Have you ever had an online relationship end in heartbreak?

[tennessee]

An online relationship just ended for me and it has left me absolutely heartbroken. She was a wonderful person and over a brief period of time, I fell madly in love…I know, but don't judge before it happens to you. What started out as just some innocent flirting, moved to some cybersex and then as I got to know her, became a full-fledged love affair…at least on my part. But alas, I am married and she couldn't be the "other woman".

Just wondering, am I alone?

 

[Bindii]

No you are probably not alone......I have never had an online relationship but understand how you can fall in love with someone online anyway. I have friends who have been heartbroken over broken online relationships and the pain they felt was no different to the pain of a 'normal' relationship.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I have to go now before I say anything about you being married and having an online relationship..... *insert sewn up mouth smiley here*

 

[tennessee]

I have to go now before I say anything about you being married and having an online relationship..... *insert sewn up mouth smiley here*

Thanks Bindii, I do appreciate the reply. I know relationships while married isn't the best thing to do. But, there are situations in a marriage that drives you to seek the attention of another person. Should you just end the marriage and move on...probably. But that is a lot easier said than done. My question is should a person (man or woman) have to live without the fulfillment of sex just because they are married and the partner doesn't want it? Or, is the fact that your partner doesn't want sex adequate reason to end a marriage...especially where there's children involved and your religious beliefs prohibit divorce...just curious.

 

[Mistress]

Too many fucking times to admit.....

 

[Wiggles]

To your first post, no I have never been heartbroken online. I can, however, see just how easy it is. Feelings and words get misrepresented, and twisted for our own use.

And even if everyone's intentions are clear from the start, feelings have a way of going astray.

I know you're not alone, because I hear many stories like this one. Sorry to hear about your heartbreak.

As to your second post, I believe that is a personal decision only you can make. I don't know all your circumstances, but from the giste of what you're saying, I would stay. If the relationship is otherwise healthy, I would see no reason to end it.

But that's just the way I would react, every single person is different, and I suppose it really depends on how important sexual fufillment is to you.

 

[LukkyKnight]

No, you are not alone.

It is possible to discover a bond more powerful than you dare to believe can exist as you get to know somebody, it doesn't matter if you meet in the airport, the parking lot, or an internet site. When you communicate and open up... well... heartbreaking outcomes are always possible.

It is possible to love somebody you have never, ever met face-to-face.

Very.

 

[Bindii]

Thanks Bindii, I do appreciate the reply. I know relationships while married isn't the best thing to do. But, there are situations in a marriage that drives you to seek the attention of another person. Should you just end the marriage and move on...probably. But that is a lot easier said than done. My question is should a person (man or woman) have to live without the fulfillment of sex just because they are married and the partner doesn't want it? Or, is the fact that your partner doesn't want sex adequate reason to end a marriage...especially where there's children involved and your religious beliefs prohibit divorce...just curious.

Damn - I hate being in a position to judge others actions...who am I to cast stones? I'm not perfect myself but do have certain beliefs which may or may not be shared by others. I guess we all live by our own code of ethics, each to his own.
But as you asked my opinion I shall give it (God help you!).....lol

Have you thought that there is a reason why your wife has chosen not to have sex with you? Perhaps she is is feeling neglected in other areas of the relationship - as in OUT of the bedroom?

Sex is an important part of a relationship, and each person is different therefore the importance that sex plays in our relationships are different......if sex is that important to you, yet not to your wife then maybe it is enough reason to end your marriage. I have found in my own partnerships that when the sex went downhill then so did the communication...without communication there is no relationship to speak of.

You mentioned your religious beliefs prohibiting divorce, does this same religion say its ok to have an online affair?

Hell, only you know the answers to your questions, you are the only one that really knows what is going on, you are the only one that has to live your life!
I'm not judging you, I am merely stating my own personal beliefs that apply only to my life.
*reinsert sewn up lips smiley*

 

[bluelight]

I know exactly what you mean about Heartbroken.

It has been just over 2 years now and a day doesn't go by that I dont think of her.

It went on for 4 years and we got together twice. She was here to live with me but left. I think it was to overwhelming to her with the big change in lifestyle all of a sudden.

I do miss her : o(

 

[nasty]

Well, it wasn't really a relationship. WE only met once. But, yes.

 

[Andreina]

My experiences with online relationships

My first ever online relationship was with one of the probably sweetest guys in the world. He was from Cali and we were "together" for about 4 months in which we became very very close, although we neOver cybered. He finished it because I fucked it royally up. It left me very heart-broken, mainly because it was my first online relationship and stuff... things are always harder the first time.

Since I had 3 sincere and long online relationships, the longest one being 1 1/2 years - all three of them left me heart-broken, although I wasn't necessarily the dumpee. But then, I'm a very emotional person.


Thanx for listening.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Just wondering, am I alone?


No, you are not alone.

That's all I'm sayin'....

Except:

Leave her to heaven,
And to those thorns that in her bosom lodge,
To prick and sting her.



~H~

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Sorry to hear about your heartbreak, Tennessee.

The online relationship that has started for me about 4 months ago is as intense and powerful as any relationship I have ever had! Very fortunately for us, neither of us is married and I appreciate that we both have "singleness" going for us!

Never did I expect to become so involved with anyone before. Oman arrives in NYC tomorrow, and it's a start to our next level of loving each other. I take nothing for granted, and although we love each other very much, there is no guarantee what will be in the future.

No, you are not alone to feel the heartbreak of a relationship, and I'm thinking one that began "online" might even be more painful that some offline romances. Hope I won't need to know firsthand.

 

[SempreAngela]

Online relationships ending in heartache..

The only decent relationship that I have ever had was an online relationship. GAWD how I loved that man!! We were so connected and felt what each other was feeling from over 1000 miles away. I fucked the entire thing up by trying to protect myself, letting fear rule me, and not meeting him face to face. I will forever be kicking my ass till my nose bleeds.

I can truthfully say that as deeply as I loved this man, the pain was just as deep when it ended. I have not been the same since and I never will be. I would not take a billion dollars for the experience of knowing him. It was priceless! He was/is priceless!

I hope that each of you that are involved in an online romance will not fuck it up as I did. Make plans to meet the lover. You will always wonder what it would/could have been like if you don't meet them and take it from someone that knows, that is NOT a way to live life.

If by some remote chance my ex online lover sees this:

Thank you for the magic.
Thank you for showing me how to be me.
Thank you for letting me see all the colors of the world via your eyes.
Thank you for showing me the difference between living and existing.
Thank you for being you.
Thank you for loving me.

I accept full responsibility for the fuckup. I cannot make it up to you. I wish that I could. I will always love you no matter where our paths lead. Thank you for allowing me to know that LOVE is a forever thing even if a relationship isn't.

 

[The Nitelight]

I've had a single online relationship, one that's lasted a year and a half.
There's been some heartbreak, and there've been some tough times, but we've always fought through it, and it's made us stronger.
I pray that it never ends.
I know I'll never give up on us.

 

[Guest]

Just wondering, am I alone?

No, you aren't alone. Last August, the only long-term relationship of my life ended, and I lost the only guy I've ever been in love with. It was exclusive, lasted over 2 years, was long-distance (over 1,000 miles), started online in a game and progressed to ICQ then to phone. We never met in person, and now we never will. Neither of us is married or otherwise attached, so that wasn't the issue. Honesty was. After six months of being without him in my life, I still cry.

I don't claim to understand (or judge) how people can enter a relationship and build feelings for someone knowing that either they or their partner is attached and the relationship therefore will go nowhere. How can it end in any other way than pain?

 

[LukkyKnight]

[Light]

The mind has a thousand eyes,
And the heart but one;
Yet the light of a whole life dies,
When love is done.

Francis Bourdillon

I cannot sing the old songs
I sang long years ago,
For heart and voice would fail me,
And foolish tears would flow.

C.A. Barnard -- Fireside Thoughts

The holiest of all holidays are those
Kept by ourselves in silence and apart;
The secret anniversaries of the heart.

-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

[Marxist]

If you never met in RL, you need to to reassess your defintion of heartbreak.

And please, for the love of god, leave the house and interact.

If I ever say that I'm heartbroken over someone I've never met in RL, you'll know I should be put down.

 

[LukkyKnight]

If you never met in RL, you need to to reassess your defintion of heartbreak.

And please, for the love of god, leave the house and interact.

If I ever say that I'm heartbroken over someone I've never met in RL, you'll know I should be put down.

Free your mind, grasshopper, you've missed the essence of what binds two people together. It is not sight, it is communication. Your lack of understanding doesn't justify your cynical criticism.

 

[Marxist]

LK, that was the best Black Bird imitation you could muster?

 

[estevie]

*giving Marxist the 'evil eye'*


Hey Lukky, I love this!


quote:
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The holiest of all holidays are those
Kept by ourselves in silence and apart;
The secret anniversaries of the heart.

-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

[LukkyKnight]

Not an imitation, nor my best put down.

I expect more of you, Marxist, but if you're just in a mood to feel better by making such naive statements don't let me stop you stirring up shit, dive right in headfirst.

 

[Marxist]

Not an imitation, nor my best put down.

I expect more of you, Marxist, but if you're just in a mood to feel better by making such naive statements don't let me stop you stirring up shit, dive right in headfirst.

My comment wasn't a put-down (unless you find Black Bird third rate), just a dose of reality.

Sure there are people behind screen personas, but get a grip on what is truly heartbreaking. Losing "Toby34265" to "KissingKelly78" is not truly heartbreaking.

The word you're looking for here is DISAPPOINTMENT. You're disappointed it didn't turn out to be more than words or bits or electrons over a phone.

It's not stirring shit to tell the truth. Wake the fuck up!

 

[estevie]

Marxist, please...shut the hell up. To say I could not feel true heartache for something I've never seen is false. My relationship with Southern is as real as any other part of my life. Perhaps other people fall in and out of love easily on the net...I have had one internet relationship, the one and only I will ever have. Don't tell me its not real cause we don't touch. You have no idea how real it is.

 

[juicylips]

Sure there are people behind screen personas, but get a grip on what is truly heartbreaking. Losing "Toby34265" to "KissingKelly78" is not truly heartbreaking.

The word you're looking for here is DISAPPOINTMENT. You're disappointed it didn't turn out to be more than words or bits or electrons over a phone.

It's not stirring shit to tell the truth. Wake the fuck up!

I know, M, you are still hurting from our break up.

You used words like HEARTWRENCHING, LIFE CHANGING, FOREVER.

You have to stop with the phone calls, ok?? Those silent hang ups are starting to wear, sweetie. I know you just want to hear my voice, but..geesh. Trust me it's better this way.

Cassidy

 

[login]

Losing "Toby34265" to "KissingKelly78" is not truly heartbreaking....

....unless you're "Tenn47". As LK said, it's mostlyl about communication. There are people that can't "touch" those that they can touch, and vice-versa.

Although, I too wonder about the strength of a relationship when one side wasn't willing to make the commitment necessary to take it further. I'm also willing to concede that I don't know the details, nor do I want to.