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No I dont enjoy it, its my least favorite part. But I will do it, if that is what he wishes. As to how far I will go, it depends on my mood at the moment.
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MissTaken said:Do you enjoy the head games that are part of D/s? Is there a limit to what sort of games you enjoy?
And of course, there are different perspectives concerning the definition of head games, so please, feel free to give us yours!
Actually...for me head games are the main reason i evolved into the sweet *snicker* lil sub you see before you. I get a dark, twisted thrill from my Owner acting, behaving in a way i am not used to. I get moist from humiliation (which is the masochist in me and not the submissive)...i enjoy this lifestyle and all that goes with it...though i must say...(on a personal note) that being involved in a *relationship that extends into vanilla land* is a very difficult thing to handle sometimes.
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Good head games....
Suggesting to him stories, ideas, situations that I may put him into. Pushing the fantasies he's told me to more "extreme" limits. Talking as nasty as I'd like, even if I don't intend to follow through, but all for his ultimate pleasure.
He"ll know when I am playing good head games.
Bad head games...
Being untruthful. Leading him to believe something that is totally false. Any "head game" that has the potential to hurt emotionally is not for me.
Suggesting to him stories, ideas, situations that I may put him into. Pushing the fantasies he's told me to more "extreme" limits. Talking as nasty as I'd like, even if I don't intend to follow through, but all for his ultimate pleasure.
He"ll know when I am playing good head games.
Bad head games...
Being untruthful. Leading him to believe something that is totally false. Any "head game" that has the potential to hurt emotionally is not for me.
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I'd have to hear some definitions of head games, first...I think there are some I like, and some I definitely don't.MissTaken said:Do you enjoy the head games that are part of D/s? Is there a limit to what sort of games you enjoy?
And of course, there are different perspectives concerning the definition of head games, so please, feel free to give us yours!
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lovetoread said:
Welcome back to the forum, LTR!
Certain games fall into the category of "mindfuck" for me and that can be great and wonderous fun.
But then, those head games that are to test submission or degree of submission piss me off!
Thre are times when the head game seems a bit too much like manipulation versus communication.
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What I love about the head games is that you can go places that you may not be able to physically.
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dee98625 said:The lifestyle is a head game. If someone is not playing with my head then i do. The thrill of submitting, doing what i am told knowing i am doing it for Her and not because i want to is enough to get the games started
It is ALL about the head game for me. Submitting is definately a thrill...being MADE to submit an even bigger one...
for me...the whole Dom/sub thing only applies to sexual situations...rarely applies to much else in my life...so I want it to be intense...and head games do that for me.
It is all about how I am feeling...or being made to feel.
MissTaken said:Do you enjoy the head games that are part of D/s? Is there a limit to what sort of games you enjoy?
And of course, there are different perspectives concerning the definition of head games, so please, feel free to give us yours!
i have not found a limit yet, but i am sure there is one in there...just have not made it there. i very much enjoy the head games/mental foreplay/mind fuck, which is not to say they are all the same necessarily, just getting the general catagory all at once. i realize there are more specific defining points to each. i have a harder time coping though when i feel like i am being messed with for a reason i don't understand. Friday He picked me up from work and from the moment we were together, He was in a certain mood. It was as if He was purposely pushing my buttons, or trying to get my temper up. i did not know what to do or how to react to it all. He later admitted He was doing it on purpose and had thoroughly enjoyed my discomfort. lol i felt like such a puppet, push me here, pull me there -- which i think was at least part of His intention. Of course when i know what He is doing and why, it is a lot easier to cope. i guess that is a given and a bit like cheating.
As uncomfortable as it was, there was a moment i happened to look over after He had finally provoked a sharp response and He was grinning from ear to ear. He gets enjoyment of telling me in great detail some mornings what He intends to do to me that night and then laugh as i go about my day with a fogged brain and totally unable to concentrate. His favorite is to tell me He will be using His belt. i dread that and stay on edge all day, not in a good way.
And yet, there is something oddly arousing knowing that i am His toy in many ways. In the beginning i had a very hard time with that particular term. i no longer do. i enjoy the head games, and there are times the only reason i enjoy it is b/c He does.
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Yes. Its part of my controlling nature.
"Head games" can have a negative connotation to me, but from what others have said in their replies, I will echo my enthusiastic response for those psychological twists and prods that my Master gives me in order to reaffirm my submission to Him.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
"Head games" can have a negative connotation to me, but from what others have said in their replies, I will echo my enthusiastic response for those psychological twists and prods that my Master gives me in order to reaffirm my submission to Him.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
"Head games" can have a negative connotation to me, but from what others have said in their replies, I will echo my enthusiastic response for those psychological twists and prods that my Master gives me in order to reaffirm my submission to Him.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
"Head games" can have a negative connotation to me, but from what others have said in their replies, I will echo my enthusiastic response for those psychological twists and prods that my Master gives me in order to reaffirm my submission to Him.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
"Head games" can have a negative connotation to me, but from what others have said in their replies, I will echo my enthusiastic response for those psychological twists and prods that my Master gives me in order to reaffirm my submission to Him.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
"Head games" can have a negative connotation to me, but from what others have said in their replies, I will echo my enthusiastic response for those psychological twists and prods that my Master gives me in order to reaffirm my submission to Him.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
I am in a 24/7 relationship, and, sometimes, it can be difficult to remember that I am His slave and not His girlfriend or even buddy. (We get along like "buttah.") I actually suggested the following to Him: that, from time to time, He come up behind me, grab my hair (which I LOVE) and gruffly ask me "who i am." My answer can range from "His slave" to "His nasty cuntslut." It's the surprise aspect that I love and which can jolt me back into subspace for Him.
A bad head game for me would be overt manipulation. I agree that stuff like that can be used in lieu of actual communication, something which both He and I put a high premium on. Being needlessly, abusively cruel is another head game. And, here, I am talking about the bad kind of cruel. Like calling me "fat" since He knows I am sensitive about my weight. Or "stupid," which is just mean. (Neither of these things He does, btw.) There is no fun in that type of stuff for me, and if it ain't fun, then it's hardly a game.
Another good head game that I thoroughly enjoy is "Trivial Pursuit," but I don't think that's what you meant by the term.
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The 'mind fuck' can be a useful tool at times. A chance to see just what the secret desires of a pet are and a chance to crush those desires and remind that pet of his place.
I do it rarely. I find that if done too often, it doesn't work as well.
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I do it rarely. I find that if done too often, it doesn't work as well.
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A few months ago i was seeing a Dominant who thrived off of head games. He thought in order to keep me around he had to play with my mind, that it helped me keep my interest level up in him. All it did was discourage me. He was constantly trying to make me jealous of other subs that he was going to see, claiming that they wanted to wear his collar. I use to laugh, get angry, and jealous. But in no way was this going to get him what he wanted, which wasn't even me anyway.
To explain that last comment. He wanted to collar me yes, but he didn't really want me, he just didn't want anyone else to have me. I put up with it for a month, seeing him several times a week. The sessions were always amazing and kept me around longer then i should have been. There came a day when i finally realized he didn't care about anything but himself. Something had happened in my life and i felt i should be able to come and talk with him about it. He ignored me and just wanted to know when he could use me again.
Head games. If you want someone to think for you then you probably love them. I on the other hand am too bullheaded to let that happen. Just be honest and upfront with me. I don't see a point to head games but i am sure that some do.
To explain that last comment. He wanted to collar me yes, but he didn't really want me, he just didn't want anyone else to have me. I put up with it for a month, seeing him several times a week. The sessions were always amazing and kept me around longer then i should have been. There came a day when i finally realized he didn't care about anything but himself. Something had happened in my life and i felt i should be able to come and talk with him about it. He ignored me and just wanted to know when he could use me again.
Head games. If you want someone to think for you then you probably love them. I on the other hand am too bullheaded to let that happen. Just be honest and upfront with me. I don't see a point to head games but i am sure that some do.
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Miraclezoe said:
Good for you my lady
lovetoread
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Miraclezoe said:
Bravo. Wonderful post.
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Bump? 
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My favorite head game is the illusion that I've somehow 'gotten away with something' .... the appearance that He has forgotten my transgressions and all is well. What a rush when He pulls the rug from beneath my feet with an evil grin and I land ass up across the bed.
Head games, in my opinion, are the biggest part of an online partnership ... if you can't have the physical 24/7, at least you have the mind.
Thank you, Catalina for bumping this to the top ... I would have never seen it had you not.
Head games, in my opinion, are the biggest part of an online partnership ... if you can't have the physical 24/7, at least you have the mind.
Thank you, Catalina for bumping this to the top ... I would have never seen it had you not.
