 hours a night.

There are nights I am tempted to put myself back on the booze just to sleep but I know that’s a viscous circle...
 
There are nights I am tempted to put myself back on the booze just to sleep but I know that’s a viscous circle...

In my experience booze doesn't help. Three or four whiskies and I was able to drop into a chemical fog. It was not quality, restful sleep. I also tried wine, beer, port and warm Grand Marnier. My problem was, in part a reaction to medication. My body got used to the meds after 4 or 5 weeks. There were other factors: stress for example (resolved). I also cut out caffeine after noon.
 
There are nights I am tempted to put myself back on the booze just to sleep but I know that’s a viscous circle...

I need proper flip chart to illustrate this, as picked this factoid up in psych-Ed class.

Sleep is important to health. Alcohol screws up your sleep; it may feel like a good way to get off to sleep, but it impacts the rhythm of sleep. Deep sleep is where the body (and mind) ‘repairs’ itself, REM sleep is where you dream (you knew that). You need deep sleep alcohol stops you entering deep sleep, so instead of your sleep cycle looking a series of decreasing steep waves, it’s very shallow; more REM states and less restful deep sleep.

Similar happens with excessive caffeine (caffeine has half-life of 5 hours), so ideally stopping caffeine intake before four/five o clock.

I’m a wealth of information. Some of it useful.
 
I need proper flip chart to illustrate this, as picked this factoid up in psych-Ed class.

Sleep is important to health. Alcohol screws up your sleep; it may feel like a good way to get off to sleep, but it impacts the rhythm of sleep. Deep sleep is where the body (and mind) ‘repairs’ itself, REM sleep is where you dream (you knew that). You need deep sleep alcohol stops you entering deep sleep, so instead of your sleep cycle looking a series of decreasing steep waves, it’s very shallow; more REM states and less restful deep sleep.

Similar happens with excessive caffeine (caffeine has half-life of 5 hours), so ideally stopping caffeine intake before four/five o clock.

I’m a wealth of information. Some of it useful.

Well sorry to disagree with you Mr D but this study has just been published which states that coffee / tea do not interfere with sleep

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www....affeine-tea-quality-study-a9044681.html**famp

I’m not sure I agree from my own experience. My own sleep issues have been going on for 18 months and coincide with my “ not as fun as it sounds” sex surge. Not fun because I now have a high libido but don’t get laid. Boo hoo. So, I used to have no problem sleeping in but now wake typically between 4.00 and 06.00. It’s shit.... you have my sympathies AP. Masturbating helps me...... very, very silent masturbating.
 
Revenge Porn.

Did anyone see the revenge porn thread? .... I reported it and now it’s gone. I can’t see it anyway ..... do you think they pulled it ?
 
Catching up with all I've missed.

Definitely need to think as/before I post (but not over think, the amount of time I haven't replied as I didn't think the post would come across as i tended) . I do try to curb my langauge and understand that tone/sarcasm don't really translate well to text.

Will happily stand up to and call out asshattery and fuckwittery in support of folks on here.

Super power for me would be control of the mystic arts a la Dr Strange. So much potential for good/evil/practical jokes :D
 
Did anyone see the revenge porn thread? .... I reported it and now it’s gone. I can’t see it anyway ..... do you think they pulled it ?

Oh for fucks sake... really...

They are some shitty people on this site... :mad:
 
Is bitching about the trains the most British thing after discussing the weather?

90 minutes delay and counting and I want to cry... on a hot, packed concourse with sweat trickling down the back of legs... attractive image for you there...
 
Is bitching about the trains the most British thing after discussing the weather?

90 minutes delay and counting and I want to cry... on a hot, packed concourse with sweat trickling down the back of legs... attractive image for you there...

Eeugh. Nightmare.... I feel your pain. Can I mention that I got soaked today and my hair is practically an Afro. ( not sure if that’s inappropriate reference).
 
Definitely looks to be gone at least, well done you :heart:

AP do you get lots of PMs from guys asking for help with their wives & girlfriends? Why are they asking me? For the record I’m in a sexless marriage and I have no experience of persuading women to perform specific sex acts or to just loosen up. Sex advice and tourist information- I might have to start a regular column for lurkers :D
 
AP do you get lots of PMs from guys asking for help with their wives & girlfriends? Why are they asking me? For the record I’m in a sexless marriage and I have no experience of persuading women to perform specific sex acts or to just loosen up. Sex advice and tourist information- I might have to start a regular column for lurkers :D

Good lord no... 😳

You are obviously way more approachable than me - I occasionally get men wanting to bitch about their wives, I don’t particularly encourage that - it’s a bit shit hearing a one sided rant.... but not sure anyone has asked me to help with their significant other. You must look like you have the skills.... 😉

I’ll subscribe to your column, x
 
SL and AP, I will try to refrain from either. I just love you ladies , and Angelica of course.:rose:
 
Eeugh. Nightmare.... I feel your pain. Can I mention that I got soaked today and my hair is practically an Afro. ( not sure if that’s inappropriate reference).

Well this old Celt would have loved to towel dry your locks and tease them and you perhaps lol
 
Good to know lit has its own agony aunt! Is this where we submit our letters?
 
Good to know lit has its own agony aunt! Is this where we submit our letters?

Please don’t. ;)

What they boil down to is this:

“I have this kink / interest. I would really like to do this kink /interest with my wife / significant other but she won’t entertain it at all. How can I persuade her?”

Depends on the kink in my opinion.... pegging and pissing I can understand why a vanilla lady wouldn’t want to go there. But oral sex? Giving or receiving!!! Do you think that’s a prudish, religious thing or a “ germs” thing?
 
Please don’t. ;)

What they boil down to is this:

“I have this kink / interest. I would really like to do this kink /interest with my wife / significant other but she won’t entertain it at all. How can I persuade her?”

Depends on the kink in my opinion.... pegging and pissing I can understand why a vanilla lady wouldn’t want to go there. But oral sex? Giving or receiving!!! Do you think that’s a prudish, religious thing or a “ germs” thing?

Ahhh... I struggle with oral and it’s neither prudish, religious or germs based... I have issues with fearing for my breathing.... also it takes me back to a dark place...

I really should be in therapy... maybe their wives should be in therapy... maybe they shouldn’t be asking a stranger on a sex site for advice. Call me a big fat cynic but I’d guess with some of them, it’s almost a lit chat up line... ‘how do I persuade a woman I don’t know to talk about her own oral sex experiences without seeming creepy? I know I’ll dress it up as me needing advice...”

Don’t mind me - I’m becoming overly cyclical and suspicious of much of lit these days...:rolleyes:
 
I will point out - I do make an effort but I’m not sure what it says about a man that he wants a woman to make an effort to do something she really doesn’t want to do...

That’s a lie - I do know what it’s says about a man...
 
Ahhh... I struggle with oral and it’s neither prudish, religious or germs based... I have issues with fearing for my breathing.... also it takes me back to a dark place...

I really should be in therapy... maybe their wives should be in therapy... maybe they shouldn’t be asking a stranger on a sex site for advice. Call me a big fat cynic but I’d guess with some of them, it’s almost a lit chat up line... ‘how do I persuade a woman I don’t know to talk about her own oral sex experiences without seeming creepy? I know I’ll dress it up as me needing advice...”

Don’t mind me - I’m becoming overly cyclical and suspicious of much of lit these days...:rolleyes:

Sure..... it’s always possible. I think there’d be a special category of guy looking to persuade a partner who’d had traumatic sexual experiences
 
Start giving out advice like, oh nothing makes me want to do that more than if my SO cooks me a 3 course meal and cleans the house top to bottom.

Want to see if your wife is into watersports? Make sure you clean that little bit at the back of the toilet.

She won't play sub with you? Take her to a feminist book reading.

Want more sex? Ask her how her day was

The possibilities are endless.
 
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