Have You Met Your Online PYL/pyl?

[catalina_francisco]

As many here have online relationships, I thought some might like to discuss whether it is exclusively online, if you have met or plan to, what you would hope for in the future (taking it to RL or remaining online), if you are happy with what you have, and basically the positives and negatives you experience by either conducting all of or most/much of the relationship through online means? Feel free to introduce any other aspects you wish to discuss.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/212/470394031_91147e189f_t.jpg Catalina

 

[Yasashii_Kaze]

Yup! And we're hoping to spend a week together in May.

 

[EmpressFi]

First met in person December 8th.. and we've been together4 times since.. and we're already looking forward our next time together the weekend before Thanksgiving...

 

[FungiUg]

I don't have an online P-thingie. I have chatted online with women who have been my submissives, but it's always been with the intention of meeting or having already met.

The closest I can come to this is an online lover I had while I was in Sydney and she was in Texas. This is before I discovered BDSM. And yes, we met for 9 fabulous days/nights in Sydney. (My partner is so jealous, because she wants 9 fabulous days/nights with the same woman now. But this predates me having met my partner.)

 

[ecstaticsub]

I met my Dom on-line but I don't refer to him as my "on-line Dom". It is more of a long distance relationship. We communicate through on-line of course with webcam, IM, email, voice chat and also by cellphone. We talk many times throughout the day everyday. We try to get together 3-4 times a year. I wish it were more often but with children and a husband to attend to it's not easy to get away.

There are many days due to our schedules that I am able to talk with my Dom hours more than I am able to spend time with my husband (awake time that is)

Since both my Dom and I are married to other people and have such busy career and family lives living a plane trip away may be for the best. On the other hand being so far away can get so frustrating. Sometimes I wish we lived close enough to spend a day with each other then I'll be home in time to greet my children when they come home from school. But I wonder if it would end up having a negative effect on my marriage..I'm not sure. As time moves on and my children grow and leave the house I see us spending more time together, at least once a month.

In general, I am happy with how things are now. The times we do spend together are cherished and are very special. There is also something nice about communicating by the written word. I have hundreds of emails that we have shared that I love reading over and over. Being far away makes me think of creative ways to please him and show him how much I love him.

It has worked for over 2.5 yrs now and I hope it continues forever.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I met my Dom online... but I see him face to face every few weeks as right now he lives about 40 mins from me, but soon he will be what we consider a LDR cause I am moving away but we decided we would make it happen..... no matter what..

 

[LittleJade]

No, I haven't....

but I ache to.

 

[FurryFury]

I've met more than one online Dom and other people that I would love to meet in RL and get down with. I won't though. That is not something I'm going to allow myself. I rarely truly lose perspective on that, thank goodness, but it sure makes for wonderful fantasies.

 

[rbijon]

I've met more than one online Dom and other people that I would love to meet in RL and get down with. I won't though. That is not something I'm going to allow myself. I rarely truly lose perspective on that, thank goodness, but it sure makes for wonderful fantasies.

ok, I admit it, what is a PYL?

 

[reignophelia]

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[rbijon]

pyl = pick your label

PYL caps means Top/Dom etc
pyl lower case means bottom/sub etc.

Thanks...I am always learning!
& I can see I am lower case....oh the possibilities

 

[Esclava]

No, I've not met my online PYLs and yes, I would like to. I have seen pictures of my Domme and spoken to both of them on the phone.

Is it possible? Probably not - as both belong to others. To meet them would be fine (for dinner or drinks); but to meet and physically play with them in a BDSM context, would violate something I've had in my life for the last 5 years (since I returned to BDSM). I don't play with 1/2 of a couple without the permission or participation of the other 1/2. It keeps "issues" to a minimum.

That's how I know it would never work out. So, I just enjoy the time I do receive from Them - and enjoy the hands of my real life Dom/me couple.

Esclava

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

As many here have online relationships, I thought some might like to discuss whether it is exclusively online, if you have met or plan to, what you would hope for in the future (taking it to RL or remaining online), if you are happy with what you have, and basically the positives and negatives you experience by either conducting all of or most/much of the relationship through online means? Feel free to introduce any other aspects you wish to discuss.

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/212/470394031_91147e189f_t.jpg Catalina

Have not met my Dom, though we have seen pictures of each other and I have heard his voice. I would love to meet him but know that will not happen anytime soon due to our RL situations.

We are exclusively online and speak through email/PM almost everyday. I am very happy with him and am not looking elsewhere for the satisfaction that right now, only he brings my life.

I have not encountered any negatives in being with him and trust him/adore him with every fiber of my being. He is the reason for my location because I would "walk to the ends of the Earth naked" to please him.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

as many of you know, Master and i have been together for 4 years "online" we met for the first time a little over a year ago. then again in January, and again a few months ago. we are planning a move (Him moving here) very soon. i've been so busy with work though, and so has He, that we haven't had much time *sighs*

 

[Sir_Joe]

its not possible for me

since i live in india, and most friends i've live in USA /UK

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I haven't meet my online Dom, but i deffo love to dream i will one sweet day........

 

[subfem1963]

Yes I have met mine We spent quite alot of time chatting and getting to know each other before i felt confident enough to meet him. He lives about 7 hours away so its not easy for either of us. But at the end of November i am going to be spending another 3 days with him. I cant wait.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

as many of you know, Master and i have been together for 4 years "online" we met for the first time a little over a year ago. then again in January, and again a few months ago. we are planning a move (Him moving here) very soon. i've been so busy with work though, and so has He, that we haven't had much time *sighs*

Yeah, what she said.

 

[Recidiva]

Mine's past tense, but an online success story...eventually, anyway.

When I met him online, he was married to someone else. Then he was free later and I was married to someone else.

We met in a roleplay game. So...all for fun. We approached it as improv, theater, harmless fun.

This was about 15 years ago. We tended to gravitate toward each other and the roleplay aspects were so much fun. Gender swapping, playing master/slave, good guy, bad guy, rape, sweetness and light, romance in a virtual home with a custom tree house.

Light fun turned into admiration for each other's creativity and talent and gift with words. We were as much at home hating each other's character and spewing insults and bile as we were playing inseparable twins. Just always at home everywhere, any story, any character. Everyone else fell away.

We fell in love despite our sophisticated assurances that nothing online could happen. It was magnificent and miserable. It took us six (yes, six) years to finally come to terms with being the only one for the other, while mangling every other relationship we had because it could never measure up.

Physical separation was hellish, as was the sense of having found "The Perfect One" and never being able to share in that. We'd marry online, with the vows of "To have but not to hold" - with manacles instead of rings.

We started out escaping reality together, and then made the transition to being reality for each other. Heady and dangerous and difficult.

Six years online together. Nine years together in real life. Three years married. (We wanted to continue living in sin, but the fringe benefits of marriage were too damned good.)