Have you ever???(2)

[Vail_Indigo]

I am reminded of Milan Kundera's 'Unbearable Lightness Of Being' and 'Immortality'.
We go through life, and we acquire things, we acquire people, we acquire responsibilities.
In this way, we become heavy, dense.
There are, however, people who never do that. Who don't even have significant relationships. They are light, free.
But, in many ways, without meaning.

What am I trying to say?
If you are turning down this opportunity because it will prevent you from being able to live up to your responsibilities, like taking care of your kids, then this is the unfortunate side effect of chosing to matter.
But you want to consider, will this opportunity keep you from living up to that? Or will it just change things?

HOWEVER, if you are letting this pass you by because you like having lots of stuff, well, there I think you are making a mistake.


In short, there are things we can not, in good conscience, abandon. And others we just are afraid to abandon.

Which is it?

 

[PutterBoy]

Well said Vail

Choosing what you "want" versus choosing what you "need" versus choosing what you "must do" pretty much sums it up. Thanks for boiling it down (at least for me).

 

[dkak001]

I am reminded of Milan Kundera's 'Unbearable Lightness Of Being' and 'Immortality'.
We go through life, and we acquire things, we acquire people, we acquire responsibilities.
In this way, we become heavy, dense.
There are, however, people who never do that. Who don't even have significant relationships. They are light, free.
But, in many ways, without meaning.

What am I trying to say?
If you are turning down this opportunity because it will prevent you from being able to live up to your responsibilities, like taking care of your kids, then this is the unfortunate side effect of chosing to matter.
But you want to consider, will this opportunity keep you from living up to that? Or will it just change things?

HOWEVER, if you are letting this pass you by because you like having lots of stuff, well, there I think you are making a mistake.


In short, there are things we can not, in good conscience, abandon. And others we just are afraid to abandon.

Which is it?

Choosing to matter is not the question being posed. I suppose as most Americans I own lots of stuff, but stuff is not the question here either. The question basically boils down having to make a decision that will alienate one set of acquaintances for another. In doing so, I choose to let an opportunity go, to keep one that I currently have. The latter being more valuable in terms of being intellectually satisfying, professionally more advantageous, and being fiscally more stable. The down side is letting a wonderful opportunity pass me by...

Again the decision was made before the first post. It was an easy decision to make, yet for a short while agonizing once it had been made.

-Dan

P.S. Interesting points of view. PM if you'd like.

 

[silkybiblue]

totally understand, i too have a perfect life, i have had several offers to act on my sexual fantasies, found someone who would do it all and then some, but hurting my family is not worth it ..some say that just hurts yourself and therefore impacts those around us as we are not being true to ourselves, very valid point, haven't figured out a way around it yet and I am not so sure i should, points to ponder, i was told many years ago that if something is meant to be it will happen, i think she was right, time will tell if i am supposed to act on those desires or not...