Having first MMF experience

[mb514]

Hi,

My girlfriend and I are 23 and from montreal. We have been together a few years and are flirting with the idea of having a threesome with another man in the near future. However, we're not sure how we could find a good (and preferably anonymous) man that can be trusted in such a situation or how to ease into the experience. We want to start with the basics, just having her touched by both of us while at a bar or something, but then possibly live out one of her fantasies, double penetration.

Has anybody here ever tried this? What do you recommend? Where could we find a man and how should we set up the meeting and eventual experience?

Thanks

 

[EJFan]

i don't really have anything to contribute here but i believe "anonymous" and "trusted" aren't things that typically coexist... at least in a sexual situation. a lot of members here will have plenty of prudent suggestions for you. i suspect that most (if not all) will say that even if you don't know this potential third party now, you should get to know him well before endeavoring to engage in a MFM (which i believe is what you meant, rather than MMF) with him.

good luck to you and welcome to lit.

 

[PerthOzMale]

Best I can suggest is to post here. There is a female here who has listed that as one of her fantasies and a friend and I are in the process of finding the time to help her with that fantasy

I am sure if you post on the Personals board you may get some nice replies.

Good luck

 

[mb514]

i don't really have anything to contribute here but i believe "anonymous" and "trusted" aren't things that typically coexist... at least in a sexual situation. a lot of members here will have plenty of prudent suggestions for you. i suspect that most (if not all) will say that even if you don't know this potential third party now, you should get to know him well before endeavoring to engage in a MFM (which i believe is what you meant, rather than MMF) with him.

good luck to you and welcome to lit.

Thanks EJFan, I should have been a bit clearer on what we want. When I say "trust", all we want is someone who is drug/disease free and who will respect limits. We're both sure that we want to go into this slowly, and start with simple things, such as a meeting in a public place and casual flirting before doing anything behind closed doors.

What should we look for when trying to meet people? and how should we get things started/make sure everyone is satisfied in the bedroom?

 

[ickle_stace]

Thanks EJFan, I should have been a bit clearer on what we want. When I say "trust", all we want is someone who is drug/disease free and who will respect limits. We're both sure that we want to go into this slowly, and start with simple things, such as a meeting in a public place and casual flirting before doing anything behind closed doors.

What should we look for when trying to meet people? and how should we get things started/make sure everyone is satisfied in the bedroom?

unless someone turns up with a certificate proving they are disease free, you can't actually guarantee that the person is disease free though can you?

 

[glynndah]

unless someone turns up with a certificate proving they are disease free, you can't actually guarantee that the person is disease free though can you?

You can if you test 'em, lock 'em up in your basement and then test 'em again in six months or so. *not that I'd know anything like that or anything*

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks EJFan, I should have been a bit clearer on what we want. When I say "trust", all we want is someone who is drug/disease free and who will respect limits. We're both sure that we want to go into this slowly, and start with simple things, such as a meeting in a public place and casual flirting before doing anything behind closed doors.

What should we look for when trying to meet people? and how should we get things started/make sure everyone is satisfied in the bedroom?

There is absolutely NO way to know if they're D/D free. Even using the method glynndah suggested, they still could have HPV, something men aren't tested for outside of clinical studies, or be getting an HSV outbreak and not know it.

So, ther only smart way to go is using safer sex practices for everything, including oral (both ways), if you want to have the best chance of guarding against STIs. You'll also want to talk about how you'll deal with a pregnancy that has a chance of being the other man's, even if it's highly unlikely.

Online Personals can be a good way to meet and screen people initially. You might want to look through completely free sites like SwingLifestyle, Craigslist and OKCupid. Swingers clubs/groups may also be a good option for you since that population is often more concerned about safety and honesty (e.g. most won't hook up with people who are cheating), but that's certainly not something you should not use safer sex practices because of. Make a very specific list of who you want and what you're looking to do, share it with and meet candidates, and go from there.

 

[Laster]

We have had a couple of MFM 3ways.
There great fun and I had the best orgasm of my life when we did our first DP.
We always pick a stranger , never never anyone we know.
Most of the time I just give the other guy a BJ while hubbie bangs me

 

[FurryFury]

Hi,

My girlfriend and I are 23 and from montreal. We have been together a few years and are flirting with the idea of having a threesome with another man in the near future. However, we're not sure how we could find a good (and preferably anonymous) man that can be trusted in such a situation or how to ease into the experience. We want to start with the basics, just having her touched by both of us while at a bar or something, but then possibly live out one of her fantasies, double penetration.

Has anybody here ever tried this? What do you recommend? Where could we find a man and how should we set up the meeting and eventual experience?

Thanks

The bolded part shows quite an inconsistency. I'd want someone I could trust far more than someone that was anonymous. I've thought about it a great deal. It would have to be someone we both trusted and knew.

OTOH, you could try using toys to double or even triple penetrate her along with your cock. That's pretty trustworthy stuff right there and it's pretty fucking anonymous too! LOL.

That's what we did.

So far!

Fury

 

[hippi_cur]

I don't have any advice on this. But I do want to follow it and see how it unfolds.

I'm a single male who has been recently approaching the idea of being with a couple. I've noticed that finding a situation that I feel comfortable with AND isn't some super high risk anonymous situation is taking time. Ultimately I think risks and advantages need to be weighed out. Nothing is 100% safe, so you can only be as safe as you can be and still accomplish the task at hand.

There are nightly opportunities in local swinger type ads if you don't mind some casual encounter with who knows who, but those don't seem to be very good ideas to me.

Although it's been proving evasive for now, I believe it's out there and I will find it. That is a couple who I feel comfortable with and who feels comfortable with me for exploration and whatever else....

From what I've read so far and responses I've gotten to questions: Make sure everyone knows everyone else's limits. You may want to only share the girl and the male you add may want to share you.

 

[Ezzy]

Clarify before you start what you are looking for and what you are going to advertise for.

MMF both men interact with the woman and each other.
MFM both men interact with the woman and not each other.
FMF both women interact with the man and not each other.
FFM everyone interacts with everyone.

What you ask for will determine what people think you want, if you ask for the wrong thing you may get more than you wanted.

Get to know the third away from your house, a restaurant, hotel / motel, club.
Set up an email just for this purpose, one you wont mind ditching if things get weird.
Talk through what is expected, from both sides, establish the ground rules before actaully getting down to it, or things may end in tears, laughter or sadness.

 

[eyeretinaeye]

Mfm

Have been the third in a MFM, but most of all it was a friendship first. Some people think hay lets get naked and do some matress dancing; thats not how it works. Once a friendship, trust and honest questions and answers have been asked on each side; only then can a fun MFM happen.

I had know the husband before from our teenage years and that help build the trust and desire for the two to them to invite me to join them. I also did photographs of them performing sexual acts together which back in the mid 80's was not something anyone could do. I had a lab which made sure only I myself and then got to see the pictures.

Most of all it was the watching and partaking that was the most fun. We are still friends today and look back on it as a very enjoyable time in our lives.