Having sex with an ex gf

[skippy34]

I was out last night having drinks with the guys when the topic came up about sleeping with an ex gf. A friend of mine who is in a relationship for a little over a year recently had his previous gf contact him about getting back together. He is happy with the current gf (at least it seems that way to me) but he had a great time having sex with the last gf when they were together. The only thing aside from the current relationship holding him back is that the ex gf told him that she gets very attached when she sleeps with a guy. He is only looking for sex, and the ex really wants to have sex also. I am sure we have all fantasized about one of our best previous exes, but not ever being in that situation I had very little to offer. So it got me curious....

Have you ever slept with an ex gf/bf when in your next relationship? If so, how did it turn out? Did your current partner ever know? Did the ex want more of a relationship after?

I am not looking for a judgment on why it would be wrong for exes to sleep together, that is not the point. Just wondering how it turned out. I would like to know from both men’s and women’s point of view.

 

[jehoram]

Have you ever slept with an ex gf/bf when in your next relationship? If so, how did it turn out? Did your current partner ever know?

She not only knew, but she let us use her apartment. She knew that we were still sorting things out, and figured that if she gave us the space (literally and figuratively), our relationship would be stronger. She was right.

 

[NightL]

He is happy with the current gf

ex gf told him that she gets very attached when she sleeps with a guy.

He is only looking for sex, and the ex really wants to have sex also. (but "previous gf contact him about getting back together")

...now what is that term? Oh "dick for brain".

As for "Have you ever slept with an ex gf/bf when in your next relationship?" - yes on several occasions. The current partner, of one time, participated.

For the other times, was it wise? Probably not, though not an issue at the time.
Was it fun? Mostly yes.
Were there issues? Minor with one wishing to rekindle the relationship.

There have been relationships where I would never consider hooking up with an ex, or anyone else, at the same time. Ultimately the significance of the current relationship of the time was a factor. So there is no right or wrong.

I remained in friendship with several of my ex partners, still to this day.

Flipping it around, in the past I had had an ex come to me many times over several years. I was single at the time and still emotionally attached. While the sex was great there was ultimately a lot of hurt involved. In hindsight I regret those occasions happening. (What goes around comes around)

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Yes, several times. Guys are usually happy to keep things casual.

 

[jasheville]

I have had sex with my current gf and two ex gf during the same week. I slept at my current gf house. We went to dinner and a movie and then back to house to spend the night. We had oral, anal and straight up sex for several hours before sleep. The next day I took and ex to lunch then back to her apartment. She sucked my cock and I bent her over and did her doggie style til I came across her ass. I licked up some of my cum and we kissed for awhile. Two days later the other ex wanted to meet and talk about Wenger's we went wrong. She is very kinky. She rimmed me good then pegged my as splash and then I did the same to her. Man I had a good filming week!

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Yes, several times. Guys are usually happy to keep things casual.

We are easy to figure out.

 

[hanban24]

I was out last night having drinks with the guys when the topic came up about sleeping with an ex gf. A friend of mine who is in a relationship for a little over a year recently had his previous gf contact him about getting back together. He is happy with the current gf (at least it seems that way to me) but he had a great time having sex with the last gf when they were together. The only thing aside from the current relationship holding him back is that the ex gf told him that she gets very attached when she sleeps with a guy. He is only looking for sex, and the ex really wants to have sex also. I am sure we have all fantasized about one of our best previous exes, but not ever being in that situation I had very little to offer. So it got me curious....

Have you ever slept with an ex gf/bf when in your next relationship? If so, how did it turn out? Did your current partner ever know? Did the ex want more of a relationship after?

I am not looking for a judgment on why it would be wrong for exes to sleep together, that is not the point. Just wondering how it turned out. I would like to know from both men’s and women’s point of view.

Bad idea all the way around. I think it would be wrong for him to sleep with his ex while in a relationship, but even if you put that part aside it is probably not a good idea.

As you mentioned, she gets attached easily, which I think a lot of us girls do. There is more of an emotional connection for women when it comes to sex, and that can make causal sex really difficult for us. I’ve slept with an ex a couple of times and it was never something that worked out well.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

After basic training my gf and I broke up before my first duty assignment overseas. Came home on leave and was out in a pool hall when she and a friend walk in. We start playing and next thing you know we’re back at her apt picking up where we had left off. Did I mention she was engaged now? Getting married a month later.

I was unattached at the time so I figured no harm no foul? We were each other’s first, and I’ve always heard you can always hook up with your first. If she came around now 30+ yrs later, I honestly think we could have a go!

 

[cubbyfire04]

oh shit hahaha sleeping with an ex is like hiking in a bog and finding yourself stuck up to your knees in wet partially decayed plant material LOL
there is always a reason someone is an ex - I remember all the reasons for mine

Well said! But I will say, I've made the mistake on more than one occasion. Fortunately they never backfired on me.

 

[Wickettoby1]

Dated a woman for 6 months, i figured it out that it wasnt gonna work. I broke things off which lasted about 3 months. She contacted me and wanted to get back together. I told her it wasnt a good idea because i knew i didnt have romantic feelings for her. She suggested a FWB situation which i finally agreed to. After 2 years of her trying to turn it i to more than FWB she finally realized that it would never be more than that to me so we stopped seeing each other. It was a lot of fun but not really worth it.

 

[cubbyfire04]

where is that little voice that whispers "oh fuck - don't"

Unfortunately that voice requires the blood that goes to my dick to work properly. In fairness, I'm married and far more mature. I don't see that being a mistake I'd ever find myself in a position to make ever again.

 

[trinisity]

I have. It was nice. Neither of us really knew about polyamory at the time... and we came from very religious backgrounds. We were terrible for each other in a relationship... but we would have been great at being friend that fuck. But sadly the whole religious thing made us try the traditional relationship thing. Disaster. But the occasional fucking was great.