Have you changed your values

[Cath!]

over the last few years? Or maybe values isn't the right word.

For example, when I got married 13.5 years ago, I wanted to be the traditional stay-at-home mom and NEVER go back to work...my life was going to be my kids and cleaning and cooking, etc. Then about 2 years ago, I decided that I didn't want to JUST be the mom...I wanted to be an individual too. So I went to school and back to work. It is a lot more work juggling both jobs (mom and working woman), but I am a happier individual, too.

 

[Xander]

All the time...for the greater purpose of..........ME!

 

[alltherage]

My values evolve and become clearer to me with the passage of time. They are the same but less nebulous and now I have the knowledge to persue them. The biggest change in my life is lowering the number of people whose opinions about me truely matter to me. As that number declines I find myself free to persue my goals.

 

[nasty]

I used to value my isolation. Now, I NEED to get out, or, go fucking CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!! Um...nevermind. I'm there. To be completely fair, though, I still value my down time.

 

[La Huesera]

Before I was married I "went out" with two married men. I always felt that I was doing nothing wrong, because I was not the one married. I am not sure if its because I am older now..or if its because I now see what marriage really is..or should be... but if I were not married now, I would NEVER go out with another married man.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

over the last few years?

Sure have - the most recent example is how I have changed my attitudes about sexual and related issues since coming to Lit.

Also, over the last 5 years or so I have become a lot more relaxed with regards to dealing with people, life situations (employment, finances, etc.), taking risks and so on. I now worry a lot less about what is going to happen tomorrow and more about having fun today.

Getting older and realizing that you don't have that much time left to have fun or accomplish what you want to do, can have that effect.

 

[celiaKitten]

I now spend a hellovalot more time worrying about myself than about others.

Gotta watch my own back. I learned the hard way that no one else will do it for you.

 

[StondTmplPilot]

Yes, I believe so...

I think as I have matured, many things that I saw as black and white, I now see in shades of grey. I guess I learned to look at more than just one side of each coin, so to speak, as I have aged. I am much less apt to see only my view of things as I was before, and more open to exploring others opinions validity.

 

[MunchinMark]

I was a self opinionated dick only a few years ago.

Now I try to let people have their say, but I still have opinions that are strongly held.

Is that mellowing out a change of values? If it isn't then no.