Have you ever left a job.....

[T.H. Oughts]

and told the boss he/she is the reason you are leaving because of their personality and the way they deal with you????

I've been working away from my business the last few weeks for a few short hours a week, but told the boss today I am leaving...

I did not tell her it was because she is a 'control freak' and has no respect for her staff. I just said I needed to spend more time with my own business...

Should I tell her the reason she has gone through 6 staff members this year or ring the head office and tell them. Or just walk away....

She has no bearing on my future life, there is no way she could hurt my business reputation, the job was a total different field from what my business is and contacts I work with.

 

[Olivianna]

I would say yes - that is, if doing so would not significantly impact your professional life in the future. Let her know in a constructive way, though. Ultimately, I think it is out responsibility to help each other learn...even if it is painful and difficult to do so.

 

[Silverlily]

Yes, not only did I tell him, I told our Human Resources Dept.

The guy was a complete jerk, two faced, and quite frankly, breaking labor laws. When I gave him my two week's notice, he cussed me out in front of customers. Needless to say, I didn't give him two more minutes, much less two weeks.

 

[sufisaint]

When I left my job as an attorney I got to tell the two seniors partners to fuck off.....was a great moment

 

[tryingsumtinnew]

I saw if you're not going to burn a bridge you are worried about have some fun with it and tell them exactly what ya feel. It's a great release telling someone that was once your superior what they can do with their position.

 

[capricious_chic]

If you don't feel comfortable telling your ex-boss.. at least tell the person above them. At the company I work for presently.. we have what is called "exit interviews".. it allows the person quitting another interview with the Human Resources dept., so they can keep abreast of why a person may actually be leaving, as opposed to what one might put on a resignation letter.

If nothing else, you could potentially help a company that may need to consider management courses for its management.

CC

 

[*bratcat*]

Yeppers...

 

[Saint Peter]

The old tried and true "kiss my big hairy ass"
is always a good way to end employment. Also answers the "eligible for rehire" question up front.

 

[Felicia4411]

T.H. I know how you feel. I've been working at a chiropractic office since January and the doctor is really great, very nice and tries hard to make sure I'm happy in my workplace. The problem is his wife who works part-time. She trained me wrong on a number of things and it took me quite a few months to re-train myself. We send in insurance claims for patients and I'm sure you know how picky insurance companies are. She makes the medicare patients pay up front and then she constantly makes errors on their forms and so I'm constantly having these sweet older people complaining about how Medicare yet again denied their claims and they aren't getting their money.
I'm so tempted to say something because the doctor asks me all the time if everything is going well, or if I'm having any problems at work but I'm worried that since it's his wife I'll end up getting more problems than I already have. I'm quitting in December and am counting the days
I do think you should talk to her and let her know...maybe you'll save the next new hire.

 

[DevilBoy79]

yes,

 

[Meltzer]

ever seen "Half Baked" now thats the way to go
"Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, you're cool. Im'm out"
fucking classy

 

[Sillyman]

That's the reason why I've quit all of my jobs up until now, although I never told them that was the reason to their face.

 

[capricious_chic]

ever seen "Half Baked" now thats the way to go
"Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you, you're cool. Im'm out"
fucking classy

Yes!!! I love that! We have discussed doing that a work several times.. oh how fun that would be.

 

[tryingsumtinnew]

Yes!!! I love that! We have discussed doing that a work several times.. oh how fun that would be.

Yeah we did too, but unfortunately we were in the Marines then.

 

[Meltzer]

my last day is the 30th, goin out in style. fuck you's all around.

 

[Hot4Heels]

I am a construction worker. This is like an artform for us.

As a buddy of mine once said if you quit quitly they want to know why. If you make a scene they just want you to go.

LoL at SaintPeter. Nothing like burning bridges!

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Two pervious staff members this year told the manager they were leaving because of her personality of making them feel like a moron for no real reason. She has not taken that in and learnt form it...

She runs a tidy branch and puts out good figures. Head Office don't care about staff turn around because she deals with the hiring...

I will ring head office the week after I leave a tell them.... about time someone told them about her personality with staff and customers... but after 12 years in the job herself who knows if they will listen....

I just know if I owned the company I would wish staff would tell me if the branch manager was a bitch when they left....

 

[Guest]

Unpleasant circumstances

I left a job in retail I dearly loved over an ugly incident I observed involving my immediate superior, the store manager. I had walked up from his blind side to ask a question about some store related business when I realized he had the crotch of a young boy of 10 or so cupped in his hands and he was bending into a kneeling position. Had I not returned from my lunch early I doubt I would have interupted the event, needless to say I turneded away acting as if I had not seen anything. Following store policy, I reported the incident to the proper channels and within 24 hours I was being pressured by him and the other senior staff members to resign immediately. I hung on for six weeks when suddenly it became clear to me that even though a child had been molested in the store by an employee, the company that operated the bookstore chain was more afraid of a lawsuit by said manager should they dismiss him than appear not to support their publicized policy of 'diversity in the workplace'. In summary, they chose to harbor a pedophile as it was less damaging than being sued by one for not agreeing with his lifestyle choice.

 

[Skibum]

I once told a boss what I thought of him in very basic Englih, and rather loudly. I gave him my two week notice at the same time. Two days later, half the crew walked out, and called me to come and get them.

 

[fanzee1]

and told the boss he/she is the reason you are leaving because of their personality and the way they deal with you????

I've been working away from my business the last few weeks for a few short hours a week, but told the boss today I am leaving...

I did not tell her it was because she is a 'control freak' and has no respect for her staff. I just said I needed to spend more time with my own business...

Should I tell her the reason she has gone through 6 staff members this year or ring the head office and tell them. Or just walk away....

She has no bearing on my future life, there is no way she could hurt my business reputation, the job was a total different field from what my business is and contacts I work with.

only tell her so if there is absolutely NO way she can come back to bite you in the ass later. People are vindictive scum.

 

[ronde]

Telling off the boss

It depends on the size of the company and upon what it will do for you. It usually won't do anything toward changing the boss. Asshole bosses never believe they're assholes. They believe the employee in question is too sensitive, is incompetent, or is too lazy to do what they expect.

If it's a large corporation, your best bet is the HR manager. These managers usually have dual reporting, that is, they report to the manager of the facility, but also report to a corporate director. They watch for things like bosses that seem to have lots of problems with employees, and usually something gets done. It may take a long time.

If it's a privately owned company, almost nothing you say will change anything unless you feel better by unloading some anger and frustration. Remember, those bridges that aren't there have a funny way of popping up when you least expect, so tread carefully.

 

[Simply Me]

The old tried and true "kiss my big hairy ass"
is always a good way to end employment. Also answers the "eligible for rehire" question up front.

So true. I've never worked for someone that was a tyrant, but if I felt that way, yes, I would tell them. Especially if they are the reason so many others are leaving. Sometimes it's easier to replace to the chief than all the little indians.

 

[Bob Peale]

No.

The old adage, "No good deed goes unpunished" applies here.

Calling corporate will, in most cases, have you pegged as a troublemaker. Do you really think that they have no idea what/how/who she is?

She's had interactions with other peers, subordinates, supervisors, etc. during her tenure. As you said, others have spoken to no avail.

Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying that speaking out is a bad thing. It would be one thing if you were staying - then you could document your complaints, document your communication of them, and bring suit in the event that she behaved in a retaliatory fashion, using your documentation as support. But by launching a salvo on your way out, you leave yourself open to retaliation of a more subtle kind - usually in the form of a negative job reference - and you will never know since that's not normally disclosed. Even if HR or the owners are logical, your manager can add something to your file during the closeout process about how bad you were to work with, etc. Then, when some HR wonk gets the call and pulls your file - voila! Bad employee.

And before you say, "Well, I'd never use them as a reference anyway" remember - the professional world isn't nearly as large as we'd like it to be. There are formal references, and there are the informal one (managers that belong to the same club, children on swim teams together, etc.). Why burn a bridge unnecessarily?

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I only left one job, cause I was hit by a truck and unable to do that job again.

but I do say that the most important thing is to be happy with yourself.

so If your job makes you unhappy and you can find anohter one. I say leave