Look I know this isn't a normal topic, but my heart has just been broken. Everything was going well (really) and then all of a sudden she ended it. I really dug this girl and fell really hard. Just wanted to hear others broken hearted story if that's ok
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I feel for you...
Isn't it a connundrum when the person you love disappears in a four day period and is replaced with a pod person? I spent a wasted month trying to find the person I fell in love with, only to find that they had changed so quickly that it was permanent. Those words they once said to you, now contradicted, leave bitterness in your heart...Tears are not a salve for the soul. Only in the last few days have I not had that ache in my chest at some point during the day. But remember what Ms. Judd said in Someone Like You--<Insert Name> is not the last (person) you will ever love.
Isn't it a connundrum when the person you love disappears in a four day period and is replaced with a pod person? I spent a wasted month trying to find the person I fell in love with, only to find that they had changed so quickly that it was permanent. Those words they once said to you, now contradicted, leave bitterness in your heart...Tears are not a salve for the soul. Only in the last few days have I not had that ache in my chest at some point during the day. But remember what Ms. Judd said in Someone Like You--<Insert Name> is not the last (person) you will ever love.
Kitte
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A poetic look at heartbreak
In a darkened bar I feel the fog
That makes me feel no more
The blur of all things around me
Is numbing
Finally relief
I give up and give in
To wanting you more then wanting to save myself
I hate myself for each moment you are inside me
You look the other way as I cry…
cant be bothered by the truth
That you hurt me…
Or is it that you don’t care
That you are killing me
Slowly
With deliberate strokes
Instead of becoming part of me
You are taking me out of me
But what problem is it of yours
I’m am just another casualty of your war
To find who you are…
But you fail to see that with each victim you leave behind
The world becomes more and more aware of what you are
A killer of souls with no remorse
And your punishment…
Though not mine to decide
You reap what you sow…ten fold
I pity you and your soulless love
But me I pity more
For loving you still.
3/8/2001
In a darkened bar I feel the fog
That makes me feel no more
The blur of all things around me
Is numbing
Finally relief
I give up and give in
To wanting you more then wanting to save myself
I hate myself for each moment you are inside me
You look the other way as I cry…
cant be bothered by the truth
That you hurt me…
Or is it that you don’t care
That you are killing me
Slowly
With deliberate strokes
Instead of becoming part of me
You are taking me out of me
But what problem is it of yours
I’m am just another casualty of your war
To find who you are…
But you fail to see that with each victim you leave behind
The world becomes more and more aware of what you are
A killer of souls with no remorse
And your punishment…
Though not mine to decide
You reap what you sow…ten fold
I pity you and your soulless love
But me I pity more
For loving you still.
3/8/2001
tswyk
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sch00lteacher
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I think we all go through this. It is part of growing up (no matter how old you are when it happens).
You survive. You get over it. You won't believe that now. But you will see.
I thought I would be sad the rest of my life. I wasn't.
I thought I would never find another one like her. I didn't, I found someone better.
Time. It takes time.
You survive. You get over it. You won't believe that now. But you will see.
I thought I would be sad the rest of my life. I wasn't.
I thought I would never find another one like her. I didn't, I found someone better.
Time. It takes time.
Orwell84
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Carkeys, sorry to hear about your troubles. As hard as it may be to believe right now, these things do indeed pass, and you will get over. The fact is that life will go on, and so will you.
Focus your thoughts and energy in other directions. Try not to dwelll on how bad you feel.
I know it will not be any consolation, but it could be worse. You could live in a community property state, and been married, then you would not only get screwed emotionally, but financially too!
Good luck.
Focus your thoughts and energy in other directions. Try not to dwelll on how bad you feel.
I know it will not be any consolation, but it could be worse. You could live in a community property state, and been married, then you would not only get screwed emotionally, but financially too!
Good luck.
Poor Yorick
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Bindii said:
When I lost a love, I didn't believe that at first, but after a year, I felt alive again. I still think about her, but I can feel again... and you will too.
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Poor Yorick said:
Its so true, we have all lost someone and we have all believed at the time that it was the end of the world...but yet here we are (many of us with different partners) and happy.
Life goes on.....relationships and people change...you hit a wall, climb over it and keep going.
There is light at the end of the rainbow.
But here's the kicker to the whole story. We work in the same hospital and our department is right next to each other. I HAVE to see her every day!!! Just hearing her laugh brings pain to my heart. I'm trying to deal with it by listening to music to drown out her voice, but I still see her sometimes. I know all the warnings about not dating anyone from work...but I didn't care then, but I certainly regret not listening to them now.
But the saddest part to this whole story is that we used to be such good friends, we would talk on the phone for hours about nothing!!! But now we have had a failed relationship, I have completely lost that friendship...I'm such an idiot.
But the saddest part to this whole story is that we used to be such good friends, we would talk on the phone for hours about nothing!!! But now we have had a failed relationship, I have completely lost that friendship...I'm such an idiot.
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Affairs of the heart are never stupid. So don't say that. And to repeat what everyone else is saying, the pain does go away eventually. My ex put me through the emotional ringer too. I am still recovering from it and yes it does get better every day. Not noticable(sp?) but if you look at it from a third person perspective, you can actually see the pain slipping away. If you feel like talking, please feel free to contact me. I have been there and done that like a LOT of other LITs here. Just take life one day at a time. And as for seeing her at work, do you really want to give her the satisfaction of knowing how bad you really hurt?
Orwell84
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Carkeys, as others have said, been there, done that, and can understand and relate to where you are. Try to find ways to occupy your time. DO NOT spend all your time thinking about this. I know that is easier said than done, but you need to try. As to the friendship, that may not be gone. Give it some time for the end of relationship issues to pass, and then maybe you can recover the friendship. It does not always work, but does sometimes. Good luck.
Plasticman33 posted this a few weeks ago...maybe it might help...
HopeCircle.com
Tonight...
Tonight will be the last night .....
The last night I will relive our last time together....
Tonight will be the last night that I beg God to send you back to me....
The last night that I will criticize myself for not being what you wanted....
Tonight will be the last night that I wonder how you are...
what you are doing and who you are with......
The last night I will torment myself of thoughts of you in another's arms....
Tonight will be the last night I wonder why you are unable to love me....
The last night that I will think of myself as "unlovable."
Tonight will be the last time I cry like a wounded animal till I fall asleep....
The last night that I toss and turn with thoughts of you....
Tonight I will free myself of you...
YOU who turned and walked away without so much as a glance....
Tonight I let you go....
~~by Donna1
HopeCircle.com
Tonight...
Tonight will be the last night .....
The last night I will relive our last time together....
Tonight will be the last night that I beg God to send you back to me....
The last night that I will criticize myself for not being what you wanted....
Tonight will be the last night that I wonder how you are...
what you are doing and who you are with......
The last night I will torment myself of thoughts of you in another's arms....
Tonight will be the last night I wonder why you are unable to love me....
The last night that I will think of myself as "unlovable."
Tonight will be the last time I cry like a wounded animal till I fall asleep....
The last night that I toss and turn with thoughts of you....
Tonight I will free myself of you...
YOU who turned and walked away without so much as a glance....
Tonight I let you go....
~~by Donna1
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sorry to hear about that i know it is very hard to lose someone you love, but over time it will get better and maybe you can use this relationship that ended as a stepping stone for a better relationship next. Give yourself some time and then sort out what the positives could be
Ah, that's tough. I remember when I had to work with an ex, it was horrible.
I think the trick was to act like I didn't care. Try to be happy, try to feel happy that you're single again. Just try it, it'll flip her wig. I swear. But it is damn hard. *hugs*
I think the real key to good endings is communication. People do a great disservice to someone when they don't explain why. Its damn cowardly, and it's not right. Would you fire someone without telling them why? Love is a hell of a lot more personal than a boss/employee relationship, it seems it would require more tact and sensitivity to end.
I think the trick was to act like I didn't care. Try to be happy, try to feel happy that you're single again. Just try it, it'll flip her wig. I swear. But it is damn hard. *hugs*
I think the real key to good endings is communication. People do a great disservice to someone when they don't explain why. Its damn cowardly, and it's not right. Would you fire someone without telling them why? Love is a hell of a lot more personal than a boss/employee relationship, it seems it would require more tact and sensitivity to end.
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CarKeys said:
I don't have it in me to detail my situation right now. I'm just too worn out. BUT, if it matters, and it didn't matter much for me, there are people out here that understand and have gone (are going) through what you are going through.
I wish you the best.
I think the one thing I learned about love is that it should never be taken for granted. I didn't realized that how much I loved her until after I lost her. Shamed she doesn't feel the same about me. Love...it's simultaneously the best feeling and the worst feeling in the world. God sure has a funny way of doing things....
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i needed a 5yrs gap away from my first love as she cheated on me with my best mate.
she was my heart, soul and reason to live back then and the breakup sent me into a drug enduced blur for 3yrs.
i've picked up and have started to talk to her in the past couple of months and she is turning out to be a very good close friend of mine.
it'll all work out just give it time.
time is all you need.
hope your smile returns soon my friend
she was my heart, soul and reason to live back then and the breakup sent me into a drug enduced blur for 3yrs.
i've picked up and have started to talk to her in the past couple of months and she is turning out to be a very good close friend of mine.
it'll all work out just give it time.
time is all you need.
hope your smile returns soon my friend
Read each one carefully and think about it a second or two.
1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.
2. No man or woman is worth your tears , and the one who is, won't make you cry.
3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
4. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.
(I personally love this one because it's true)
5. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with you smile.
6. To the world you may be one person, but ot one person you may be the world.
7. Don't waste your time on a woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
8. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
(I don't like this one at all)
9. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.
10. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.
REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
I don't know what to think when I read things like this. I've always believed in true love and I never want to be jaded. There are so many people in this world who has had bad relationships and they've become untrustful and cynical......what has this world come to? When you were little, things were so much more simple and more magical, now as adults the magic seems to be lost on all of us....
1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.
2. No man or woman is worth your tears , and the one who is, won't make you cry.
3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
4. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them.
(I personally love this one because it's true)
5. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with you smile.
6. To the world you may be one person, but ot one person you may be the world.
7. Don't waste your time on a woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.
8. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.
(I don't like this one at all)
9. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.
10. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.
REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.
I don't know what to think when I read things like this. I've always believed in true love and I never want to be jaded. There are so many people in this world who has had bad relationships and they've become untrustful and cynical......what has this world come to? When you were little, things were so much more simple and more magical, now as adults the magic seems to be lost on all of us....
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...
For some reason, I send this kid PMs and he does not answer...maybe he does not know HOW to operate it? My heart goes out to you CK...I wish I could take your pain away. I have been in your place before. Don't change your ideals of what love is---if you lose that you will lose your innocence.
(((CK)))
For some reason, I send this kid PMs and he does not answer...maybe he does not know HOW to operate it? My heart goes out to you CK...I wish I could take your pain away. I have been in your place before. Don't change your ideals of what love is---if you lose that you will lose your innocence.
(((CK)))
