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[vickixvalentine]

So im 18 and i've been screwing around with guys since i was 14, and since then ive only ever had 2 orgasims =[ i mean i've had long term relationships but i don't know if i just cant get off or if the guys i choose suck? any pointers

 

[emap]

Play with yourself. Learn your own body then teach them your body, and of course be vocal tell them what feels good, what doesn't, what you hate, to move to the left or right or up or faster so on so forth.

The only way alot of women can orgasm from sex, is to simply be a back seat driver and get him to drive the right way.

 

[Eilan]

In before leg-humpers offer to "help."

Play with yourself. Learn your own body then teach them your body, and of course be vocal tell them what feels good, what doesn't, what you hate, to move to the left or right or up or faster so on so forth.

What she said.

If you don't know what you like and what works for you, you can't communicate this to your partners. They're not mind readers.

 

[NippleMuncher]

In before leg-humpers offer to "help."

Gosh! you say that like there's something wrong with it.


Vicki - We men don't need much more than nekidness (even if only a leg ... ) to do our business and a good number of us have either never been taught how to use the playground properly, or in some cases, some don't care about anything but using their own equipment.

Whatever the case, you're the one in charge of the playground, and it's up to you to know what all the equipment is, how it works, and it's proper use so that you get your cookies too!


All this is my way of saying what the others said!

 

[Tasty_GA_Honey]

Tell us more...

Darling, I think we could give you better advice if you were able to share a little more information with us please ma'am.

Do you masturbate?

If so, is it with your hands and fingers or other things (toys, etc)?

If so, does is result in orgasm?

When you had the two orgasms with partners previously, what did they do to get you there?

 

[Tasty_GA_Honey]

Tell us more...

Darling, I think we could all give you better advice if you shared a little more information please ma'am...

1. Do you masturbate?

A. If so, does it result in orgasm?

B. When you masturbate, it is with fingers and hands or with other aides such as toys?

2. When you had your two orgasms previously, was it with a partner?

A. If so, what did it take to get you to the point of orgasm?


I hope that these probing questions help dear!

 

[jjdd]

Hey girl. I used to have the same problem. Of the twenty or so guys that I have fucked, only two have been able to get me off. So part of it could be the fact that the guys you are hooking up with, I'm assuming they are close to your age, are inexpierienced. So you may have to show them specifically what you like.

Also, I just bought a vibrator. Best. Decision. Ever. Not only does it feel great, but it has made it easier for me to get off when I'm with a man, no vibrator present. It is probably mostly mental, so I can't say if it would work for you. But it is worth a try. The brand I got was fun factory and I would highly recommend it. Hope this helps, good luck!!

 

[ineedpain2getthere]

it's all in the talk.

i am the type of man that will do whatever is asked of me so like the lady said before me "just ask" you need to talk to him let him know what you like and you dont like is my tip to you. i would also add remember that he to may want to ask of you to do for him. it a two way street in a couples relationship but never do something you dont want to do. i hope you have fun and learn allot. pain

 

[vrosej10]

So im 18 and i've been screwing around with guys since i was 14, and since then ive only ever had 2 orgasims =[ i mean i've had long term relationships but i don't know if i just cant get off or if the guys i choose suck? any pointers

Only about 25% of women (at the most) can orgasm from penetration alone. The problem is, most men are only interested in the main game, not the sideshows. The advice about masturbation is good. If you are having sex and he's not doing the job, do it yourself during the game. Men don't generally complain, he might learn how to do it and you'll get off. Remember, take care of yourself, because pretty much no matter what you do, he's gunna come.

 

[JohnMBrowning]

The problem is, most men are only interested in the main game, not the sideshows.

Not always a problem - see "The politics of pussy-eating" thread on HT Cafe'.

 

[fgarvb1]

So im 18 and i've been screwing around with guys since i was 14, and since then ive only ever had 2 orgasims =[ i mean i've had long term relationships but i don't know if i just cant get off or if the guys i choose suck? any pointers

The last time I was with someone your age was a long time ago. however the best as I can remember a lot of young ladies have a problem relaxing.

Oh, Most of Y'all put on a good act but the truth is you still aren't comfortable with yourselves and with whom you are having sex with to really enjoy it to the maximum.

Having the hots for them isn't always enough.

To do that you have to really trust your partner with your body and your mind.

How many men have you had sex with that meet those requirements with out you drinking or being high?

Damned few I'm guessing.

Along with some suggestions other people have posted I feel, is the answer to the problem.

 

[vrosej10]

Not always a problem - see "The politics of pussy-eating" thread on HT Cafe'.

I said most men, not all. Goddess be praised for those men who actually fully enjoy their pussy. I myself am a big fan of going down. I can never figure guys who aren't. I reckon they're missing out!

 

[LittleMissMafia]

Darling, I think we could all give you better advice if you shared a little more information please ma'am...

1. Do you masturbate?

A. If so, does it result in orgasm?

B. When you masturbate, it is with fingers and hands or with other aides such as toys?

2. When you had your two orgasms previously, was it with a partner?

A. If so, what did it take to get you to the point of orgasm?


I hope that these probing questions help dear!

Sweetie, i have a very similar prob, except my prob is actually orgasming during sex.
I think that if your body is "calloused"so to speak, then its going to take a while to sensitize your body again.
having multiple partners that are only there to have you as a tool for their own satisfaction are NOT going to help you achieve bringing back sensitivity.
Having an emotional connection will really help you with this as well.

 

[horsie_gurl]

okay i had the same problem, and i did tell him what to do. and when he did follow it would feel amazing, however, i never was able to get an orgasm. I masturbate very often and i can get an orgasm with no problem. I just felt really impatient when i was with him because i assumed he was getting impatient and i would give up the efforts.

 

[saskatuna]

okay i had the same problem, and i did tell him what to do. and when he did follow it would feel amazing, however, i never was able to get an orgasm. I masturbate very often and i can get an orgasm with no problem. I just felt really impatient when i was with him because i assumed he was getting impatient and i would give up the efforts.

i've been in that situation, both as giver and receiver, and i think it's just a matter of patience and familiarity. i decided that if it feels good, just keep doing it, and once you relax, bingo.

 

[vrosej10]

okay i had the same problem, and i did tell him what to do. and when he did follow it would feel amazing, however, i never was able to get an orgasm. I masturbate very often and i can get an orgasm with no problem. I just felt really impatient when i was with him because i assumed he was getting impatient and i would give up the efforts.

I have had this problem for years. I have been relaxed and patient and it never goes beyond a point of orgasm desperation. And I mean we have been trying for YEARS. I have given up and do it myself with his assistance. My body just wants exactly what it wants and nothing else. No matter what I do, no one else can make it happen.

 

[Shadowann2]

I have had this problem for years. I have been relaxed and patient and it never goes beyond a point of orgasm desperation. And I mean we have been trying for YEARS. I have given up and do it myself with his assistance. My body just wants exactly what it wants and nothing else. No matter what I do, no one else can make it happen.

That's how it is for me. We make it part of the intimacy. We have sex, and at some point, either before, during, or after, I get mine, just not from sex. It was really hard for him to accept that he couldn't give me an orgasm for a long time, but he has come around. He kisses me and plays with my breasts and touches me while I touch myself, so he is still part of me achieving an orgasm. My body is just finicky like that.

 

[vrosej10]

That's how it is for me. We make it part of the intimacy. We have sex, and at some point, either before, during, or after, I get mine, just not from sex. It was really hard for him to accept that he couldn't give me an orgasm for a long time, but he has come around. He kisses me and plays with my breasts and touches me while I touch myself, so he is still part of me achieving an orgasm. My body is just finicky like that.

So glad to hear I am not alone.

 

[pinkflames]

I have had this problem for years. I have been relaxed and patient and it never goes beyond a point of orgasm desperation. And I mean we have been trying for YEARS. I have given up and do it myself with his assistance. My body just wants exactly what it wants and nothing else. No matter what I do, no one else can make it happen.

I have my strongest orgasms if I do it myself while he cuddles me. I can orgasm from other ways but we both enjoy finishing with me touching myself so why complain?

 

[remove090809]

Find that bump in your vagina, get a dildo and hammer the shit out of it. After that you wont need a guy.

 

[vrosej10]

Find that bump in your vagina, get a dildo and hammer the shit out of it. After that you wont need a guy.[/QUOTE

Vibrators don't work for me. Never have.