Hello all nice to meet you.

[Kargan3033]

Hello.
I am a 39 year old sight dominant white man.
However I have never had a submissive/slave before, I understand that the two main pillers of a healthy and loving Dom/sub relatiohsip is Trust and open and honest communacations between a Dom and a sub.
However I have two issues that are causing me some trouble in my sreach for a good and loving sub/slave.
1:I have been badly hurt in the past by women and girls as such trust is a very big issue for me.
2:Since I have no practical experance in have a good and loving sub/slave to love back I have the feeling that most submissive ladies would not be all that intrested in a Newbie so to speak.
I could use some advice from those who live this lifestyle.
Thanks for your help
Kargan3033

 

[FurryFury]

Welcome!

My advice is, read, here in the conversation threads, rather than the story section which is mostly fiction and for wanking. Ask questions too.

Find your local munch and go to it, the demos too if you can and so on. You'll learn plenty that way and you'll meet people, some who know more than you and some who do not.

 

[Kargan3033]

Welcome!

My advice is, read, here in the conversation threads, rather than the story section which is mostly fiction and for wanking. Ask questions too.

Find your local munch and go to it, the demos too if you can and so on. You'll learn plenty that way and you'll meet people, some who know more than you and some who do not.

I agree and I have been reading up on the BDSM libary here, as for finding munchies to go to I have tried and I have done many on line seraches and the cloest one to me in over two hundred miles and since I can drive I have no way of getting their and there is the fact that my life is some what complacted at the moment, no I'm not involved with anyone for the forseeable future but who knows.
I thank you for your advice it is most helpful and I'll be sure to read up on the topics here.
You all seems like a nice bunch of level headed people I'm glad I found this place

 

[FurryFury]

You might find this site interesting for bigger events worth traveling too.

http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/events.html#May

And this link is more for local munches.

http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/canada.html

 

[Kargan3033]

You might find this site interesting for bigger events worth traveling too.

http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/events.html#May

And this link is more for local munches.

http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/canada.html

Ahh thank you very much my friend