hello advice

[englitgirl]

I'm a long time reader, first time poster because I need a bit of advice. I'm an english major in college so I love Literotica, though haven't actually posted any stories.... yet. The folks on here seem to know what they're doing so I figured I'd ask.

I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. We've been having sex since just before the christmas break. I've only had intercourse with two guys before this. My first in grade 10 and second after prom last year. Both were pretty vanilla. This guy is into a lot more, and a lot more grabby and touchy, which I'm cool with. Thing is I know he's very into anal. Last month I let him finger me back there while he was down on me, and now he's doing it all the time. Sometimes, if I'm going to be getting him off with a handjob or blowjob and we're not actually going to have sex, he'll want to finger my ass for long periods of time until he wants to get off. I don't know if I'm fully ready for anal, but again, I don't know why I wouldn't be.

The second issue, and I don't mean to offend anyone, is I'm white and he's black (yes girls, he's big). Now I don't care about that in and of itself, but I've heard some black guys just want to get with white girls just because, and they try to do everything they can sexually with them, anal, intercourse, blowjob, facial, and cum inside, and then dump them because they're not really interested. I think it's just my ignorant friend saying all this, but she says I wouldn't know if that was happening. Any advice for this? We haven't done it unprotected yet, but I know he really really wants to. I'm on the pill and everything, but I've never done it without a condom with anyone.

Oh, and the last thing. He oozes what I guess is 'precum' from almost the moment he's hard. He cums at least double what I've seen before, so maybe it's normal. But that's my question, is it normal? Should he see a doctor or something?

Otherwise, thanks for reading. I'd love to read any submissions and I like to roleplay too (big into drama as well) so say hi.

 

[infinity706]

Honestly, I wouldn't listen to your friend. There's plenty of white, asian, spanish, and any thing else you can think of, guys that would do the same thing. I think your friend might just be a little racist.

Now, as for anal, it's not really a big deal as long as you know what you're doing. The biggest issue is, like you said, having a big dick. It might take some time and effort to work up to it. If you're enjoying the fingering, though, it sounds like it might be worth the wait. Just take it slow and use lots of condom compatible lubrication.

As for unprotected sex, the first thing you would do is get an STI test for both of you. After that, it really comes down to trust. If either of you go out and have sex with other people, unprotected, you'll still be at risk. I use condoms for penetration with everyone and I've had tons of partners.

Now, as for the precum, it's probably normal. It could just mean that he has a bigger prostate. More likely, though, he doesn't masturbate as much and "saves up" to fuck you.

Really, he sounds pretty good to me. Just have fun.

 

[silverwhisper]

hi englitgirl, welcome!

englitgirl quoth:
i think it's just my ignorant friend saying all this, but she says i wouldn't know if that was happening. any advice for this? we haven't done it unprotected yet, but i know he really really wants to. i'm on the pill and everything, but i've never done it without a condom with anyone.

i agree it's your ignorant friend. she clearly has some issues, not the least of which is poor reasoning: her argument is lame: "if it was happening, you wouldn't know?" that's something you tell someone whose intelligence or perception you don't respect. she should take a philosophy class or something to learn how to construct a logical argument.

STDs are a big reason to use condoms. while it's good that you're practicing safe sex and avoiding pregnancy, i think that STDs are a much, much bigger concern. if he's more experienced sexually, he might well have had sex with other partners about whose safe sex practices you know only what he chooses to tell you.

keep saying no.

englitgirl quoth:
oh, and the last thing. he oozes what i guess is 'precum' from almost the moment he's hard. he cums at least double what i've seen before, so maybe it's normal. but that's my question, is it normal? should he see a doctor or something?

from the moment he's hard? that's kinda unusual, but i don't think it's a health issue as you appear to be fear.

and about his interest in anal: he clearly is trying to get you interested in anal. have fun, and if he insists, tell him to supply the lube--and for the love of pete, a real lube, not anal-eze. i suggest the blank manual for suggestions.

ed

 

[LaRocha]

Black guys don't operate differently than white guys. Any college guy is going to try and get you to do as much as you're willing to do. Whether they dump you after has nothing to do with race. Most dudes aren't so hung up on anal that they'll dump you if you're not down. Once I got my wife to do anal a few times I lost interest in it, it's too much work and not really that sexy now. It was always more about what would she let me do... The thing about coming in you is ridiculous. It's a fetish, but it's the last thing you want to do. It's all about what claims we can make on you, exploring unexplored areas and all that. Nothing's bad until you feel undue pressure to let us do what we want.

 

[englitgirl]

Okay, I think we're all agreed my friend doesn't know what she's talking about. That's what I thought but i'm not terribly experienced in that department. She's a little spoiled anyway and I think talks way more than she knows.

The other stuff I'll still have to wait and see how it goes. I might have been exaggerating a little when I said he precums as soon as he's hard. He precums a lot and it can be long before he actually cums, but from the other posts I've gotten, it sounds like it's fine.

I never mentioned he's 23 and I'm 18. Does that make a difference?

 

[LaRocha]

Is he a senior, just some guy you met in town? Either way, 18 and 23 is a real age difference. When I was 23 I was only talking to 18, 19 year old girls for sex, just hook up type stuff. Maybe you're cool with that too, but I'd say if you're looking for a real boyfriend the odds say he's more interested in sex. If you were 23 and he was 28 age wouldn't be important, but you're still around the age where older guys are genuinely more interested in sex than companionship and all that. You probably know from how he treats you whether he's more interested in sex or actually being your boyfriend. We can't tell you that.

 

[RunningJib]

Regarding Pre-Cum

I'm a long time reader, first time poster because I need a bit of advice. I'm an english major in college so I love Literotica, though haven't actually posted any stories.... yet. The folks on here seem to know what they're doing so I figured I'd ask.


Oh, and the last thing. He oozes what I guess is 'precum' from almost the moment he's hard. He cums at least double what I've seen before, so maybe it's normal. But that's my question, is it normal? Should he see a doctor or something?

Regarding pre-cum. That is just a function of his libido. In other words, he's very excited and his body is expecting to have sex very shortly. Just like your vagina becomes wet, your boyfriend does too.

I have lots of pre-cum also. A few times, young ladies have witnessed me extremely wet and thought that I have already cum.

Technically, it is clear fluid from the cowper gland and its purpose is to clean (and lubricate) the urinary track. While cowper's fluid (pre-cum) doesn't contain semen, you must be very careful in that his urinary track may contain semen from a prior session.

 

[englitgirl]

I'm pretty sure he does want to genuinely be my boyfriend, but I've been wrong before. I don't mind the age spread. I don't think I get along as well with immature guys my age anyway.

As for the precum, yes, the arousal sort of explains it. I know he gets 'blue balls' very easily which can keep me busy when we get together, even if turning him on to that point is a bit accidental.

 

[bumlicker]

ya im thinking

yeah im thinking let him hit that ass hard

 

[Gil_T2]

I'm a long time reader, first time poster because I need a bit of advice. I'm an english major in college so I love Literotica, though haven't actually posted any stories.... yet. The folks on here seem to know what they're doing so I figured I'd ask.

I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. We've been having sex since just before the christmas break. I've only had intercourse with two guys before this. My first in grade 10 and second after prom last year. Both were pretty vanilla. This guy is into a lot more, and a lot more grabby and touchy, which I'm cool with. Thing is I know he's very into anal. Last month I let him finger me back there while he was down on me, and now he's doing it all the time. Sometimes, if I'm going to be getting him off with a handjob or blowjob and we're not actually going to have sex, he'll want to finger my ass for long periods of time until he wants to get off. I don't know if I'm fully ready for anal, but again, I don't know why I wouldn't be.

The second issue, and I don't mean to offend anyone, is I'm white and he's black (yes girls, he's big). Now I don't care about that in and of itself, but I've heard some black guys just want to get with white girls just because, and they try to do everything they can sexually with them, anal, intercourse, blowjob, facial, and cum inside, and then dump them because they're not really interested. I think it's just my ignorant friend saying all this, but she says I wouldn't know if that was happening. Any advice for this? We haven't done it unprotected yet, but I know he really really wants to. I'm on the pill and everything, but I've never done it without a condom with anyone.

Oh, and the last thing. He oozes what I guess is 'precum' from almost the moment he's hard. He cums at least double what I've seen before, so maybe it's normal. But that's my question, is it normal? Should he see a doctor or something?

Otherwise, thanks for reading. I'd love to read any submissions and I like to roleplay too (big into drama as well) so say hi.

UNPROTECTED SEX is the big one here IMO as do you know he is faithful to only you? plus the biggy if he is for you him to get tested for all possible STDs.

ANAL can be extreemly enjoyable for both but caution needs to be taken because of his size as well as knowing how much knowledge he has & isn't a shove it in & go for it guy.

Precum can vary between males, how long since last sex but also it could well be a STD as some produce a fluid like precum.

 

[englitgirl]

Thanks for the advice, bumlicker.

And I'm 90% sure he doesn't have anything wrong with him, and 90% sure he's totally faithful to me. But yeah, something to consider and make sure.

 

[finesse910]

If you trust him- you trust him.

Pay attention to your instincts. Just listen to your heart. It's all too easy to get wrapped up in the what-ifs. If you feel like he's just using you, be cautious, otherwise... don't live your life in fear.

 

[CowBoy18^]

The idea that you would even pay your friend any attention at all means that maybe you are feeling the same way, that he may not really be interested in you. But just because he's black or whatever means nothing.

I'm a long time reader, first time poster because I need a bit of advice. I'm an english major in college so I love Literotica, though haven't actually posted any stories.... yet. The folks on here seem to know what they're doing so I figured I'd ask.

I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now. We've been having sex since just before the christmas break. I've only had intercourse with two guys before this. My first in grade 10 and second after prom last year. Both were pretty vanilla. This guy is into a lot more, and a lot more grabby and touchy, which I'm cool with. Thing is I know he's very into anal. Last month I let him finger me back there while he was down on me, and now he's doing it all the time. Sometimes, if I'm going to be getting him off with a handjob or blowjob and we're not actually going to have sex, he'll want to finger my ass for long periods of time until he wants to get off. I don't know if I'm fully ready for anal, but again, I don't know why I wouldn't be.

The second issue, and I don't mean to offend anyone, is I'm white and he's black (yes girls, he's big). Now I don't care about that in and of itself, but I've heard some black guys just want to get with white girls just because, and they try to do everything they can sexually with them, anal, intercourse, blowjob, facial, and cum inside, and then dump them because they're not really interested. I think it's just my ignorant friend saying all this, but she says I wouldn't know if that was happening. Any advice for this? We haven't done it unprotected yet, but I know he really really wants to. I'm on the pill and everything, but I've never done it without a condom with anyone.

Oh, and the last thing. He oozes what I guess is 'precum' from almost the moment he's hard. He cums at least double what I've seen before, so maybe it's normal. But that's my question, is it normal? Should he see a doctor or something?

Otherwise, thanks for reading. I'd love to read any submissions and I like to roleplay too (big into drama as well) so say hi.

 

[jmcdaniel]

Well, I am going to drop my point-oh-one in here and see what comes out.

Ill start with the precum question first and move down from there.


The guy with the biology lesson was mostly correct, when dealing with where it comes from and how it is formed... However, Precum can contain seminal fluid, and sperm. It is rare, but can happen... Now, as to the point of some sperm lying in wait in his urethra... Well, lets just say you have better odds winning the lottery, twice, while juggling 15 plates, simultaneously playing the trombone. Im trying to be funny, so dont take offense or anything.... Let me explain. First and foremost, Sperm have a life span, or a shelf life if you want to call it that. Once they reach this proverbial expiration date, they become useless. Immobile and infertile. They die. So unless this guys *recent sexual activity* was with in 14-24 hours, the likely hood of you getting some viable sperm from that is very close to nill. Now not only will it die quickly, Sperm can not live in urine. So, if the guy takes a leak at any point between his last ejaculation and his precum, the sperm that might have been there, will not only have been killed off (due to high ph and other factors) it would have been flushed out. Sperm are very delicate, and require a very strict set of conditions in order to exist. That is the exact reason for precum. *To condition the urethra and gland tract so that upon ejaculation the sperm will be able to actually survive the trip.* OK. moving on.

To the un protected sex question... Pregnancy is the least of your worries. Getting a STD/I is no fun, and can be with you for life. I would suggest a full panel of tests before doing that. that is pretty much it.

Now to the anal...

There are several things, factors if you will, that play into this. Do you enjoy it? Is it something you want to do? IF either of the answers is no, then you should really reconsider your doing the aforementioned act. If they were YES to both the we will move on.

IF you said YES, there are a few things you need to know.

Anal sex in and of itself is relatively benign in nature. However, very serious complications can arise if done improperly.

You mentioned he is well endowed.
*this can be bad. The rectum is only so big, no matter how much stretching you do, He may not be able to fit. The best advise here is to start small (Like a finger) and move up. Even then, use lots of lubrication. If it hurts back off a little. There are very serious complications that can come from forcing him into that small space to soon. Anal tearing and lesions can occur, bleeding and seepage are also fairly common side effects. All of these can be reduced or completely eliminated by taking your time, building up to his size, and using plenty of lube.
After, all of that, you still may not get him all the or even part of the way in, and if you cant... DONT!

As far as the age difference, I wont comment... I do not view age as a determining factor... I have met 13 year olds that could pass as 30 year olds in conversation.... Like wise, I have met 30 year olds that could pass at 13.

As far as the white/black issue... I do not see the correlation. Race does not specifically denote actions in relationships. That is akin to saying all Asian people are wife beaters. Its ludicrous and simply not true.


Well I will wrap it up here. If you have any more questions please ask away. Till next time.

 

[englitgirl]

Thanks for all the help, folks.